I have a greivance to wage against internet users..................

@celticeagle (106610)
Boise, Idaho
November 3, 2009 5:12pm CST
I have had this ongoing situation that really bugs me. I will be asked for my IM information from someone I meet online, I give it to them and they IM me at some point or vice-versa. We chat and are having a nice conversation when they just up and leave. They are just suddenly gone with no Good night, bye for now, or anything! I find myself getting alittle hurt at times and even a little maddened by their lack of ettiquette and proper manners. Have you had this happen to you? Do you get a little put out by them or does it even bother you? Do you do this to others as well?
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@badevel (15)
8 Nov 09
I talk to lots of people on MSN etc. and I would never leave a convo in full flight without saying something unless I get called away by my mum. If that happens I ALWAYS apologise afterwards. Having said that, there are people that I would have an intermittent conversation with throughout the day/night and if the conversation had lapsed I wouldn't always say I was leaving to do something or log off. I think this kind of thing depends very much on the relationship you have with the person you are talking to. There are some people that I would never consider logging off on without saying something, and others that I know understand and do the same with me
@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Nov 09
Yes, perhaps the type of relationship you have does have to do with this, BUT, even then if you are just beginning a relationship with someone and they act this way then why would the relationship continue and on what basis? I wouldn't like someone that would treat me that way and I wouldn't put up with it for long. If they acted like it was no big deal then that would tell me alot about the person.
12 Nov 09
Again this depends, on what the other person is doing whilst they are talking with you. If they are at work, or at home with small children then they wouldn't always get the chance to give you the whole 'anyway, its been nice chatting with you but I have to run now. Hope to speak with you again soon' kind of thing. It also depends on the type of conversation you're having. I would never dream of logging off in the middle of a full blown conversation without saying anything and if someone did that to me, the first time I would assume they lost connection but if this continually happened and they don't have a connection problem then I would be seriously miffed. However, lots of my friends will just pop up to say/ask/show me something and this can happen several times a day. With the intermittent conversations I'm not bothered if someone logs off without saying goodbye, mostly I think because I know most of the people I talk to are doing several thngs at once whilst online and I know from experience how easy it is to get side tracked :p
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Nov 09
Ya, if you have something like that I wouldn't mind them logging off either. But, if you have set aside time and they have made the ovacher toward you then they should show more respect than that.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
3 Nov 09
My husband and I have a friend who we know personally. He has a mylot but hasn't done anything as of yet. I suppose that's beyond the point though. In any case, he will sometimes say night, but most of the time he'll just log off or be idle, sometimes even going to wal*mart. It doesn't hurt us so much as annoy us, but I thought I'd let you know that your not the only one who has experience in this. I always say, I'm going to be right back, or what now because it's only nice.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Nov 09
I appreciate that, Dear. I always do the same. I try to live by the Golden Rule and so I expect that in return. Not too much to ask either. I don't think it is anyway.--?
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
3 Nov 09
No it is not, I can understand if their im client had problems, I know AIM has those, but usually we'll sign back on, or since my husband and I talk to the same person in a chat, I'll have him say "she's having technical difficulties" or vice versa.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Nov 09
Well atleast it doesn't happen all the time.
@jugsjugs (13047)
3 Nov 09
That happened to me,but i have found that people that use their mobile phones to do im on tend to not have a strong enough signal therefore that makes it cut off until they can sign in again.That is the only time i have had a problem with it.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Nov 09
Well, I don't know much about the mobile phones and I have never texted before. I have just used mostly Yahoo and occasionally MSN. I used to use AOL too but haven't in months. Isn't it frustrating though?
@jugsjugs (13047)
3 Nov 09
I do tend to use msn on my mobile phone and the signal cuts out alot.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Nov 09
Interesting. Thanks.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I always say bbl I might not get back till the next day but that IS later
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Nov 09
Ya, I just really do not understand the lack of respect.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
4 Nov 09
me eitehr
@Hatley (145969)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Nov 09
celticeagle I am not much into chat rooms except for my diabetes chatroom. but I would be really angry if someone did that to me. that is a lot like talking with someone who just all of a sudden just up and leaves without saying goodbye, or I have to leave for another appointment or anything.that would really make me feel hurt. I have had that happen a few times and figured the person just did not have any fetching up as my grandpa would have said. bad manners all around. I never do that to people as I know that is very bad manners.It only takes a few minutes to explain that you must leave for some reason and then say goodbye.
@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Nov 09
Oh, I don't go into the chat rooms. I am talking about being invited to instant message with someone and then they just quit talking and are gone. It is alittle hurtful. I think it is bad manners and people just don't care now days and I really think they don't take people very seriously online either.
@JenInTN (27568)
• United States
5 Nov 09
It would really bug me too if that happened to me. I don't chat often but if I did and they were that rude, I might not bother with them again. It wouldn't break their fingers to type a simple good bye or good night. No way I would do it.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
EXACTLY! Such a simple thing to just say good night or I had to catch the phone or something.
• United States
5 Nov 09
CE- It used to really bother me when people did that, until when speaking to someone my internet cut out and I lost power. It took me a few to reboot, reconnect, and come back to chat. Needless to say they were angry, thought I was rude, and I realized that perhaps others may feel the same way when they suddenly leave online without so much as a good-bye and I am a bit cold toward them. Things occur in life that perhaps people have to suddenly leave their online conversations to handle. Perhaps a friend who had a child that needed sudden attention. Perhaps a cut internet connection. I do realize that some people online are just rude, but you are above those sorts of people. Don't let them fret you too much and enjoy those friends who do like speaking with you. Have a great rest of the week. Namaste-Anora
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
I do agree and I have thought of those reasons too. Several have even made comment later. It is just a pet peeve and I don't care for it much. I conduct myself in a certain way (the old golden rule thing) so I expect that of others. How your week end is a nice one.
• United States
4 Nov 09
IMs aren't like a phone conversation. I know when conversation lags I generally find myself going to find something else to do. But I usually say gotta go or something. If it's like right in the middle of the conversation, that's a bit rude but I usually attribute it to an internet disconnection or something. It's really no big deal, just one more thing to get upset about.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
And I suppose to alot of people it is no big deal and that in itself is irritating to me. People should care more and be more considerate.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
4 Nov 09
i understand eagle, has happened with me too and it certainly is a little irritating at times, i never do that with people i chat, i don't like to ends abruptly like that unless it is something really important and i let them know later, if i have to leave quickly i at least them know that i am very busy and get offline...
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
Yes! It doesn't take that long to be considerate of the other person. It really doesn't.
• India
4 Nov 09
I wouldn't take it seriously unless I'm close to the person I'm chatting with in some way. Maybe we've struck up a deep friendship. And even if they disappear, I'd think they got disconnected. This happens a lot you know. So best to be optimistic.
@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
Oh, I do look at most things optimistically but this is just a pet peeve of mine. I really dislike it. I would never do it someone and dislike it done to me.
@sid556 (31019)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I have not had that happen but yes...it would bother me. It is no different than ending a phone call by hanging up without a good bye or walking out of someone's home without saying goodbye. It is just plain rude. I can't even imagine doing that to someone. I'd call them on it the next time we talked.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
Sometimes we talked again and I did. But other times I haven't had that opportunity.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
Well, I no longer get hurt to these types of situations because they're online buddies, they're not real buddies. I have been an internet junkie a few years back and perhaps in those days I'd take the experience personally, but knowing these types of people, I no longer care. Which is why I don't try to get deeper relationships with people online anymore.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
Ya, the ones I know better and 'in reality' don't seem to be that way. It still is agrevating no matter whether just online friend or 'in reality'.
• United States
4 Nov 09
Oh yes! I hate when people do that! I always try to let the person I am chatting with know when I am leaving and sometimes the reason also. I try not to just leave with no goodbye or anything. It has happened before but it does not happen often with me. I love chatting. I will let the person I am chatting with know if something comes up and I have to leave out quickly and then follow up later to finish the conversation if we were not completely finished the time I had to leave. Jen aka Kittykat7983
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Nov 09
Really! I just don't think it takes that much to be respectful of other people!
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
4 Nov 09
Well that makes us humans, people tend to do harsh little things without even noticing it, people already hurt other people's feelings but for them it's nothing, they don't know that they already hurt you. Nobody is perfect cause we are humans, that are called mistakes, have you asked your self? have i done this before? definitely your answer will be no! but are you sure? are you 100% sure? I'm sure some noticed it but we don't, cause for us it is also normal, vice-versa for others it's the same. Remember some personalities that people have cannot be noticed by themselves, sometimes it needs other people for you to know what you have done or what are the not so good personalities you have. So don't get hurt it happens to everyone and even with your love ones. Try asking them someday what are the things that you've done to them that they really did not like and you did not even noticed that you've done such things. Just try, and sometimes you'll be shocked it's worst than you expected. Be happy because you feel a little hurt! it is a proof that you are still a human and can be hurt and commit mistakes anytime and anywhere. it's just my opinion but sometimes other told me i am right. ^^
@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Nov 09
Humans that can maybe do better and more consideration for others I am thinking.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
4 Nov 09
I feel sorry for you and your situation,and I can definitely relate to your situation about people being rude,and me and my wife talk to a friend that I found again after two years and we talk to him on AIM everyday,and he has a bad habit of stopping typing and then he will pop up and say I am back,and it is like why did you not tell me you were doing whatever you were doing,and there are times where he just signs off without saying anything and it can get really annoying,and sometimes I want to just reach through the IM and slap him lol.
@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Nov 09
Ya, I really think these people need a wake up call big time!!
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• United States
5 Nov 09
Yeah I agree big time,they all need to wake up and smell the coffee.
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@celticeagle (106610)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 09
Yes, indeed!
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• United States
27 Feb 10
that sort of things happen to me almost all of the time. sometimes it can be hard to find others that are truly polite even online. it can hurt at times but also you never will know what is really going on. chatting online and even offline it can be hard to communicate with others in a manorly way for some people at times. but its not always.
• United States
3 Dec 09
I've had that happen to me a couple of times too, thankfully not that often because yes, it does hurt a bit that they can't even manage to type the word 'bye' before they up and leave. I do admit that I get a little put off by them but I try not to take it too heart sometimes because it could just be a careless action on their part. I believe that I have done this to others before, but without my realizing it and a lot of the times, because my internet disconnects so much I can't continue on the conversation until quite a while after and by then, they don't really want to talk.