Do you think half year is enough for couples to get marry?

China
November 5, 2009 12:28am CST
Acturally I don't agree to get this serious decision in such short time. How can you make sure that you can understand and know well about each other in just half year? Are you confident enought to keep the relaship well in years in the future?Many couples are going to broke up becuase they don't have the good basic of relationship. Why? The main reason is, there was not enough time to know each other in the begining. So calm down and let the time to prove the love, don't let it be the game only.
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26 responses
@balasri (26577)
• India
15 Nov 09
It is definitely enough to get marriedBut it sure takes more time to live happily together.
@Staraven (160)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I definitely agree with you; I think that for *most* people, it would be unwise to make such a life-altering decision in such short time, unless you're okay with setting yourself up for a possible divorce. As I said - for *most* it would be a bad thing. I suppose there are some it has worked out for.
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
I don't think it's a good idea to marry the person you've just known for a short time. It would been better if you get together along well. Know each other deeper than physical before committing in marriage life.
6 Nov 09
let me share my experience. i met my husband in the 60's and within 2 weeks we were engaged. I was 18, he was 19. We got married exactly 20 weeks (thats 5 months)later. we started arranging our marriage quite soon after we got engaged, so when i say my first son was born 8 months after we got married, that wasnt the reason for the speedy nuptials. In fact my son was a fortnight early as i went rock climbing the day before he was born,,,but thats another story!!! we have been married 42 years, we have had lots of ups and even more downs, but we have stuck to our vows and are now going into our retirement years. Thats my experience of love and hasty marriage.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
In my views is that no number of years being carried out for a relationship being stay longer or no result after marriage. The number of time that a lovers count before they get marriage is not a big deal. But how people they can expressed their love makes that marriage being divine and respect that marriage is one of the basis here... So, I think it is depend upon the two person being in love on how they hold their relationship being stronger and warmer ever. Because time is only the span for us to live not the span for us to love...
@34momma (13918)
• United States
6 Nov 09
i think that is long enough. I think when you meet that right person, and you both feel it's right. 6 months is long enough to want to get married. I say go for it.
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
6 Nov 09
marriage and divorce - people should calm down and let the time to prove the love.
When it comes to the relationship between marriage and time, I can't agree with you anymore. It is really a serious decision to get married in such a short time. You see, if people get married in such short time, it is obvious that they don't have enough time to get familiar with each other. Such a relationship is not steady and they may tend to get divorced someday after the impulse. So, in such a so called society, the rate of divorce is increasing year by year. As you have said above, people should calm down and let the time to prove the love. If people are familiar with each other, they will get married sooner or later.
@rdaradjat (132)
• Indonesia
6 Nov 09
In my opinion, it does not matter how long the relationship is until they get married. One month, two months, etc, are the same for the couple who have known each other for one year. Half year is enough, even less than that period. I have seen many couples who have known each other only for 3 months, then they get married, and they are happy.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I do not think just because you only knew someone for 6 months and then got married you will get divorce. My husband and I only new each other for 6 months when we got married and we have now been together for 34 years. I think it all depends on the couple who is getting married not the amount of time they have know each other.
@ally12 (1205)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
For me marriage is a constant journey in life.I believe no matter how long you have been together you still cant perfectly know your partner.So for me its not the matter of how long you know your partner but how you exactly know yourself to be perfect for your partner.That no matter what comes ahead on your journey, you know very well to yourself that you are willing to give all your best to keep your vows.
@youless (84744)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Nov 09
It depends on. Sometimes even two lovers will break up after having the relationship for many years. Sometimes getting marriage is from the passion. If two person can be considerate and think about each other more than themselves, then the marriage will last for a long time. I love China
@zzyw87 (1260)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I agree with you. I also don't think couples should get married in such a short period of time like 6 months. It is too short a duration. For me, the minimum time to get married is when you have been together for at least two years. By then, the couple would have gotten to know each other a lot. I think that kind amount of time will also determine if both of you are right for each other. What if in two years's time, you don't love each other anymore or things just are not the same anymore or you just drifted apart? At least, you did not get married before you figured that out.
@hunieby (207)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
I think it's a big risk. I've know a lot of couples who got married after a short time who are having problems. Either they separated or the marriage is on the rocks. Mostly because they did not take the time to get to know each other well and were very impulsive and jumped into it only to realize that they regret their decisions later. Ofcourse, there are lucky ones whose marriage are going great.It's a mutual decision of the two people to make it work.
• India
5 Nov 09
According to me it depends from person to person because its their life and if they are compatible to each other than they should marry each other.Normally six months is more than enough to know each other.
@jemaries (322)
• Saudi Arabia
5 Nov 09
actually it doesnt matter the year if you wanted to get marry unless you love each other.SOme people they almost 10 years in relationship but not yet married because of too long relationship it ends to separation.It doesnt matter how long the courtship happened because you will never know the person unless you are not together,And there are succesful stories of short relationship than couple of years of relationship
• United States
5 Nov 09
NO! A half of a year is not enough. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and we still aren't ready for a commitment. I am still in college and trying to get a stable career, and his is still working on his certification for computers both repair and web design. It is okay to wait. I would say to wait at least one year to a year and a half before thinking about a full commitment. Also, he may end up changing his mind, or she may end up changing her mind, and then realizing that this is the person that they do not want to be with.
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
Nope, I believe that getting married needs a lot of time to decide on. Experience first the different stages of a man and woman relationship, don't take things very quick, time is important and you will learn a lot from it. To know each other is not only knowing him/her in physical characteristics, family profile, or educational background, you should know someone by the problems or moments that you see each others personality, his/her bad attitude which all of us have and learn to accept it, understand each others feelings, and know what your hearts tell when your together. Happy mylotting!
@kush20006 (515)
• India
5 Nov 09
half year is like half second in a succesful marriage which represents the whole married life i think a person needs atleast a second to think and practice and know how he wants and what he wants
@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
5 Nov 09
I dont really understand the need to rush into marriage but personally, I dont think 6 months is enough time to get to know each other. So, I heard some people may have done it but the divorce rate of rush weddings are high. Marriage doesn't guarantee that you'll be together forever. It's just something that binds two people legally.
@yarex308 (37)
• Poland
5 Nov 09
Hello .If they realy in love then why not .Some times couples need less time to get may.