Have u ever felt hating someone but u dont know why??

Hate! - I hate you!
@simonelee (2718)
China
November 5, 2009 10:56pm CST
Have you encountered this feeling before? A feeling of hating someone even if she/he did nothing wrong to you? Sometimes when you see her/him it irritates you? All you see to that person is all negative? All he/she did are wrong? a feeling of not liking the person? Sometimes, I do feel this. I can't explain why I'm feeling this way. All about this person ruin my mood but I do control my self as much as i can.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
6 Nov 09
hi dear simone. nice discussion. me, yes various times. some people irritate me by their looks or behiviors. they like itches in underarm, hahaha........ i know why it happens to us. thanks
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@simonelee (2718)
• China
6 Nov 09
Hi, Shibham. Good to see you here. you know why it happens? why? They not only irritate us but the feeling is like killing us. Are you irritated also to the guy who's a campus crush way back in your college life? the one got the teaching?
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Wow that is a cruel way to say. It itches in the underarm. Well, we can't really blame other people for us to hate them. I think that it is really a mystery on why we hate people for a less reason or for no reason at all. Ironic, isn't it?
@simonelee (2718)
• China
7 Nov 09
A fungal infection in armpit. That's really itchy.
@athomice (396)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Yes I did many times. I think what happened to me is like instict. I don't know why that everytime I felt that way to a certain person, that person will do no good to me or to other people. It never fails to happened, I remember one person that evertime I see his face I was so furious. Then suddenly a scandal broke in the media that this man is corrupt in his depertment. Then I said to myself maybe this is the reason why I hate him so much.
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@simonelee (2718)
• China
6 Nov 09
Oh. So, you have good friends. You know how to pick good from bad. well, at least you know the reasons behind why you hated the person so much. In my case i don't know i hate them so. I'm not sure if it's physical appearance, character, or attitude. My blood boils when i get to bump at them or even hear/mentioned their names.
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
That is a very good instinct you got there.I really do not have that kind of instinct because the person I dislike turn out to be a very good friend and the ones I welcome turned their backs on me. Well, that's life.
@athomice (396)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Yes I have some good friends, we've been through ups and downs. Yes it's quite a good intsinct but unfortunately I'm still not good in using it. I hope one day I'm able to use it more often. Because I know this kind of instinct can do more good for me and for people around me.
@sandymay16 (1619)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Yes, I have this weird feeling. It's weird because this person I don't like has done nothing wrong to me directly but everytime I meet her or in the same room with her my day would be ruined. It's been ages ago like I was still fresh out of college when I started not to like her and now I'm in my 30's and I met her again just this year and the feeling is still there LOL I have shared this to other people and they also have the same feeling but slightly milder than what I'm feeling. Hmmm, maybe it's really her and not me.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
6 Nov 09
Did she know that you don't like her? Did she notice your reaction when you saw her?lol Maybe because in your past life you two are enemies? unresolved issues?Not sure about this thng But i do believe in reincarnation. I thought I was the only one experiencing this weird feeling. Thank you for sharing, sandymay.
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
That is really weird. I think it is because of the face. I also have this friend that everytime she looks or spotted this guy she'll turn hot heat and burst into anger and rage. I really do not understand her. The guy did not do something wrong or she is in love with the guy. It is just that they don't seem to have a good connection.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
7 Nov 09
Hi,marctui. Maybe you friend has a hot feeling towards the guy? and the guy is keep ignoring her or not showing any interest that he likes her? Or maybe she find the guy arrogant and too confident of his look? I met several people like him and i feel the same.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
hahaha...yes yes my friend! i always feel this way to some people around me...haha even when i am still young! and i find it really strange to feel this way to someone who do nothing to us! haha right now, there are some that really irritates me, yes, whenever i saw her face or even hear her voice...waaah! she get's into my nerves! haha its crazy coz she's not doing anything wrong to me, actually she tries to be nice to me always... maybe because i just don't like her face? haha and i find her voice so irritating specially when she's laughing! i don't know. and there's also another one that i feel irritated whenever i saw her....coz i feel like her boastfulness is bigger than her! huh!
@simonelee (2718)
• China
7 Nov 09
Her face?loca! "the nerve!" Is she connected to you? how do you react if she's around? have you tried making friends with her? hahahha hating someone who done nothing to us is kinda weird feeling. Your so, so funny. love it! go gurl.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
well, no choice! i have to be friend to her coz im seeing her everyday...haha & she's my husband's secretary ( but don't worry she's on her 40's already!) haha what i just don't like is that she's not acting on her age...haha when she's around? i choose to stay away from her...or i just limit my talk to her..and sometimes, i think i'm kinda 'plastic' haha well, its just fair coz i think she's also 'plastic'
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
6 Nov 09
I have at times had a feeling of discomfort or dislike towards certain people for no apparent reason. I wouldn’t go as far as to say it is hate but the negative feeling I have at times is not easy to explain. The person may be perfectly nice and polite and have not done anything negative to me. I believe that there is chemistry between people and it can be very positive and draw individuals together or it can have the opposite effect. Go figure.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
6 Nov 09
well, some of them been nice to me but I just can't really understand the feeling of not liking them. Maybe your right, It's all about the chemistry of two people. I just hope that this feeling will not worsen. I don't want him/her to be my stressor.lol Thank you so much, paula.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
6 Nov 09
I think that some people are just not meant to be close to us that's all. I don't worry about it unless someone is being nasty to me.
• United States
6 Nov 09
Wow Hate is a strong word.. I have never ran into anyone like that nor have I had that feeling. I generally like people and look at the best in someone and not the worse. So I've never came across a person that I generally didn't like, and I talk to everyone I come in contact with. Now I've come across some people who will irritate me to the point I just want to walk away from them, lol. But I don't hate them sorry I couldn't be of any help.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
6 Nov 09
am I being harsh?lol It's what i feel every time i get to bumped at them nor heard their names. well, we have different views and experience though. I often walk away but i can't really hide my feelings towards that person.hahahhahah
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Hi! Simonelee! Nice discussion! Hmmm... Yes i felt that sometimes especially when the person look like he/she will not do anything good. Sometimes if i saw people that looks like a burglar it really piss me off! Then sometimes i felt really angry when i see people who are very loud on the streets or very insensitive person who just passed by it front of you almost hit you without saying sorry. They really pissed me! Anyway still need to control my temper. LOL!!! Two thumbs up for the topic!
• Indonesia
6 Nov 09
Yeah i felt that kind of feeling too, i think everybody does, maybe it's a body chemistry thing, or maybe something happens between us in our past lives, he he he.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
6 Nov 09
hello, darmakawasa. I agree. Sometimes this strange feeling is associated with our previous lives, a conflict or unresolved issues? I'm wondering now what kind of life i do have century ago. Chemistry? well, yes. Thank you for dropping by!
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Theirs two explanation to that, that I can give. First its remind you of person who you know and hurt you..that why when you see that person you hate him to. Even she don't do anything bad to you. Second you see your self to her or him..Sometimes we don't realize it but theirs a think that we also hate about our self..And if we see that to other person we hate that to. What do you feel if you bought your favorite dress and wear it to our office and our office mate also wear same dress as you..what do you feel? ......... other explanation is that you like him.. They say the more you hate the more you love.. Maybe theirs something in that person that you like but unconsciously you know that you can't have it..lolz.. ...... So if you can't find what you hate about that person..ask your self what you like about that person..If you can have answer to that..I smell. trouble..lolz
10 Nov 09
i got the feeling before..
@colu41 (273)
• United States
6 Nov 09
omg....I absolutely feel this...At work especially. Not to get into detail but there is this one woman that works with that, I really don't even talk to, but just the way she acts, and moves irritates me. I guess yes, maybe she is a little messed up in the head AND annoying. I once turned and looked at her and she was standing facing everyone sniffing a sharpie marker...kind of strange but yes, I dont really know how to explain the feeling...
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
6 Nov 09
Sometimes we meet a person and there is instantly something that does not jive with you. There is just something about this person that rubs you the wrong way. For some people, they are able to get past this while with others, it just eats away at any possibility of friendship. Sometimes our first impression is the strongest one. It is ine that often follows the truest path.
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Well, hating is such a strong word. i do hate things, situation or even people but i have reasons for it and identify the culprit. While hating someone you don not know spring from a gut feel bad feeling especially if you really displease with the person appearance or his personality although you never get acquainted with him personally. It falls under a guise of being a judgemental person when you do not seem to get the real reasons and you have those feelings which sometimes like a woman instinct. You see and could feel the aura of this person is not going to be good with full of suspicious remarks. And, end up proving your gut feel as the person whom you hate turn out to be a real nasty fellow whom you could never trust.
@anneshirley (1517)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
One of the characteristics that I have is being a good judge of character ofotnproud with it but because of it, I find it hard befriending other people even if I want to. My profession taught me how to judge other people's characters and to know if they have good intentions or not. There are times when I look at people and I will tell myself, "I don't like him/her" because of this, it ruins the chance of me befriending him/her. I have a colleague from other department whom I met very rarely but every time I meet her, I don't feel good about her and I think the feeling is mutual because she doesn't talk to me also. There is really no reason why I should hate her but whenever we have to talk, I just try to be civil but I will never take any first step to befriend her.
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Yes, many times. People tend to be judgmental. We may have preconceived notions of a person even if we haven't talked to them. It's because we judge and conclude others based on their appearance, aura and how they carry themselves. Impression is part of our physiological response because it's a way of telling us something may cause danger though oftentimes not true. First impressions don't always lot so I have managed to be less judgmental than before.
• Israel
6 Nov 09
i used to hate someone who has done nothing to me... don't know why i just get irritated every time i see her... maybe because she's a lesbian... but i have friends whose also a lesbian.... i just hate her for no reasons.
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Yes, I've experienced this and it's quite frustrating. First, because I don't really understand why I'm feeling that way, and second, because it's so hard to control myself. Although I don't show this strange hatred to that person, it seems like my mind won't stop thinking of bad things about him/her. I criticize their every move and I laugh (in my head) whenever they make mistakes. And when I see that person laughing or having fun, it makes me mad. It's scary. I'm not generally a bad person, so it's alarming that I could feel this way.
• India
6 Nov 09
Oh yes, I have had that feeling quite a few times. I cant exactly put my finger on it, but there’s something about some people which makes them very irritating to look at. I don’t even know them too well but I just don’t want to interact with them. However, I have seen that those people are disliked not without any reason altogether. . its either their attitude or their conduct or their high-handedness or meanness, or unfriendly nature … something in them which reflects in their face and warns others
@peace001 (727)
• China
6 Nov 09
yeah,it happens several times.maybe it is destiny that someone will be your friends there is no reason and others will be your stranger even you are always meet each other.and i donot pretend i like somebody but in fact i don't not like him at all.i always follow my inner voice and do the things i want to do.best wishes