My saddest and hateful moment

Philippines
November 6, 2009 7:26pm CST
During my highschool, my parents hit me at one certain time, not only that they injured me physically but my heart was so deeply wounded. I know they avoid talking about it because they know they were wrong. I forgave them, i want to believe i truly forgive them but the pain is still there and every time the experience crossed my mind i can't avoid crying. It's so painful.
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9 responses
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
7 Nov 09
i think hitting is a bad method to educate our children.though every parent knows that.sometimes they couldn't help doing that.may be they are too angery to their children.they would regret after that.i think to understand each other is a best way to solve the problem.children should understand their parents,they eager that their children could be excellent.parents should appologize to their children for their wrong beating.it's not a shame to appologize.
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• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Hi there, thanks for your response. You are right i believe. We all make mistakes, children and parents alike. It is always good to talk about the problems or the situations and asking for apology will lighten up the situation. The problem is i cant talk to my mother about it because either she won't take me seriously or she will just get angry. I love her but sometime i feel that i hate her.
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@zhouxi (1756)
• China
7 Nov 09
don't hate her.no one love you so much like your mother.
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• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Well, it's just a feeling, it will pass. Besides, i believe that there was a misunderstanding only.:)
@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
7 Nov 09
Hi jesse I know that will be something that you will carry with you for a long time. You have to get it out of your system or it can carry you down. Try to go someplace where there is no one around and just start talking out loud about how you feel about it. I think this will help you to get over it and maybe have a real feeling of forgiveness to your parents. You take care of yourself and I will thinking of you in this painful time. Keep me updated on the outcome of this. Hold your head high and keep smiling my friend.
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Hi there friend, I did my best to let go of it, but last week when i went to a vacation to my grandparent's place it was talked about and my uncles asked me what happened back then because they were not enlightened of what truly happened. When i was about to tell them the details, i was not able to hold back my tears. I realized i was wrong because i thought i was able to let go of it but i was not. I was angry again. i was reminded of the maltreatment i got even if God knows i didn't do any wrong. just imagine they hit me without even asking if what really happened. So sad. I just hope that parents will be more reasonable in their dealings with their children.
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• United States
8 Nov 09
jesse You really need to try and get it out of your system somehow or another. I really do know how you feel and I know with the years that has passed I still have those tear moments. To be honest with you, I think the love that you have for him will always cause some tears ever now and then. Don't beat yourself up over the tears, it will get easier with time and letting out the inside hurt you have. I will be here for you if you need anything or someone to talk to.
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Thanks a lot Rose. God bless you for being nice.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
7 Nov 09
hi jesseverette.. as you say your parents avoid talking about it coz they know they were wrong, i guess your parents feel too guilty about it and i think that is keeping them from actually apologizing to you, they probably have done one the biggest mistakes, something they assumed much more than what actually happened and they might have realized that later on after letting their frustration out on you.. i am sorry this is not exactly a suggestion but don't take it so much to your heart if your parents also feel bad about it, coz they also are feeling guilty and they know it was a misunderstanding and you didn't deserve to be treated like that..
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
hi there, Thanks a lot for giving your view. You maybe right and i hope you are right my friend.Thanks again.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
7 Nov 09
sometimes parents mistake in understanding things jesseverette, and when they know they have done something terribly wrong they hesitate from discussing the issue because they don't exactly know how their children will react to it, even they feel very bad about it..
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
hello voldrox, Thanks a lot, i hope you are correct that they feel guilty. How i wish I know what they are thinking, they could have at least tell me about it because the pain won't just slip away.
• India
7 Nov 09
so sad. hitting the child is too bad thing.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
I believe so too. When it's our time to be parents, we have to do our best, not to hit our children, especially when we don't have a good basis.God bless you.
@anning (88)
• China
7 Nov 09
the scar have been left in your mind and you can do nothing to erase it whatever you try but you can try to forget it and do not think it at all.time can cure all the pain of heart.
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Hello, i believe you are right, time will heal wounds, especially wound inflicted in the heart. :)
@moorange (319)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Well that's too harsh if your parents have hit you and it's really painful to think about it (especially if it left a physical mark on what they've done) even if years gone by and you know even that your parents were sorry for that and that's why they avoid talking about it. Pain inflicted by our loved ones are hard to ease... Hao!
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Thanks Hao, i just hope that things will be better for all of us.:)
@andy555 (216)
• China
7 Nov 09
When i was young, my parents would hit me if i made the same mistake over and over again. They would told me not to make the mistake again when i made it the first time. But if i ignored and made again, they would apply beat to me. Though it was so painful ,it did work better than lecture. I would never make that mistake but make progress becuase the pain would haunt in my mind when i was about to make that mistake. So i believe sometimes it is true about the saying that spare your rod and spoil your child. So just think about for what reason your parent hit you. If it is your mistakes, just remember it and learn from it. Let it be a reminder to you to avoid the mistakes in future and you can make progress.
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Hi there, well you have a point there. But that is different from my case.
@bird123 (10346)
• United States
7 Nov 09
You might have forgiven them but that doesn't get rid of the feeling that they do not love you. The only place you can get that is interaction with your parents. Communication is key in any relationship.If mom gets angry, tell her if she loves you she will attend an anger management class. If they were angry enough to hurt you physically then they are the ones who need help. Perhaps, you will help them fix their problem. This one will take some drama but insist on more than you just forgive them. More is needed.If you are physically injured again, call the police. Know that sometimes drama is needed. With drama comes resolution.You are special. Special people are needed to help others see. You might think that parents are the ones doing all the teaching but lots of wonderful kids teach parents everyday.
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
hi there bird 123. Thanks a lot. You are right, communication is very powerful that most things are settled through peaceful communication. What concerns me is that my mom's nature is very defensive, that's how i know her. So mostly every time i try to talk to her about something that i do not like in her she tends to raise her voice. I don't like situations like that that's why i keep that saddest feeling to myself. But now here in mylot, i was able to open up. I know you are right, but it is hard to do. Maybe i should gather my courage to be able to talk to them straight from the heart.
• China
7 Nov 09
Hi jesseverette,I understand fully how you feel,everyone wants to have a good and happy growth experience.I know it's painful that your parents hit you,but we have to know that many guys were hit by their parents,so it is with me,we have to believe our parents are the people who love me best in this world.Nothing is perfect,including love.fogive your parents,no person could have no fault,maybe nobody can insure that they will never hit their kids.