Hard to concentrate?

@skaterx (530)
Finland
November 7, 2009 2:44pm CST
I feel like there are heaps of things to do in my life, both many things to fix, and many ways I need to move forward. But its exhausting seeing the mess, and exhausting saying no to people. I live far away from the centre, and a skipped my friends band gig tonight, i would have really liked to go, but ended up feeling really much like i didnt want to move from my house. Do you have problems doing things also? And what are some ways to solve it?
5 responses
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
12 Nov 09
When I get into phases like this, I try to take each day one hour at a time. I will start out with a list of 3 things to do, even if they are tiny things, and just focus on getting those 3 things done in a day. After a while, I can move back into being more productive and doing more things, but sometimes the list consists of: make breakfast. Wash dishes. That sort of things. Just pick 3 little things a day, and do those. After a while, everything else will seem more manageable.
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
12 Nov 09
Yeah actually i have a similar method, i split into hours the day, and write it on a time line what im doing. but I do maybe 2 things an hour, or depending on how small the task is, i just split it up.
@patgalca (14133)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Nov 09
I am in a situation right now where I feel overwhelmed. I spend a lot of time doing for my family members (two teenage daughters, husband). I get too exhausted and stressed to do anything for myself. I should be writing/editing but can't be bothered. I was seeing a therapist who put together a woman's group. She gives us homework (asks a pertinent question we must write an answer to) and we read it aloud the next week. What I have found with this group is that we are all feeling overwhelmed. We are all unhappy with some aspect of our lives. As one woman said, "I realized I'm not so bad compared to others." It helps to be with people who are having trouble too because you can talk to each other. I find my friends have cut me off because they are tired of me dumping on them. My reaction to all the stresses is to just not do anything at all. Not sure if that is right. I'll find that out next week (Monday). LOL! Life is tough for everyone right now. I think mothers have it pretty hard being pulled in so many different directions.
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
8 Nov 09
Yeah, I think its very common for women to feel overwhelmed. We have so much to do. Alot of us have family and children, or husbands and bfs. And it feels like when people need us, we need to be kind and giving. But theres only so much time we have, and its hard to have time to work on our own things!
@ehsanji (503)
• Pakistan
10 Nov 09
We are humans and we are like machines of some big complex organs and emotions are filled into us with these different mindsets. We do feel differently. I sometime feel so happy for no freaking reason and sometime so sad. It all depends on the circumstances I guess. We are tied to social and economical issues and these things are taking us away from the God. So God stops giving us attention. As God says, "You come 1 step forward toward me, I'll come 5 steps forward toward you". All we need is to be religious to the extent we can, remember Allah, worship him and ask for his help. He is the creator and he controls everything. He can make us happy and he can make us sad, separated, alone, destroyed; anything he wants. Trust me, the satisfaction in life comes when you are close to your God and when he is happy with you when you are doing what he asks you to.
• United States
8 Nov 09
Sometimes I have problems getting simple tasks done because of exhaustion or just being bored with life. One way to deal with it is to do at least a little of what you have to do before sleeping or relaxing. For instance, if you have schoolwork to do, then make it a point to study the chapter you need to or write some of the paper you've been assigned before going to sleep. Or if you have to clean your house, then at least do a small part (like doing all the dishes) before sitting down to watch television. Sometimes you'll get energized by just starting something and you'll get a lot more done than you planned to when you started. When you feel like not doing anything, just remind yourself that you'll feel better later if you get mundane tasks done now. As far as the socializing with friends goes, just set aside one day of the week and tell yourself you have to get out of your house on that day for at least an hour, even if you don't feel like it. By staying alone in your house you're only going to feel more sad and bored. If you get out and spend some time with people, even if you don't want to at first, you might end up having a little fun. Sometimes all you need to do is get started doing something. If you start getting ready to go out, then you might find you feel better than when you were sitting on your couch dreading the night. Or if you start cleaning your house even though your tired, you might find that you have more energy than you thought.
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
7 Nov 09
I've felt like this for the past year and a half. Which means i've essentially wasted it. I stopped going into school, and everything. So.. i'm trying to sort it out right now. But sometimes i just feel so demotivated i hardly want to crawl out of bed in the morning.