Was there any situation in your life when you felt life had been unfair to you?

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
November 8, 2009 6:55pm CST
Hmm.. I could recall after finishing college with good grades and all, and not being able to get a job. It was depressing, all of my friends had gotten good jobs and there I was still searching for something. It really took a huge toll on my self-esteem, I had always asked "What was in them that wasn't in me?", we had joined each other in applying for companies but I was the one that wasn't given the job several times! I really felt life had been unfair to me when I didn't do anything to provoke it. There have been a lot of times though, when I felt life was unfair, but it seems that when I give up, something comes up. It's really weird. Perhaps it's saying "Life is not unfair, you are just too impatient to wait!" hehe.. How about you? Was there any situation where you felt life has been unfair to you?
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@feodda (579)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
It happens many times in my life. There are things I have questioned why this happens to me and why life is do unfair. I get many depression and frustration in life. Hoping and never gives up with life. When I was in my college days, I have this very easy subject but I failed. I get high scores and pass all the requirements. But I have failed because my teacher don't like me because her crush was my suitor. That guy always picks me up and we always go along. I never knew that she likes that guy because she was married. But she failed me because of it. There are some teachers are very unpredictable. It is unfair to my part, especially the basis are my scores I got, I have high scores. When I got my second job, I have experience some envious office mates. They do all they can so that I could be kick out from my job. I have many task than they do and I do it efficiently. They make stories so that I could be kick out. Life is really that unfair. With my last boyfriend, It is also unfair. He hurt me a lot and makes lies just to cover up his affair. But there are no lies that can't be hide forever. Until such a point he told me that he has an affair with that girl. My life was in a circus. Never knew what life is ahead of me. There are many uncertainties and doubt in looking forward in life. Having experiencing many downs in life, treated unfairly. But I am trying to stand up from all the failures I have in life. Starting to have a new life. And to boost my self-esteem.
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@junmae (1592)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
i also felt that in many times where i also feel that life doesnt seems fair to me. I always have questions in my mind why and why these things are not going in my way. i guess that there are really things that are not meant to be there are things that really meant for me. i think it will come in the right place at the right time.
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@msedge (4012)
• United States
9 Nov 09
life - life is full of ups and down.
I felt that way alot of times.I would say why some are rich and i am poor.Why some never have problems and i had alot.So many whys then i concluded that life has been unfair to me.I maybe had alot of struggles than everybody but still later on i realized how God loves me.How those suferings help me to become a better person.Life is just ups and downs.Its part of our daily lives..
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
..several times.. however, I realized later that it wasn't really unfair.. It's just that, God has other and better plan for me.. Sometimes, I think life if unfair when I easily judge the situations that come into my life.. I usually think other people are luckier than me.. but then, later, I also realized that everybody envy somethings from other people.. no life on earth is actually perfect..
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@spalladino (17926)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Yes, as my first marriage was falling apart. We married right out of high school after dating for two years and we got along great for the first year and a half. Then he met a group of wacko's who belonged to an interfaith church and it went quickly downhill from there. He was completely taken in and I tried to like this group but they didn't recognize any of the organized religions and I took offense every time they insulted the Catholic church. At one point they wanted me to denounce my religion and that's when the battle lines were drawn and the marriage became an empty shell. I left a few months later and divorced him the following year. I was very angry for awhile...at him and at God. But, I traveled a different road because that marriage broke up and wouldn't be where I am today if it hadn't.
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@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
9 Nov 09
In many instances I've felt that some things in my life have been very unfair but then again, well, what can I do? Those are things that I can't control so I just had to accept things as they come and make the best out of it. It's easier said than done, really, but there is no other choice. It's easier to live life with a lot less moping about so I try my best not to stress over the how, what and why of things and get on with life.
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• China
11 Nov 09
Work harder and earn more,god will not bless one just yelling without doing his best.You will win nothing,if you just yelling at the life,what's the important factor for a better life,do your best and not give up.
@maxie7 (23)
• Romania
9 Nov 09
I can't trully say i had any situation when i could say life was unfair to me. I consider myself a lucky person, even if i don't really have everything i need or wish I'd have. but I was never hardly injured or badly sick, i never sit in a hospital and things like this. i have a normal life. of course bad things happened to me too, but I didn't fastly blaimed my life for that. I was an optimist in those sittuation and now everything is fine. you just have to thing clear, and don't get depressed :)
• United States
9 Nov 09
There were so many times in my life when I felt life was treating me unfair, especially in the field of athletics. Most of my life I played some sport or another. Sometimes I felt I was being looked over for this reason or that. The thing is I learned a great lesson from these situations. The times I used it to fuel my work habits and train harder, I actually became a better player. So, I guess being looked over or feeling like life has treated you unfair, can be a motivating factor and help you to try harder to reach your goals.
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
9 Nov 09
Life is no fair - Life is no fair and we have to learn to get used to it.

At the same time, the best way to face these unfair situations is to work hard instead of being complaint about the unfairness.
I guess most people may have met such situations before. In fact, I have met such unfair situations for many times. Life is no fair and we have to learn to get used to it. At first, it is obvious that we will meet these unfair things sooner or later. But even if we have prepared to face such annoying situations with enough counage, we will feel despaired and bother the world. You see, everytime when I meet such a so bad situation, then I will lose my confidence to continue my work for a while, but I know well that it is a waste of time if one is in pain all the time. In my opinion, the best way to face these unfair situations is to work hard instead of being complaint about the unfairness.
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
9 Nov 09
yes, when i worked my tail off at a job and really cleaned up their billing dept and got the accounts receivable way down and then they turned around 7 years later and slapped me in the face by believing all kinds of rumors one jealous co-worker started. i wound up quitting after putting up with the harrassment for 8 whole months so i felt it was very unfair. the co-worker who stabbed me in the back passed away this summer so i guess her antics did not get her very far in life.
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
There have been so many instances I felt completely useless. My self-confidence was down, my relationship with other people greatly suffered. There was a big gap between vision and reality. I didn't lower my vision, but raised my reality.
9 Nov 09
sweetie,i also believe that life is unfair but what can we do about it?life goes on...and so our struggle to achieve something better goes on till we die.You need to do a catharsis of youself....maybe you are good in studies but you are shy.....shy people look underconfident while giving interviews.......or maybe you wdidnt prepare enough for the interview....how about getting some professional help to pepare your resume and preparing for the interview...hope u dont mind ....i am just trying to help.
• China
9 Nov 09
Hey. Really nice to talk about this question with you~ Cuz I have been thinking it many times. When I was in high school I'm proud of my all straight "A"s and I think it can prove me a good student and a good job in the future. At that time, I also try my best to study hard and get high scores to live up to the standard of being a so called "good student". But after I became a university student, I realize that great scores should not be the only standard to judge a person, there're some other things to prove the ability of a person.Maybe the notion that a good grades is equal to a good person or a good job has been stuck in our mind for years so you feel unfair when you don't get a good job with a good grade. I don't mean that you're not good, maybe it just because you have a relatively high expectaions. So I don't feel it unfair anymore. Of course not all things can be absolutely fair to everyone. I believe you 'll realize that and can finally get a perfect job. Sometimes we should face it, and never give up~ ^-^