happy but wrong or sad but right??

@janebeth (2034)
Philippines
November 10, 2009 1:31am CST
if you were to make the biggest decision in your life, would you rather be; "HAPPY BUT WRONG" OR "SAD BUT RIGHT"..?????????? PLEASE EXPLAIN YOUR ANSWER.. in my case i will choose sad but right, i don't want to be selfish.. and i know in the future there will be a chance for me to be happy with him, but the most important thing i know is that both of you are doing the right thing even if you are sad on the first place..
23 responses
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I choose happiness, I always put more value on happiness but of course it depends on the situation. But if the choice concerns love, then I would choose to be happy. Cheers!
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@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
what if you are in love with a guy but he is already married? but you are so happy with him, will you still continue or rather to be sad but right?
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
I think I'm not going to be happy when I know that I'm hurting someone in the process....
@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
that's my point my friend, so better to be sad in the first place knowing that you are doing the right one than being happy but you are doing the wrong one...
@owntuilp (422)
• China
10 Nov 09
this is a hard question i think so .but you had to give a choice under the situation u have face.in china we have a old words "the fish and bear hand we cant get both two,under the situation you had to give up one thing what would be not important than other.you dont tell so detail what u had face but whatever you will have a decide,i hope you can afford the responsiblity so that it would be not hurt other person close to u or relative.good luck.
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@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
yes it's realy a very hard question, you need to think wiser and be sure that you are making the right one, good for you and also good for others around you.. have a great day!!
@owntuilp (422)
• China
13 Nov 09
ye,we had to think over for that. i think you must get it .thank u firend. enjoy mylot
• India
10 Nov 09
You have not given any details so its not easy for me to say what I would prefer if I were in similar position. However, I hope you do understand that right and wrong are grey areas and depends on the individual’s interpretation of situations. Personally, I would always stick with sad but right coz my conscience wont let me rest in peace otherwise. Its only when my conscience gives me the go-ahead can I opt for happy but wrong.
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@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
i think sudip any situations can fit on this questions.. wether it's all because of love or money.. in this point i think this will be a wise decision to make, decision that is for lifetime...
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
i choose the sad but right because if i am happy but its wrong there is no peaceful and this people are happy but doing wrong things deep inside they still sad and worst is they can't sleep well at night.conscience is important to me..if you know what is right and follow the goodness and sure in the end you'll be happy.
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@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
yes i agree on you there amy, consience is all that matters. if you don't have it well it means you are not human,
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
10 Nov 09
i will also choose to be SAD BUT RIGHT rather than HAPPY BUT WRONG. but i think there is no reason to be sad when you are wrong and happy when you know you made the right decision. there are times that you will make the wrong decision and you will regret someday about that, so you will get sad. if you know you made the right decision, i am sure will you be happy and everybody will be happy too.
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@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
there are a lot of instances neil when talking about happy but wrong, for example, you have this guy whom you are very happy and completed you everyday but the wrong part of it is that the guy whom she love is a married one.. so that's why it ended up happy but wrong.!
@GaryJoule (216)
• China
10 Nov 09
I choose "sad but right". Since you mentioned "selfish", I think the happiness based on wrong selfish thing won't last long. Happiness will be gone soon. Taking the option of "sad but right" might be a hard decision, but it's good for others, more for you in the long run. You are a smart girl and I think you made a wise decision.
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@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
thank you Gary, and yes for me choosing this decision is very hard but i think it's the right one.. good for you and for others also..
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I would choose the sad but right as I decide to make it as the end results from something that I have to choose between evil and good things that may happen to me rather than be happy but wrong despite I achieve what i want, but deep inside of my mind I am under too much troubles and worries consume me most of my times. I may appear happy physically as what the other perceives but the truth i am crying inside and feeling guilty. That kind of happiness is empty full of deception and lies. I could say that I could not be completely happy knowing that I won to be admired by the society and their is someone who is suffering because of my victory. To make fair judgment I rather choose to be SAD BUT RIGHT rather than HAPPY BUT WRONG. As I think to balance all things is to be happy for something you did is right according to your conscience as happiness becomes bad when it is obtain in a wrong way and someone suffer because of greed, avarice, and extreme lies.
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@2babita (1074)
• India
10 Nov 09
Yes janebeth,i agree with you.I will also go for "SAD BUT RIGHT".Those who take this one day God give them lots of happiness.
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• India
10 Nov 09
il be sad but right cos that will lead you to ultimate happiness someday but if ur happy but wrong how much ever happy you are presently that is not real happiness its only fake so better to be sad but right
@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
thank you hithan for dropping by..
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Happiness is a choice. It doesn't have to conform with anything. Who can say what you are doing is right or wrong? But if you believe that you are doing something wrong and decided to make it right, then, why can't you be happy with it? It means,you are playing your role in life fairly and you'll be rewarded with happiness soon. And how can you truly say you are happy knowing you are doing something ain't right and when you are filled with guilt because of it? Unless you have no soul...
@wgnashze (28)
11 Nov 09
I'm guessing this has something to do with choosing to be the righteous one over being with someone who would really make you happy and a wrecker at the same time. For me it should be a two-way decision, if the other person would go against all odds (even if it meant being wrong) for your happiness together, maybe you should put on with the fight too. But if the other person would pick the "right" choice over you, then he isn't worth going through whatever the world will blame you for.
• United States
11 Nov 09
Wow, you sound like you are in a similar situation to me. I have chosen sad but right. To make the decision that would, right now, make me happy is wrong according to my faith, my family, and all of those things. But isn't doing the right thing for yourself sometimes right too? I don't know, but I feel I am doing the morally right thing right now, but I cannot imagine being happy again in this situation. The REAL right thing would have been to make different decisions in the beginning when I could still escape. But too late now. I believe in the concept of 'one day at a time' and doing the 'next right thing'. It is better than looking forward into your whole life and thinking you will always be unhappy. Its a way of having hope.
• United States
11 Nov 09
I would have to say that I would rather be happy but wrong. The reason I feel this way is because for one I do not like being sad and for two I really dont care about being right all the time. It's best to let some people be happy and right at the same time even if it makes me wrong!!
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
for me,i would rather choose sad but right.it's just because i would rather tell the truth that would make that someone sad or even cry that to tell a lie just to make that someone smile..i do have conscience and i felt guilt when i do such lies.
@solared (1210)
• United States
11 Nov 09
Be right, cause being happy but wrong is just sadness waiting to happen.
10 Nov 09
Hi janebeth, Its all depends on what decission you had made,but if what I'm thinking was your decission that you have made, well if its right for you but you are very sad, well in time you will know what was right and what was a wrong decission you had made, only you will know what your heart is telling you at the moment as you are thinking with your heart and not your head. I have made the best and the right decission in the past, but it did made me sad for a little while but it has all turn out right, but that was my life, you have to find your own and in every decissions you make in life, hopefully they are right, remember listen to your heart as well. Tamara
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Hello janebeth, Nice to see you back,but...i guess you were on the bridge hanging on a cliff(uhmmnn) Ok,for your question...i think it does depend on situation. In my case,i once choose "happy but wrong" I am happy becoz i choose the man i love...thu it was wrong becoz i had broken someones heart too(i was a run away bride...i guess you missed to response it,one of my topic) Now,after all what i have done,i realized one thing. Being happy is not the only main thing ...it should always be balanced. But sometimes we can't think what is wrong and what is right when we need to cross the bridge right infront of us...and we had no time to think..."shall we cross the bridge or shall we jump off the bridge?" There are instances in our lives that we need to decide without further thinking becoz of the time limit..or becoz,we are pressured by people around us...that they need our decision right from that moment.(impromptu) We maybe choose the wrong decision,but,it is not actually what we wanted to be. Or,we maybe we choose the right decision,but,still the result was not good as we expected it to be. There is always a generalization to every problem,and visualization for every outcome,hence,conclusion is yet to happen...!!!
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I have to choose happy but wrong. It's useless doing the right thing and ended yourself being miserable. I want to be happy as long I did not hurt anyone.
@oasis_9 (833)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I would choose being sad but doing the right thing. you can't truly happy if you know hat you are doing the wrong thing, at least i know i wont, My conscience would bother me. There's one saying that goes sometimes the truth hurts but it will set you free. Doing the right thing is always the right choice! not matter what it takes.
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Well, i dont think that one will be sad when she does the right thing. One common example is when you found a wallet full of money and you decided to return it to the owner. I think you will be sad for a while because for you that would be a big help already. But your goodness prevailed so you returned it to the rightful owner. Im sure you will be happy because you have done the right thing and God will bless you in ways only God knows.