how to be an effective boss

@calai618 (1781)
Philippines
November 10, 2009 2:17am CST
Is it better to be a friendly boss ang gain your workers' trust? sometimes too much friendship between the boss and the workers result to workers being not so productive. they know they can have their freedom to do tasks their way and that they will not be punished or laid off. Or is it better to be a strict boss and distance yourself from your workers? does developing your workers' fear on you cause better productivity? When they know you'll get angry if you notice them doing other things, will they become more focused or more rebellious?? What's your take on this? Which one are you or which one do you prefer, a friendly boss or a strict boss? Which is more effective and productive scenario?
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13 responses
@solared (1210)
• United States
11 Nov 09
if you are too friendly they will run all over you, if you are too strict they will hate you. So you have to be stern, but friendly, you have to lay down the rules, but also be open to ideas, and to be easy to talk to.
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
I have the same dilemna. Being too friendly can sometimes make it difficult to make hard decisions like delivering reprimand or even laying off people Being too strict can cause you too lose good and bad people alike. For me, I try to draw the line between being a pal and being a manager. At the office, I tell them to do work and I will do the same. So their expectation of me when we are in the office should be different than when we go out. If that is something they cannot differentiate then my default treatment to do will always be that of the office mask where I would distance myself and dwell with only very little small talk at times. I've only been a year managing people coming from a highly technical role so I'm still learning
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@maezee (33382)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Friendly but straight-forward when you have to be. I don't think bosses should ever lose their personality - and should never DISTANCE themselves from their employees. I also don't think that bosses should try to be your best friend rather than an authority figure. They really just need to find a balance between the two. It's tough, but being a manager in general is pretty tough to begin with. Right now, my boss is super sweet - almost TOO sweet, but will tell me straight up if I made a mistake. And I will usually fix it right on the spot. I don't make too many mistakes (I've been doing the same thing for about 2 years now), so it's not usually an issue. I really think that a boss DOES need to put his/her foot down, but should also be kind and interesting, and not just distant and.. mean.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I'm a firm believer of being decent to our workers to gain their trust for it will bring out the best in them as far as work goes. Being mean and nasty to them only causes resentment and thus lack of good work from them. The boss has to be firm and flexible at the same time and know when to use one or the other at the right time.
@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
11 Nov 09
It takes long time to lecture on effective leadership. Among other things, I believe a good leader must be first of all, Be clear about your mission, Assign tasks according to personalized advantages, Clearly express your requirements, Provide assistance when needed, Encouragement more than criticizism, and the latter preferably not in public. Etc.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Always treated my people fair but if they werent workin gI would get on to them. they knew better than to mess around on me as I would be off finding work for them to do. Hated not to be busy.
@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
10 Nov 09
I think it's good to relate to your staff and to be accessible. I have people who work under me and I do interact with them and try to be friendly to create a comfortable working environment. Of course, I ensure that they understand and know that when it comes to work, I expect things to get done. I think there is nothing wrong with being friendly provided that it is within reason. If you need to put your foot down, do so. If you need to assert yourself, do so if you are boss. I prefer a friendly boss because I find that it motivates staff. When you're strict, you scare people and they do things because they are scared and it's because it's their job, not really because it's in their heart to do so.
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I think its not bad to be a friendly boss, but you should put limits. When at work everyone should do their work. Maybe a boss does not have to be strict, only firm in his rules. If he say yes its really yes and if no its really no.
@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
10 Nov 09
I've had strict bosses & lenient bosses. Thinking back to them, I can honestly say I worked harder for the lenient bosses. I found it much easier to give my loyalties to the lenient bosses. When accepting a job, I commit myself to WORK!!! Fear does NOT make me work harder. Actually, fear will slow down my production as I'd be worrying about what the strict boss wanted taking my focus OFF the project I'm working on!!! However, the feeling of friendship makes it MUCH EASIER to give of my time & efforts. Knowing that a boss trusts me to do my work properly WITHOUT microsupervision gives me MORE of a desire to do my work even better!!! So, if I had to choose which boss I prefer, I opt for the more lenient of the two!!!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 09
When it comes to work we should act professionally to be more effective and to earn the staff respect. In the office there must be a barrier between peers and subordinates to be productive. Set certain rules to show that you are the boss and my word is my command and it should be honored well during working hours. After office hours we will treat each other as friends and no longer as boss and staff relationship.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
10 Nov 09
wHEN I WAS A BOSS I SET THE HIGHEST STANDARD FOR MYSELF & EXPECTED PEOPLE to do the same way.I didn't ask them to do anythin i didn't do myself.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I think it is best for a boss to be strict, firm and considerate. With these characteristics, I think employees can be more productive without having a feeling of oppression. They know they can rely on their boss to understand them, but at the same time, they cannot manipulate their boss nor become disrespectful. Moreover, I think it is also advisable that the boss and the employees must not be over familiar with each other. The former must always keep a certain distance. Have a nice day!
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
..sometimes, a boss needs to be friendly and sometimes firm.. this depends in the situation for me.. there will always be time when a boss need to exercise full authority to his/her employees to impose something.. and a boss also needs to be friendly to his/her employees so that his/her staff will not hesitate to approach him/her with regards to the problems being encountered in the company or institution.. For me, a boss can never please everybody.. there will always be staff or employees who will feel bad about him/her, however, this is the reality.. I would prefer a strict boss with kind and friendly heart.. It make me more responsible.. I believe the scenario that will be productive is when the boss and his/her employees work hand in hand for the company or institution.. And the boss has the very big responsibility in encouraging the employees to participate in all the company's endeavors..