Do you have problem with your boyfriend about money
November 12, 2009 9:56pm CST
I have been with my boy friend together almost 8 years. We have quite good relationship. But everytime we argue because of money. I want him to give me 1/4 of his salary to me as saving every month. From the beginning, he follows my instruction but he was unhappy, I felt it. After some days, he tends not to give such amount, and then we start our arguement again. I am so much tired about this. Do you think I am wrong to do so or should I stop to ask for this anymore. I really love him so much.
13 Nov 09
How much do you contribute in the savings ? If you too contribute 1/4 th of your salary then its not wrong of you asking for it. But if you don't then he'll, somewhere in his heart, have this feeling that its only him thats contributing. Don't argue on such a pity reason as money. Money comes and goes. Think what will you do with all the money in the world if you don't have love in your life to share it with ?
14 Nov 09
Money shouldn't be a problem in your relationship. It takes two parties to comprehend more about it. Which account would it be? On your personal account or his? Or do you have mutual account? With him being unhappy with it means that he is not comfortable of you getting it from from him. If i were you, you should save money for yourself and not ask him to save 1/4 of his salary anymore. Its hard if you force him to that when he don't want it.
13 Nov 09
we do have financial problems because he spends a lot whenever he receives his salary and i can't stand it. i want him to be more stingy because i don't want him to wake someday and find himself empty. he has to adjust while it's still too early for us because we'll meet a lot of problems if we'll be married in the near future.
13 Nov 09
hi, i think you are doing a right thing, because savings is necessary for maintaining family development, you should continue to ask for the savings from your bf, but in order to be equal, you should contribute some amount every month as savings, this will make your bf mentality balanced.