Have you ever felt......

By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48803)
United Kingdom
November 13, 2009 3:28pm CST
so mad, that you are ready to burst and shout at the Person that is going on and on and on at you about something, when he/she has had to much to drink??????? I did tonight, I do not know how I held in as I just wanted to tell her to shut up and get of my case and look at herself I am not going to say what it was all about as I know the response I will get from some People is well she is right She might be right but I want her to stop as I have listened to this for the last year specially when she has had to much to drink, I have not been to see her for a while because of the last incident with her, I try to see her when she is sober but goodness she gets home from work and starts drinking, then tells me she has only had 3 Glasses, well first of all I did not ask her how many she has had as it is none of business, second of all I am not stupid I have had a Step Dad that was an alcoholic, I had a Husband that was close to one, just because I do not drink does not mean I do not know the difference, I hardly go to see her now because I am fed up with her going on at me, but I thought I would nip round tonight, wish I hadn't, and she pushed me so far I could feel it bubbling up in me I told her nicely, stop going on at me and let me do it my way, but oh no she had to go on at me and tell me I am stupid and I don't care, and all this cr*p, it is not easy to get me to the point where I just want to scream at someone but she has People who know me know I am a very patient and try to avoid any conflicts but she is now starting to push to much, she is not listening when I tell her to get of my case, to leave me to do it my way, she just goes on and on and basically I have had enough I was mentally, physically and verbally abused by People who where drunk, it has left its mark, I am not having it any more so I shall stay away even more, I will not be told that I am stupid and useless She wanted my Boyfriends Number to I told her no, not that I am worried about it but I know that he will tell her in a polite way to mind her own business and to let me do it my way, that he will not force me to anything and that he is happy how I am dealing with it and how well I am doing, I know he will not be to happy with her at all, also she has no right to ring him Well I have sat here for an hour and let the tears flow as again I have been called stupid and useless, just because I am not doing what I am being told to do which is up to me at the end of the Day to deal with my Way So have you ever been that mad or was I just out of order?? I will say I did not have a go at her I went home and cried in frustration and anger Ok this is of my Chest now so I will go now lol
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11 responses
• United States
13 Nov 09
I have encountered more than my fair share of drunkards in my life. When they are stepping over the bounds I leave if I am at their home or any other place. I do not tolerate people who get in my face drunk or not. Those who try to upset me will not succeed. I turn and walk the other way. Sorry that this person has upset you. Let it roll off your back like rain. Big huggers to you.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
Hi Elusive She will not be upsetting me again as I am staying away for a while I do not need it and want it It is good to see you again I hope you are doing ok Big Hugs
@savypat (20248)
• United States
13 Nov 09
Of course you know that getting angry at a drunk is like hitting a pillow, it will get you no satisifaction at all. I am sorry she pushed your buttons but I am glad a good rant here on mylot helped.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov 09
Hi there Pat I prefer to do that then have a go at someone as I know I would have felt bad after for loosing control and letting her get me to the stage to having a go at her
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
15 Nov 09
nope ya didnt need that adn if she cant see that you are trying to help yourself out of this that is her problem and DAMN why didnt ya just cuss her out instead of goin ghome to cry. might have done a world of good to let it all go!. My guess is to stay away from her as much as you can when she is drinking and sounds like she does after work all the time and if 3 glasses get her this way she Is a drunk plain and simple. I had a MIL that could only drink one highball and we would have to take her home and dump her while she slept it off.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
15 Nov 09
Well I will not be seeing a lot of her any more as I am not willing to take the Cr*p You know me I just swallow it and don't say much just let go later when alone Tried to get you on Messenger today but you didn't reply so guess you did not get it Hope Chey liked her Card and Calendar Big Hugs
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
18 Nov 09
told ya I was to be out of town the 13 th for Jens wedding. But now you know all this lol
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@gemini_rose (16194)
14 Nov 09
I think the best thing would be to stay away from her she has no right to talk or treat you like that. I have been that mad just lately at people in my life but as of yet I have held my tongue although I dont know how!
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
I shall not be seeing her much now, as I have had enough it causes me stress that I do not want at all Holding your Tongue is best Sweet as it just causes to much stress on you, just sit there and think of something else why they carry on don't react
@gemini_rose (16194)
14 Nov 09
yeah i hold my tongue, mainly because i refuse to stoop to their level and besides I am one that believes in karma so I know I will have the last laugh..... one day haha!
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@ElicBxn (59918)
• United States
14 Nov 09
gabs, there is NO reason you have to put up with this kind of abuse - a friend doesn't do this to a friend you don't have to see her and if she calls and wonders why you don't see her any more, tell her that friend's don't abuse friends and since she is verbally abusive, she's not a friend. oh, and she can lose your number because you don't need to be around negative people in your condition... you have what you need, you have a good boyfriend and the Gissi, walk away from the abuser
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
I will not be putting up with it no more Elic believe me When I know she has been drinking which I can always tell by her eyes I will not go in As you say I do not need negative People round and she is very negative believe me
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@ElicBxn (59918)
• United States
14 Nov 09
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@Hatley (152292)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Nov 09
oh gabs how awful You are far from stupid and useless for anyone who loves a little dog as much as you do is pretty wonderful in my estimation.as for this person who was drunk and getting on your case, I would erase her ugly words out of my mind.I wish you had given her as good as you got. It would have served her right.Someone who is drunk is really out of control,mentally,physically and emotionally so I would tell her to get out of my house and dont dictate to me what I should or should not do.I have known people like that that like to dictate to you every move,my dad was one for example. and he thought he had the right to stop our marriage when I was age 31. dictatorial and self righteous. He did not drink but He was also a hypocrite, living one way yet going to church all the time. Anyway Gabs we all know you did not deserve that kind of abuse from this woman ,whoever she is, and whatever connection she has with you. wish Gissi could have been there to nip her on an ankle or two.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
Well I will not be seeing her no more when she has been drinking I can not be asked with it I have been through enough with People that have been drinking and I will not let anyone knock back again to feeling useless and stupid I felt like that most of my Life and not going back Hugs
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@Hatley (152292)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Nov 09
hi gabs thanks so much for the best response always nice to get one and feels so good too. hope all is well with you a nd Gissi too. hugs .
@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
17 Nov 09
Aww gabs, you can't win can you? I'm guessing this is a "friend" who is trying to help you and talking to you like this to make you "wake up"...in other words it's "for your own good?". You will just have to spare yourself this carp and tell people where to shove there "help" and walk away. You will deliver your message much better by doing this and walking away...they will soon get the message.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
18 Nov 09
Hi MsTickle no it seems I can't win, I have not been to see her much I can't be doing with it any more, I went to see her Tuesday at 4pm, as she gets home from work about 3pm and yep she was already on the way to being drunk, I had hoped she would not be, she was about to start about smoking and I told her not to start or I will walk straight out the door She stopped then, I only stayed half an hour I will not see her now for another week and it suits me ok that way, I am going to keep my peace no matter what lol Hugs to you
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Ack! Drunk people are never fun, and some do become very violent. I have ever been so angry that I've given myself a headache! I thought it's not worth it, so I walk away and calm down rather than explode at anyone. Karen
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
Hi Karen, well I did not explode but I did get upset and held back till I came home I will not be going to see her any more when she has been drinking as I can not take it any more
@GardenGerty (87691)
• Marion, Kansas
14 Nov 09
Gabs, come here and vent any time. You are an adult and should not be told what is right and wrong, cause you already know. Good for you not to give out the bf phone #. I have a sister I avoid and she does not even drink but she does set me off. Just stay away from her, she is not good for you.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
I will be believe me specially when I can see she has been drinking Thank you GG
13 Nov 09
Hi Gabs, It is good to get it of your chest and you are right when you say you are staying away from this person, you don't need the grief she gives you, just let is slide, count to ten and let Gissi cheer you up, don't need people like that in your life, take hun. love and hugs. Tamara xxxxx
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
You are right but I told you phone lol she just drives me so mad xxx
• Australia
13 Nov 09
Hi Gaby, my dear friend who has learned to stand on her two feet and not put up with a lot of fluff and nonsense - but still needs a gentle chiding not to let it upset her. You KNOW you did the right thing. You KNOW she was wrong. You KNOW anger will not achieve anything. You can be SO THANKFUL that you have OVERCOME all the problems that you have had to face and feel pity for her because her problems have become her victors.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
13 Nov 09
Hi Cloud Yes you are right and her Problems have certainly taken over her Life and she panics a lot, as soon as she has a bit of a pain, she gets it in her Head there is something serious wrong with her and gets into a mad panic then of to Hospital because she thinks she is having a Heart attack I do feel pity for her Cloud, but I need to put even more space between her and me as Drunk People do still scare me very much and because tonight proved to me that I am getting so angry with her that there is a risk of me getting really mad, so I need to calm down But it did still hurt bad when she said what she did to me I have to be honest it just brought it all back, but I have it back under control now and I am fine Big warm Hugs to you and much love always