how do you discipline your child?

@rosey19 (952)
Philippines
November 13, 2009 8:55pm CST
As I have observed now, children of this new generation are very hard to discipline, unlike before or during my time when I was a child, whenever I heard my parents calling my name or whatever they told me I easily obeyed and followed their instructions. So I am asking your opinions about your techniques on disciplining your children?
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
14 Nov 09
I think to discipline a child, it's best to use gradual methods. Like first, trying to tell nicely, and then advice too. After-which, implementing home laws like grounding and all that if it gets worst. Last but not least, to use the silent treatment. But for kids, I suppose they won't understand and it's easier to talk to them before anything. I will refrain from punishing them like using the cane. I will stay away from that..
@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
I also like your style of discipline. It is really good to do it in a gradual manner and explain to them the rules and let them understand the benefits that they can get and when it is clear to them then it's time to implement the rules. Meaning they are able to know the consequences of their actions. Thanks for sharing and goodluck. Have a nice day.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
14 Nov 09
You are very welcome, and thanks to you too. I agree with you as well and at the same time, there needs to be a balance in between definitely..
• United States
14 Nov 09
My kids are 5, 2 1/2, and 12 months. The baby, I distract him, hubby rigged up a babyproofing with tape and a lid from something so he can't turn the TV off and on. I do tell him 'no' he can't do things, but I give him something else to do too. The older two, I'll tell them what I want them to do (or ask them to do it, depends on what we're talking about). If they don't move, I tell them what's going to happen if I get to "three." Then I'll say ONE. If they still don't move, it's TWO. THREE is a consequence. It might be that they're going straight to bed without their usual Caillou show. It might be that I'm taking the plate away because they are playing, not eating. Whatever it is, it's something that happens 'right now' and is totally relevant to the situation. (like I don't tell them I'm taking away TV because they're playing with food at dinner. I take away the plate--either they are truly done and they leave or I've gotten their attention and they decide they are going to eat.) I've modified it a little for cleanup before bedtime. I tell them I'm going to count to 10 and they need to have it picked up or they're going straight to bed. If they start right in and are going good, I count *really* slow. If they don't, I go a little faster. I used to be more lax, but it didn't take them long to realize with this counting stuff, I meant business. Consistency is key, you've got to have something in mind and be ready to use it--with no 2 1/2, 2 3/4 kind of nonsense. I've tried and given up spanking. It doesn't teach them what to do instead of whatever they did. It seems to make them angry. And it teaches that it's OK for big people to hit smaller people. AND it seems to be something that comes out of a moment of despair and anger. That's a time when they need to be in their room and I need to be somewhere else till I can think of something better to do than hit a child.
@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
There are really times that we cannot control our emotions and we tend to forget that we are arguing or spanking are our own child. That is why we need more patience in every actions that we do, because sometimes we did not know that we impose too much and not considering their feelings also. So with need to discipline our children with love. Thanks for sharing your ideas. Have a nice day.
@kmaram (2535)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
Hi there, i have one kid she was 2 years old now. Although she was listening to me everytime i talked to her i still have this doubt that one day she will grow not obeying my rules. So right now that she was still young i do discipline her although sometimes she made bad things but i hope she will grow a good kid.
@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
We really need to discipline them while they are still young because it is too late if we discipline them when they are older, the will never listen to us and the tendency for rebellion. so as early as now they should be teach what is right and wrong. Have a nice day.
@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
14 Nov 09
My little one gets a time out if he being bad. My two older used to get time out, now if they do something bad they either have to go in their room for an hour with out getting on thier computer or they lose video game, television, computer privelages for a certain amount of time, usually just a day, they usually begin to behave the minute I say you are grounded for a day because they know if they continue or back talk me that I will keep adding on days, so they know when to stop and just be quiet.
@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
Wow that's good. I admire your children for following your instruction and obeying your rules in the house. I hope they will grow up a well behave children. Have a nice day.