Can you smile?...when your heart is broken?
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39142)
Philippines
November 14, 2009 9:01am CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters,
I wonder who among us here can smile when deep inside,his/her heart is aching(broken hearted)
How will you hide the pain you are feeling inside?
Can you smile when you are with friends?
How good are you to pretend that you are OK,when your heart is breaking into pieces?
Waiting for your response dear friends and have a great day always
9 responses
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Hello again my bonita...I would like to ask you first, is this your first time to feel like this ever since? Most likely I could still afford to smile if the situation would be like your case. I understand what you feel because I am sure these successive discussions you submitted are all related with each other...
I mean the concern is your friend or your best friend. Yes we feel so sorry for them but not to the point that I could not anymore afford to smile with other friends.
Just keep cool, relax and act naturally don't be carried too much with your emotions or else...
Mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Well my bonita mia, life is full of trials and sorrows and every thing that could put us to sadness and weariness. But remember we are still alive we must move and face it..we can't run from it the best for us to do is face it squarely. Remember God created us not only to receive His blessings but He taught us to receive all kinds of setbacks and different kinds of trials and hardships. But, as long we are still alive we must be strong to go forward. Tomorrow is another day whether we like it or not we have to face it and we have to face it positively.
Don't be carried with your emotion too much...think of your own family. Are they don't need you anymore?
I hope you get my point...have a nice day ahead...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
i do understand about it dear amigo,
God will never give us trials that we can't bear.
And when we are grateful to receive His blessing,we must be thankful for all the trials too,becoz it only means that God love us in so many ways.
It is so easy to say things when we are not facing it in real life,the moment we are about to cross the bridge,it is then we realized how hard it is.
Life has to go on...i know it's part of it.
Happiness,sadness,failures and winning moments.
just like in a song "life is not always a bed roses"
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Good morning my bonita...in addition to this.."if we know how to accept success we must learn to accept also defeat and failure" but we must rise up and move forward...have a nice weekend also mi bonita mia....
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
hello jaiho...
my family & friends always see me smiling and happy, that's why when i am carrying some pain in my heart, i think they can easily recognize that. i mean, yes i can still smile even if my heart is breaking, even if im having so much pain, even if i am sad...but its the kind of smile that's different. i mean you can still see in my smile that i am not really happy, that the smile that i have is something that's not real & its just something that i do to cover up for my feelings...(hilaw na ngiti)
its never easy to smile when we are in pain, when we are sad, but sometimes, we don't like our friends/family to worry, that's why we still want to smile whenever we are with them... but just too bad for me, coz im not good in covering up for my feelings, coz even my smile can reveal my real feeling...my lips can lie but never my eyes...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Hello dear,
Our loved ones,close to us would surely see the big difference.
We can manage a smile however,but still,they can see the sadness in our eyes.
It is always proven that,eyes can't hide what's inside our mind and heart.
Eyes were known as the window of our soul.
We can even pretend to be ok,but,our loved ones who knows us very well,can feel our sadness,no matter how we tried to hide our feelings.
Maybe...people who are real pretenders are the ones who were good in hiding their true feelings since they don't need to pretend,becoz,they are already pretenders all their life.
"my lips can lie,but never my eyes"...you got it right amiga
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
hello jaiho...
yeah, that's true, maybe there are times that we can pretend to other people, we can appear to be happy in front of them & they can't find out that we are hurting inside...but to those people who knows us, to our loved ones, its really difficult to hide our true feelings...coz they see more than eyes can see...most of the time they can feel what we really feel...
thanks for the br amiga...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
tears or crying is one good way of escaping and expressing what we truly feel.
crying is not always a sign of cowardness,but sometimes it signifies the honesty of oneself...
I admire men who cries infront of a woman without hesitation.
Thanks for your response and have a great weekend ahead
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
15 Nov 09
Yes..I can. I have been at points in my life to where it was either smile or cry. I chose to smile. Sometimes we are not in a place where we can cry so to me it has been important to be able to smile among everything. I have had to present a positive example for my children and I certainly can't be in a mangement position if I bring my troubles to work. It's not easy but sometimes it can help to smile.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Hello friend,
It really helps a lot when we can manage to smile thu we are bleeding inside.
Problem that is not too big can be hidden,but,i guess with bigger ones...it would be hard to cover it up with a smile.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
16 Nov 09
Hello Sis,
I prefer to be alone when I am going through pain. But there are times when I have to be amongst friends or colleagues or people keeping aside whatever emotional turmoil I am going through.
Except for this very good friend of mine I don't think anybody else could guess in what state of mind I am. So yes, one may say i can pretend.
You have a great day too,
Bodhi
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Hello dear brother,
A very good and close friend will always feel what we were feeling thu how much we tried to hide what's inside us.
One of my closest friend is very sensitive that she can feel and sense if i am just pretending to be happy.
I also had same feeling with some friends,i can feel if they are truly happy or not.
There are times that,i can sense if someone has a big problem and not speaking about it.
With people we loved,i guess we are too much sensitive with what they are feeling too.
A bonding that we can't describe i think,the ability to feel what they feel.
Thanks for your response dear and have a great weekend ahead
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
Hello Jaiho2009,Yes I can,even though my heart is broken.My friends are separate from my heartaches so i can smile for them. By the way, it is very hard to smile when you feels bad,but with friends you can easily ease the pain.Thanks,Good day!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
hello friend,
that's good...friends are separate with our personal feelings so,we can manage to smile for them at least.
but when we are carrying a very heavy loads...i guess we can't hide what we are feeling inside.
smiling is one of our escape to cover up our sorrow,but close friends are sensitive that sometimes they can even sense that we are just pretending.
Thanks for your response and have a great weekend ahead
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
whenever i feel depressed, i always look beautiful because that's the perfect time for me beautify myself. for whatever reason, i felt much relieved whenever i can put my make up on. i smile a lot but whenever the issue is brought up, i find myself crying. :(
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
Hello elsMarie,
We can pretend and we can do many ways to cover up our true feelings.
But some incidents will also tear us apart.
It is really hard to hide what we really feels when it concerns with our heart.
Even a commercial or tv program can make us cry when we feel it is related to what we really feel inside.
And worst is...when we can hear a lovesong(uh uh)
I am sure...we probably burst into tears unknowingly.
Thanks for your response dear and have a great day always
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
hello jaiho, I don't know, i could do it before but recent years had me so depressed that i just stay quiet when ever things are not the way it used to. a lot can pretend sometimes i didn't noticed it with the naked eye. well, so far i haven't really experienced the real pain in the heart, probably ones that made me depressed but not hurt@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
hello dear brother,
Ok,so,you never been into much pain of a broken heart.
So,i guess you can't relate to this pain dear.
Sometimes,there are things that we can fully understand when we already had been into same situation.
Depressed is just a normal feeling...not much painful compared to a broken heart.
Then,pls be careful with your heart not to trust it to someone that doesn't deserves you.
yeah,you should be very careful...my brother.
Thanks for your response and have a great week ahead
yeah,you should be very careful...my brother.
Thanks for your response and have a great week ahead
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
Hello friend,
We can hide our feelings when it is not too heavy,but when our problem is too big to hide,i guess,it's really hard to hide in disguise.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always dear
