How does relationship between children and parents change when the former grow?

The relationships indeed do change. We do know that most people love/like babies/toddlers. They are just too cute and amusing or whatnot. At this stage, when the parents are first time parents, all of their attention will be on the child. They will dote on him/her and even spoil him/her a little. When grown to kids, they still have that sense of being the center of attention, so they still have a great relationship with their parents. They are still learning about the world and discovering all there is that the world can offer them. When turning pre-teen, and teen, there is that awareness of establishing friendships and relationships to other people. These would be the group of friends that they think that have 'belonged' with. A peer group that shares their interest and their knowledge about the world, so they could explore it together or something to that effect. The parents still dote on the tweens and teens, but the children wish for more freedom from them. Unfortunately, the parents know better so they still try to keep them within arms reach. This causes a friction between the parents and the children. Thus, this evolves into rebellion, teen angst, or just the usual being separated from the parents. There is still the emotional bond but the physical bond is kept at a minimum. Growing to adults, like you mentioned, having their own family, the children then learn how it was in being in their parents' shoes since they might be parents themselves already. They now understand why their parents were like that during their time, and so there is newfound respect for the parents. This creates a bond of another level that the children would then want to take care of the parents as a way of gratitude in raising them. That's what I think about the matter, and the previous paragraph is still an opinion for me because I still have not reached that age.LOL The first part is an opinion based on my experience, and those that I have witnessed as well. So that's my two cents worth.

Well well, alot depends again.. haha =D SOme families can be closely knitted when the children are young, but as they grow older, things starts to change, especially when their mentality to things changes, along with attitude.. haha =D But then, there are children whom seems to be neglecting parents, but in reality, they do really care alot for them on the sly.. haha =D Upbringing does not really matters on how children will treat their parents, as it depends on the children themselves..

SOne times the rolls switch as the kids think they can run over their parents. but most times and maybe I am exception but daughter and I get along fine have same veiws and we live together even buying house together. My sons have thier own place and familys but are still pretty close to us and make ways to come visit. I think it maybe that we traveled alot with hubbys work and we were the only ones we could depend on adn we still depend on each otehr made ua a close nit famiy for sure

My child is only eight years old so she is at a stage where she still needs me for almost everything and thinks that I am the one the puts the sun out every morning! (LOL) Of course our relationship will change dramatically as she grows and I am almost certain we won’t be as close during the dreaded teen stage! Kids become adults and the relationship with their parents becomes more equal you might say, they can relate to each other from an adult point of view although there is a small part in every parent that will always view their off springs as their ‘babies’ no matter how old they are!

Luckily, I can say that I still have the same relationship with my daughters even though they are now adults and already have a family of their own. I can still go with them wherever they want and we still get along well with each other. We sometimes have arguments once in a while but I think that's just normal in such mother-daughter relationships. Whenever this happens, we are still able to patch things up and make amends. Maybe, the only thing that had changed is the time that we spend with each other. Since they are already married, they tend to have their own priorities now, spending more time with their family of course but on the other hand, they see to it that on weekends and certain occasions, they are always with me and they are never absent.

I agree with you neelia, as the kids grow older there are also changes in their attitudes and behavior. These are due to the things they learn from us, from their playmates, from the community we live in and from the school. They become more independent and they sometimes reasons out. Not like before when they are little kids that they always follow waht you tell them. But that is reality, and we parents should be careful on how and what we teach our children.

Things chage all the time , the relationship change too. in some case ,it changes to be good or better while for some other reason it change worse . when a child is still young and not that thougtful , he or she would leam on their parants mostly , but after their grew up /they have their own idea about what is Do ,what is DON't ,, relationship chage then ,but one thing is gonna last forever ----blood relastionship (*^__^*)

yes, of course. As the children grow up, the relation between parents and children has to change. When kids are small, parents are like teachers and guides and as kids become youth, parents should be like friends to their kids and as the parents age further, the children become their guardian. It is a natural aging process keeping in mind the changing mental maturity of children and declining physical capacities of aging parents.

I would say, parents are more responsible in this change. If the relationship changes, it's their responsibility to nurture their children in a selfless manner. I mean, I see so many parents control their children and all the time keep them under vigil, about where they are going at what time, which friend they are talking to, and what they are talking, and when they will be back home. If they don't score marks, they get a beating etc etc... I mean, the lives of these children get controlled so much, and it becomes such a hard routine. Such parents are more, at least in the Indian society. I know instances where, a father would take a heating rod and stick it to his son's legs, only because they haven't studied for the day. And, these sons, once they become engineers or doctors, they think their parents have been right, and they say, they are thankful for this treatment, otherwise they wouldn't have been successful. Had it been some other country, this father would have been behind bars by now. But, such draconian attitude of parents can lead children even to ignore them once they grow older as well. I have instances where the father, especially, doesn't treat his children with respect, because he thinks he is much older, he has all the right to speak to them in a very dominating tone, with no love in the voice, even though it's hidden in the heart. But the ego that he is the head of the house, shouldn't show the love so obviously, and all his life, he treats his children, as if they are good for nothing, and never even involves them in a family discussion, and even they gave him some advice on issues like investment or investing money in a new house in time for his retirement, so he can relax all his life with his pension.... he wouldn't listen to them... So, there are issues in between, a lot of issues, personal issues which happen, and these issues change the relationship. There are parents who respect the independence of their children, and they allow them privacy within their homes and there are parents who don't respect their children's privacy. My father never respected my privacy, and he always sneaked on me when I was on the phone, or when I am speaking to somebody outside my home, curiously watching... There are many parents like that especially in India. And, parents don't want to understand the personality of their children, and they want to control them, according to their idea of the world or the society or the generation in which they grew up, but they forget to connect with the present generation which has changed in thought behaviour and living... and beliefs and dogmas. There are many such issues, which change the relationships between children and parents. And some of them end up in disputes, yet, continue to love their parents and take care of them. And some of them, out of incompatibility, leave their parents in some old age home, or in a separate apartment, and visit them once or twice per week just to check in if they are doing fine. And, there are many parents who are totally friendly with their children, and once they are married, they know, their children need privacy, and they move out into a separate home themselves. I don't think because having your own family, the priority changes. It's just that children are very selfish and they forget how much care their parents have taken when they were children. Especially, their mothers. Most parents are too nosy about what's happening between their son and daughter-inlaw. They want to know every detail of their conversation and private life. If they haven't had children, they question, why his wife is not having a child yet.. And all sorts of things. They even want to know every detail of their son's money, where he is investing it, how much he has saved, and where he is spending all of it. They just want to hold on to their son, being scared he may leave them and run away, so they manipulate his mind, saying, it's his duty to take care of them for the rest of his life, and finally, from that step onwards, they keep manipulating, which college he should join, what course he should study, and it goes on and on till marriage, after marriage.... If the son is a rebel, and is smart enough to break away from this manipulation, he just puts them in a separate home and lives somewhere else. It's an endless debate... But the present day condition, things seem to be that way, that children should live in separate homes from their parents, because the current generation is more liberal, and more open in expression, and they can't express their lifestyle, and also their affection to their wives in front of their parents. If they come home after work, they would like to give their wives a hug and a kiss, but, they have to pretend in front of their parents all the time and hide the expressions, and can just flirt behind closed doors. Times are changing. Well, parents can be taken care of, just make them live in a separate apartment or house close by and keep visiting them regularly, or have dinner together often, etc.... It's too difficult to state one particular reason why children leave their parents. Every situation in life has many layers and many different reasons that play a part. One of the biggest reasons for children leaving their parents is because, parents refuse to understand their children after a certain age, refuse to relate with them as friends and understand their desires, the way, they want to live, and accept it. But rather, I can't imagine even at 24 children are afraid to discuss that they are in love, and they are having a relationship.... Many out of fear just don't get married, and move out of their relationship and get married to someone else whom their parents have chosen. Too many reasons, too many reasons... I can't stop...... Grrr... need to stop here.

It depends on how the parents raised them. If the parents are close to their children they will still be close until they get married but it will be a different scenario when they in separate house with their parents. Maybe it will depend on them on how they continue the relationship but it is good if they will continue to get even more closer. As for parents who are not close to their kids, the kids are more closer on their nanny or their grandparents, it depends on them if they like to get closer with their parents when they grow up. Maybe it is their decision if they want to share their own family with their parents. It really depends on what has happened on their childhood that made them stick closer or to be separated from their parents. Some of the children wants to get married to separate themselves from their parents while some do not want it.

Yeah it's pretty much true. In my case,when I was young, I always think that life if always full of happiness cause that's what I could see from my parents but then as I grew up until now I've realized that it's not always the case. And now, I beginning to understand things which I gave literal meanings during my childhood....And compared from before I am more loving to my parents despite of misunderstandings sometimes and I have admired them a lot.

relationships between parents and children really do change. when they are younger, in everything they do they need you..they are sweet and they are always close to you wherever you go. but as they grow into teens and adults...and meeting more people and friends...they started to get busy with others. you cannot see them anymore.. they are always out with their friends.. i just wish they're still kids so i can cuddle them and be with me always.

For me nothing has change between my parents & I even if my siblings & I are married but we still have that same relationship although time is a question but we always find time & see to it its worth spending with them. I love them more than the love they showed to me.

Does it have to change? I have always treated my children and grandchildren as friends (except when I've had to discipline them). And as old as my children now are (all in their 30's), they still share everything in their lives with me. I find that it is easier to communicate with them if I treat them this way, that they feel as if they have real value to me and my husband. There are of course times when we really don't look at things or courses of action in the same way, but on the whole, we are able to agree or disagree about things without getting personal, and keeping the bonds between us unbroken. My family will be my family always.

In the parents' eyes, children are always the same, and always need the care, so evry parents want to protect their children, though sometime they do this task too much. When people grow up, they become more independent and want to show that they can do many thing by themselves. Besides, thezy have more thing and more people to care out of their family, but some parents aren't ready to accept the new relations of their children. That influences somehow the family link. However, the mutual love is always the key point, if it exists, it won't change.

I think some relationships change for the good and some of them for the bad. It all depends on the type of household they are raised in too. Some children rebel against their parents if they were not treated good inside the home. Some love their parents more after leaving home because they mature and learn how to respect them.

The relationships do change indeed. As a mother of three, im am not looking foward to the change but it will come intime. My daughter is 8 1/2, my son is 7 and my youngest is 6 months. If i look back at my relationship with my mom, it changed way before i wanted it too.

relationship change hen children becomes adult and declare independence having a job of their own and family. they appear distance to their parents but the love would not change it is still the same only the distance of their home.

Hello neel, It doesn't change totally,but there would be a big difference indeed. From caring a baby,a helpless baby that needs full attention till the day they can walk by their own and eat their first solid foods. Teaching them how to write and do things of their own. I thought it would be easier to take care my children when they grow up. I keep saying myself when they are still toddlers "when they grow up,i will be relaxed then"...but,it's a big mistake!!! Caring adult/grown up kids is more complicated and needs much much more attention. Becoz,it is the time when they want to explore new things..new things that can do some harm. Bad influences is the worst thing,and should be taken with so much precautions. Checking who are my son's friends is one of the hard part for me as a mother. I need to be extra careful not to hurt my son,or not to make him think that i don't trust him. He has some friends that don't have good reputation(i mean,like naughty and bully ones). I had to give him examples,shows him disadvantages for having bad company. I just hope he will listen and won't take it as bad. I don't have trouble with my daughter,maybe becoz she is also a girl and we are very close to each other that she can tell me everything. Well,i can say,as of now,i can feel a big difference of taking care and responsibilities with caring children as their ages changes...from toddlers to adulthood.I can't think what more complication when they get married and had family of their own.(uhmnn...that is still to be seen)

My relationship with my mother has gotten better over the years. As with my father, it's gotten to a civil point, at least. He's not changed his ways so we don't have much of a relationship at all. I just try to keep things as civil as I possibly can. I think most people tend to mature with age. Unfortunately, this isn't the case for everyone. Just the same, some families grow closer as time goes by while some drift apart.