Have you ever been nice to someone just to keep the peace?

@jugsjugs (13045)
November 16, 2009 6:41pm CST
Well i have tried to be nice just to keep everyone happy and i am sorry,but the two people that i have tried my best to be nice to made me soo angry that i exploded with temper today.
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@qmeyers (42)
• United States
19 Nov 09
Sometimes you have to be real. Niceness doesn't always work. When people know what you will and will not take, they stop pushing your buttons.
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@gigarange (1165)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I always try to not give someone the power to upset myself but as human, we can't control it sometimes, especially when you're under pressure to something, like work you need to finish or other things.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I try to be nice to every one but sometimes very hard to do and then I fly off the handle and tell them wahts up
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• United States
17 Nov 09
Hes I have. Sometimes, people bug you. There are types of people that annoy you to be their friend. Accept their offer! What do you have to lose? Perhaps your reputation, but isn't that better than being annoyed by a person?
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• Philippines
17 Nov 09
I done it many times as I do not like to make a scandal but when the person I am mad with pressure me to fight back especially if he is ruining my reputation. I am willing to stand on my ground to defend myself as i am kind and good to those who are good to me. Although, i may look innocent it would still look deceiving as once a person makes me mad he need to hide now as the silent volcano she provoke may erupt anytime and he would likely be shock. But, most of the time I am patience and could hold on for a longer time for my temper before it would explodes.
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@rg0205 (2638)
• Hong Kong
17 Nov 09
It's only normal to blow up on people sometimes. If you didn't get angry, I'd say there might be something wrong with you. Sorry to hear about your day though. I've been nice to people just to keep the peace and to avoid further disputes. I can't blame you if you couldn't take it. As you said, you tried.
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@drannhh (15240)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Forgive yourself first. Sometimes it is not a good idea to be too nice because then people tend to walk all over you, right? Anger is a reaction we choose--nobody makes us angry but ourselves. But you know something? Sometimes it is better to explode with temper than to keep internalizing and get sick. One of the hardest things to learn is how to disagree without being disagreeable, but it never works to sacrifice your autonomy just to keep the peace. Eventually something will break. Not all people are reasonable and certainly nobody is reasonable all of the time.
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• Philippines
2 Dec 09
I did that once. During my collee days I have one classmate in this one subject she was not my blockmate. Everyone hates her because of her attitude. She was a prima donna. She always wants everyone to listen to her and do what she said. Of course not everyone will agree. I was very unfortunate to belong with her group for our group project. Since I don't have the choice I was nice to her just to keep the peace, just to make the project done. What had happened was very positive, she trusted me and we became friends. Not all will agree but I got to know that she still have something good inside her , she was just misunderstood.
• United States
21 Nov 09
yes,i have..but it took darn near biting through my lip to do so. sometimes,you just reach that "i don't care" point.
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• United States
21 Nov 09
I know how it is. My brother is working with a man that thinks he is my boyfriend and has thought that for a few years now. I can't get rid of him. Now that they are working together if this man is mad at me he then in return takes it out of my brother at work. That is not right. I have been going out of my way to be nice to this man hoping that he won't make things harder on my brother but it has come tot he point that I just cannot bring myself to do that any longer. Now he is going so far that he wants my daughter and grand daughter to bring me to this motel room where he is living and drop me off to spend the day with him, like I have no say so over the situation. I am ticked off. Have a nice weekend. Happy Mylotting.
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@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Yes, I have been nice to someone just to keep the peace. I do not get angry very often but sometimes I just lose my temper and then do not worry about what it is I am saying. It helps if you just let go once in a while better for your health then holding in it forever.
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@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
17 Nov 09
Many times I have been nice to people in my 52 years of living, just to keep the peace. Mainly because I don't like confrontation. So just to make everyone happy I bite my tougue. However, a year ago I was fed up with my sister who is a $%#@& that I actually thru her out of my house. That is so not me but I couldn't take her anymore. For over 20 years she has been a very mean and just a horrible person. I haven't talked to her or seen her since and I will probably go to my grave not talking to her and that is just fine with me.
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@cwilson26 (2736)
• United States
17 Nov 09
I have to be nice to my dad to keep the peace. It is hard being nice to him though because he is not nice at all. But if I say anything, he will fight with my mom. I am also nice to my husband sometimes when he doesn't deserve it just to keep the peace. I hate fighting with anyone. Sometimes our tempers do get the best of us though and it can be hard to be nice to those who aren't nice to us but I try very, very hard. :)
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@vandana7 (67645)
• India
17 Nov 09
Hi jugsjugs, it is truly ok to be angry and lose temper. Dont let those super cool ones tell you that it is not ok - they too did it at times. But coming to the issue, this will invariably happen if you are not expressing yourself for just keeping the peace as you put it. Peace can still be kept if there is democracy in which even you get to express yourself. Take that from the incident, and move on. Dont be harsh on yourself.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
17 Nov 09
Dont berate yourself too much ,at least you tried to make peace and you had to be holding back yourslef.I have always maintained that is the hardest thing to do,control of oneself.So I am thinking that if you slip up once in that endeavour you deserve commendation for even trying .
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• United States
17 Nov 09
My sister in law and I do not get along at all. She has always disliked me even before my husband and I got married. I remember when his mom was terminally ill and she was in the hospital. I was a week away from finals and my fiance (husband) asked me to come with him to the hospital. Of course I sais yes, even though he did not have to ask me because I would have gone. Well, my husband's mom and I have always had a loving relationship. She would call me and ask me to buy milk or bread if she ran out (she would always say to me, ask my son for the money, but I never did ask). I was happy to get whatever she needed. Also, his mom did not like her daughter-in-law and when the two sons needed to talk she tried to jump up and get involved well when she jumped up my fiance said to me, "you come with us", boy was the sister-in-law upset and then said why is "she" (meaning me) coming she's not family. I had lost my temper and said "well, what have you ever done for mom, you never took care of her nor do you ever call her unless you needed money". At least when I marry into this family, mom will be living with us and she does not have to do anything.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
I'd prefer to be true to myself than doing my best pleasing them but it will not work out so I'd rather show to them what I really feel.
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@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
I am nice most of the time, especially to clients who come into the office. Most often than not, clients are friendly and nice too but there are just some bad eggs that really test my patience. Those who would not listen, those who come in thinking that they own the world and those who are just plain b*tchy are examples of this kind of people Anyway, I try not to give myself too much stress over them. I will just be nice. If they get on my nerves, I will be saccharine nice.
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• United States
17 Nov 09
Absolutly! The long running stint of keeping the peace with my two half sisters from he double hockeysticks hated me since I was concieved and even moreso when my mom & our dad divorced. Otherwise I bite my tongue on a regular basis around relatives...
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@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
O! It's ok do not worry about it, were only humans, and no sometimes no matter how hard we try to control ourselves, just can't help it but get mad. Specially if the person is really annoying and irritating. Yeah i already did that, just to keep the peace, but after that, when i get back hope i punch the wall of my room.