Were you always ready to be a parent?

@sender621 (14956)
United States
November 18, 2009 7:05am CST
Having a baby is one of the many wondrous experiences of a woman's life. There is so much anticipation, anxiety, fear and joy involved. Before you became pregnant, did you know you were ready to be a parent?
4 responses
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
19 Nov 09
Although I am not a parent yet I will attemp to answer this one .I dont think that anyone is ever fully prepared for parenting as there is never a manual however I will say that there are some persons who are more suited naturally to be parents .By this I mean that a teenager wouldnt "off the bat " make a good parent because she is herself just finding out about herself ,she isnt mature enough physically and mentally to impart the right values to a child because she is still in the learning process.As a result person who are older and more likely to be wiser should attempt this process.In addition persons who have had children before or have spent time taking care of their siblings would naturally be better equipped to be parents for their own children
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 Nov 09
You have some very good views on this subject. Thank you for your response.
• Indonesia
19 Nov 09
Yes, I have been ready since the very first day of my marriage. I am a family oriented person and having my own family has always been my dream since I was a kid. I am now heavily pregnant with our first and cant wait for our little one to be born. You are right, it is a wonderous moment!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 Nov 09
Thank you for this response. i wish you ther best of luck with your new child.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
18 Nov 09
I knew as a teenager that I wanted to have a bunch of kids and just thought I would always be a good parent. In fact my dream was to adopt a bunch of kids from every nationality. I thought that would be so cool but that was not in the cards. Before I got pregnant I had the urges for over a year of wanted to have a baby so I believe I was ready. I do have two beautiful grown daughters. I will tell you with all the years of having babysitting jobs and experience in helping with my younger sisters and brothers that first couple of days with your first newborn in the house is both nervewracking and joy all wrapped together. I believe it is a beautiful experience but also a natural one.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
18 Nov 09
Thanks for your response. Looks like parenting is something that suits your life.
• United States
18 Nov 09
I don't think you are ever really ready to become a parent. Its the hardest job a person will ever do so anxiety and apprehension is normal. I always knew I wanted to have children. What I did not think long and hard about was what goes with all that. You need to have a good marriage before you have children. You need to know your spouse very well. Its important because things will come up in a child's life and you really need to have a rock solid marriage to get through these times together. If you don't have that then the child will grow up and then the two of you are left staring at each other saying, "Who the hell are U"?
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
18 Nov 09
Thank you for your response. You give us all a lot of good points to think about.