Rubies are a girls best friend

@dawnald (84132)
Shingle Springs, California
November 18, 2009 10:58am CST
Ok this is my silly discussion of the day. My wedding ring is a ruby surrounded by diamonds. Princess Diana's engagement ring was a sapphire. My step-mother's ring is a sapphire. So what is it about diamonds, I wonder. To me, a diamond is a lovely stone to place around colored stones to accent them. But so many women want diamonds and only diamonds. So I'm asking you diamond wearers, do you really like them better than other gemstones? Or is there some other reason? That's what hubby gave you? Tradition? Why are these mostly colorless things so popular? Has the diamond industry just convinced everybody with their massive advertising campaigns that this is the thing to do? Or do women just seriously prefer diamonds? PS no diamonds were smuggled out of Africa for this discussion...
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@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I like diamonds, but I like ones with color, pink is the most amazing, but the blues are pretty amazing too. I have a table cut yellow diamond cokktail ring (wont lemme put in the real spelling), but it's loose on my finger, I don't wear it often. Husband bought me a house, twice, instead of a ring.and a few cars/trucks over the years in lieu of an "engagement" ring. He knows it's time to pony up when I start my (sigh)"...I wish I had an engagement ring to show off...." this year I will surprise him and get the house resided instead of a ring. Mighty nice of me, eh?
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
I once saw a red diamond in a museum that was pretty incredible, but they are really rare. I do have some (very small) blue diamond earrings (irradiated) and they're this interesting shade of blue-green. You could always tell him that you're going to go out and buy your own ring. I wonder what he would do!
@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I could have done that a hundred times, but I want HIM to get me one. I had my grandmothers when we got married, but it got stolen in Telluride, and stupid youthful me didn't have it insured. I've always suspected that he is afraid I will take it off and have it go missing again...I know I wouldn't... I'm sure I wouldn't....
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
Yeah, it's not the same if it doesn't come from him. I spose you could drag him out shopping though and pointedly show him something you really like...
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
19 Nov 09
The PS thingy is so funny! .. Now, of course I don't wear diamonds, but you have raised a very cool topic, because I have wondered for years now, why is diamond a girl's best friend. What's the link..? Why3x? One diamond can cost me a bike maintenance or worst off, a car maintenance, and then I have to scrimp and save for that one particular beauty. But I think diamonds are a real beauty; so I can understand why ladies are going ga-ga over it.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
Some ladies are gaga about them, others not so much. Just look at the responses!
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
Hmmm, ladies love varieties, huh..
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I do not know why some women have to have a diamonds ring unless it is because it sparkles in the sunlight. I myself do not have any diamonds and do not need any. I just have a wedding band and that is all I need.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
Diamonds do have the best sparkle of any gem, at least a good diamond. But it's more important to be happy with what you have, definitely.
@debrakcarey (19925)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I think that a woman should have what suits her best. I prefer my birthstone which is an opal. I do like the tiny diamonds that surround my opal...they seem to make it sparkle more. But I agree with you, the colored gems ones are very pretty. My favorite ring is my mother's ring...it has four different stones..cause two of my boys were born in the same month. I don't own much jewelry...but what I have is precious to me cause my kids bought it for me! I've had a few engagement rings (3).but when it didn't work out..I returned them. Don't miss any of them.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
I love opals. Some of the really bright, splashy ones can be really expensive though!
@maezee (26911)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I think diamonds are definitely pretty. Very classy, very traditional. I'm guessing that's why they've stayed in style so long - because in a way, they symbolize the conventional-ism of marraige - the traditional aspect of it. I don't think I would mind at all though if my boyfriend (who is nonexistant currently) proposed to me and gave me a pearl, sapphire, ruby or any other kind of gem, because I think all gems and diamonds are beautiful and magnificent and I would probably take whatever I could get. . I think there's always something pretty in the classic, traditional sense about diamonds, but I'm open to other types too.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
Well here's wishing you a boyfriend who has great taste in jewelry, will stick around, and have any other desirable traits that you are looking for! :-)
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
18 Nov 09
I don't wear any. If I did I might go over the top like Scarlett did with Rhett.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
I guess if I could afford it, I'd go over the top too. But with colored stones, so there!!!
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
18 Nov 09
I thought someone else was meant to pay for them.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
sure if it's a wedding or engagement ring... but I'm perfectly fine with paying for my own pleasure if I can afford it!
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
18 Nov 09
Do you know I have never understood why Diamonds are suppose to be a Girls best Friend because as you say it is a nice stone but I have never been to keen on Diamond I have never had anything with Diamond
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
I actually expected you to say that puppies are a girl's best friend. :-) Nothing wrong with wearing diamonds if you like diamonds, but I wonder how many people get them because it's "the thing to do" or whatever.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
18 Nov 09
Well they are but I do not want someone thinking I wear Puppies
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
No, that would be bad....
@Wizzywig (7860)
18 Nov 09
I'm really not fussed about any precious stone. I'd just as soon have coloured glass. Cheap and cheerful, thats me. My engagement ring was a tourmaline with tiny clear stones (I dont think they were diamonds)& the wedding ring was plain gold - we got it in a sale for about £12 I think.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
Pink or green? It isn't really the jewelry or the big wedding. In the long run, either the relationship is good or it isn't. But I do love pretty sparkly things for their own sake...
@Wizzywig (7860)
18 Nov 09
Green. I cant wear jewellery for work so I tend to go overboard with bangles and necklaces/pendants when I go out... usually buy them in supermarkets or shops like Rowfers.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
That is definitely unique. I bet it's lovely!
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Diamonds have really been very famous, but in a poor country like ours, a silver ring/bracelet make your woman very very happy.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
It was that way here too before it became prosperous.
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
the trend here now is stainless, its cheaper than silver.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
And when it's done right, stainless looks nice too...
@owlwings (38090)
• Cambridge, England
18 Nov 09
I think that, frankly, the titchy diamonds that are used to set off a larger stone are too small (and probably of the wrong cut) to be anything more than an added sparkle. A diamond's real beauty is seen when it is a large stone and really expertly cut so that parts of it refract light like a prism and it has fleeting colours as well as brilliant flashes. A diamond is at its best when worn so that it's constantly in motion.
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@owlwings (38090)
• Cambridge, England
18 Nov 09
Haha! A good salesman ... or was he? Did he sell the cheaper one or did he misjudge his customer and not make a sale at all? Diamonds are a girl's best friend because they hold their value and they are not something that it's necessary (or good form) to give back to the donor when the relationship fails.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
He didn't sell either one because I wasn't buying. But he did at some point (sooner or later, I don't remember) do a nice job on setting my Alexandrite.
@Hatley (157944)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Nov 09
hi dawnald A ruby surrounded by diamonds sound really pretty. I had a very tiny little diamond in my wedding ring as we were as poor as the proverbial church mice. but had he had enough money I would have loved an emerald for my wedding ring. Another thing to was my husband was reared in the Seventh Day Adventist religion although he was not a strict follower. they do not believe in jewelry of any kind, which to me is weird to the most extreme.I think people have been brainwashed by the diamond industry and by tradition to think only of diamonds. I myself love the colored real jewels even better.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
I love emeralds too, but boy have they become expensive. I don't understand that mentality either. Or the groups that believe dancing is sinful, etc.
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@Hatley (157944)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Nov 09
oh dawnald the adventists do not go dancing either, and one minister told me I was sinful for reading magazines, okay thats when I decided I was not going to be in this church one minute longer. I wear jewelery and I love to read magazines too. I went back to my original church Methodist.There nobody tells me that i cannot do the things I like to do.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
Sinful for reading magazines, my gosh. I bet they would think I was an awful sinner. I wonder what they think of reading Science fiction, watching soap operas, etc. etc. etc.
@MsTickle (24976)
• Australia
20 Nov 09
When I was young, I too thought the prettier stones were the coloured ones. My engagement ring was purchased for me as a diamond ring because of tradition. When the first one was lost, it was replaced with a ring I thought rather ostentatious. One day I realised it looked lovely on my hand and I grew to love it and to feel special when I wore it. I still liked the other stones...rubies, emeralds, amethysts, but by now I knew the power of the diamond. I was aware that good things happened whenever I wear diamonds....wearing sapphires is not good for me. I've only ever had tiny rubies but I love them even though I'm not sure what their value is for me, same with emeralds. Opals are my birthstone and they have never been lucky with me...they have either been strangely lost or stolen. I've loved all my opals and miss them dreadfully but I don't think I will buy any more. Even my sister had a large, very beautiful opal pendant that she wore often. She had it on one day, and the chain broke but the pendant was never found even though everyone searched and searched.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Nov 09
Funny, my one and only opal ring, the prongs broke and I almost lost the stone. I never really thought of gemstones being lucky or unlucky though. Just pretty...
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@MsTickle (24976)
• Australia
20 Nov 09
It's my belief... and experience that gemstone do have powers, meaning and symbolism. Have a look at this site to learn about your rubies and other gems: http://www.annemeplon.com/meaning.htm (not a referral link).
• Boston, Massachusetts
19 Nov 09
Hi Dawn, MY birthstone is sapphire and i have a set of it--a pair of earrings, a necklace with pendant and a ring. I also had my diamond set. I bought this as a gift to myself when i worked in the. I love diamonds and am really treasuring it. I want to give this to my son's future mate/wife as a gift and that will be decades from now.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
That will be a lovely gift. I like sapphires too...
• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Nov 09
...i have black and blue sapphire. i really love them dawn!
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
18 Nov 09
My wedding band is a gold band. A heirloom as it came from my husband's great grandmother, he's wearing his great grandfather a man he never got to meet. My engagement ring is our birthstones. I don't get the whole "Diamond" thing myself... Too flashy if you ask me!
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
That's really nice that you have an heirloom ring! What's your birthstone?
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Ruby, and my husband's is the purple one! lol! Amethyst maybe? is that the name. It's funny his birthstone is my favorite color, mine is his favorite color... though red is one of my fave colors.
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
18 Nov 09
Well i dont know about girls choice about these expensive things.... but i want to know what the impact of rubies or diamond on the girls mind.....
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Nov 09
Well, for me, it's the beauty of the thing. A nice piece of jewelry is beautiful and seeing it makes me happy, much like a beautiful piece of art or music.
@rucrazy4 (785)
• India
18 Nov 09
oh.... thats I know about beauty with these stones... but i am happy to know about girls choice about stones...thanks for sharing your view...
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@katsmeow1213 (28845)
• United States
21 Nov 09
Although I've been married 6 1/2 years, I still only have an engagement ring, and I didn't even get that until about 6 months after our wedding. It is a very small diamond, and he picked it out himself, I had no say at all. I do like the looks of other gems, but I'm very traditional and like simple things. I've told him I don't want anything fancy for a wedding ring, just your average everyday wedding band, kind of like what he has. Maybe eventually I'll get it, but I'm in no hurry.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Nov 09
Technically mine is just an engagement ring too. I had a plain gold band to go with it but when we had it remade and added diamonds, the gold band went away. Next remake I plan to fix that.
20 Nov 09
My engagement ring is a red garnet surrounded by diamonds in white gold. I wanted a garnet engagement ring primarily because of what the garnet stone means. Garnet is the stone if you need/want to commit to something - person or purpose or yourself. It helps you to express love and understanding to your commitments. It is also protective and stabilising and wards off anything disruptive or chaotic. It also keeps two people magikally connected. Diamond is the stone for love and harmony, it brings confidence to your emotions and trust and fidelity to relationships and reconciles quarelling lovers. I think this combination is good, garnet and diamond, especially when you know the meaning and power of each stone. My wedding ring is white gold and has diamonds on it and my eternity ring is white gold, set with diamonds. I picked my engagement and wedding rings but hubby picked the eternity ring. I think it's all down to personal preference or what we're given.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Nov 09
I bet that looks really lovely!
@sacmom (14338)
• United States
20 Nov 09
They are?!? Why the hell didn't someone tell me??? LOL For me, it's more tradition, I think. I always wanted a diamond solitaire ring. It didn't have to be big. In fact, the one I originally wanted was just a little chip of a thing! LOL My husband is the one that insisted on getting something bigger. I didn't want it too big though as I don't care for the gaudy look! It's just not my style! LOL So, we settled on close to a quarter carat. The jeweler that we went to had a couple in our price range. The first one my husband didn't like. It was all cloudy with rainbowy. Personally I didn't care if it had rainbows...it was still a diamond, after all! Plus it was less expensive than the other one. But my husband convinced me to get the one that I have now, which is pretty near flawless, for a diamond. I never cared for rubies myself. And here it's my birthstone! Go figure! LOL They're pretty and all, but I prefer something darker, like a garnet. I wouldn't want it for a wedding ring though. Something about it just doesn't seem right. So, I got a diamond instead. Happy mylotting!
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Nov 09
Garnet is my gemstone. I like them too. Actually almost any gemstone is good with me. I'm really picky about diamonds though. I have to really, really like the setting. And usually that ends up putting it out of my price range.
19 Nov 09
I have to say that when me and my fiance were talking about rings we went to walmart, we're young and we're on a budget, shoot I was excited enough just to be getting a ring! We looked at some very lovely rings, I even was looking at the cubic zirconia rings, which they look so close to a diamond its almost hard to tell and cost close to half the cost. In the end I told my fiance that I did not want an engagement ring, I told him our wedding bands (which we are wearing before we are legally married) was enough, its the point that we are proving is that we love each other enough to be committed to each other. The engagement ring is mainly for show, yes they are pretty and yes they are nice to wear but I feel down the road its just for show.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
The relationship is much more the important thing. You could have the most beautiful diamond in the world and if the marriage is rotten, what's the point?
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I wear a diamond ring that my mother gave me. I love it very much. I love any pretty jewelry altho i don't wear much.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Nov 09
Nice to have something from your mom. I have some of my mom's jewelry too, though it mostly went to (or is being kept for) the grandkids. Some of her things came from great-aunts and my great-grandmother and so on...