Old Friends You Happen to Meet

United States
November 18, 2009 7:27pm CST
Today while shopping for one of my clients I ran into an old friend. We have known each other since our teens. I told her that she looked very tired. She said she was tired and depressed. I asked her what was going on with her and maybe she would like to compare. Then I said, let me go first. When I told her what was happening with my children she looked stunned. She said I looked great for having so much negative things happening around me. I told her that you have to put aside the negative and look for the positive. It is there if you look for it. Do not let the darkness consume you. She started crying. She thought of a good memory of when we were younger. I hugged her and told her that she needed to reach out to her friends. I will always be there. She only lives down the road from me. Although she asked me to come visit her, I told her that it would be better for her to visit me. I come home to rest at the end of my day and rarely venture out after I am home. She said she would visit. If she doesn't, I will appear unexpectedly upon her doorstep. People go in and out of your life on a daily basis. Friends remain forever.
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@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
19 Nov 09
This is very spplicable to my situation. I know I have to move on be as positive as possible. As I havent been on My Lot for over one year, Im not uptodate on your situation with your kids. My daughter is now 16. Shes had a traumatic year, mostly with her step father. But like me, she is makes efforts to be positive. Friends help a lot & obviously you are a good friend to people you know.
• United States
19 Nov 09
Very glad to see you back. Sorry that your daughter is going through tough times. Remaining positive is the best way to deal with it. Life is too short to fret and worry.
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• United States
19 Nov 09
It is nice when you run into old friends. I've caught back up with a few old friends from high school and it's nice to see each other again and spend some time with them. I hope she does stop by to visit with you sometime. And if not you could stop by her house and visit with her. When you have so much negative things going on in your life you have to try to be positive to try to keep from being depressed. I've got some things going on in my life right now and I started to get depressed and then I thought I just need to remain positive and not dwell on the negative things going on. I'll just pray about it and let God take care of it.
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• United States
19 Nov 09
God is there for us when we need him. I have turned my worries over to God. Sometimes they come back and tap me on the shoulder and weigh me down. But, I shake them off.
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
19 Nov 09
You have a nice heart, and I think she sounds like you are just what she needs, someone to lift her up out of depression, it is a good thing you are doing, I hope it all goes well.
• United States
19 Nov 09
I hope that she will come around. But, if she doesn't, I will be there when she least expects it.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
19 Nov 09
That is so true! I have a few friends I don't get to see often...but I know if anything were to happen that I could call them and they would be there in an instant!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
19 Nov 09
That is good and I do hope that she will stay in touch with you as it sounds like she needs a Friend and why not someone like you who is so sweet and caring Hugs
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@Lornal (113)
• China
19 Nov 09
You are so kind and your friend is luck. I think your friend need you, wish she will visit you. Friends remain forever, thank you, i think i also need friends help. During this time, i met trouble and make me sad, today my friend visit me and i am so happy.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
19 Nov 09
It is very nice to run into old friends or hear from them. I had one call me last week & it just made my day. Hope y'all can renew the closeness u must have had at one time.
@ElanaS1 (15)
• United States
19 Nov 09
You sound like a good friend. You are right, there is always something good in our lives. Some people get in an early bad habit of seeing the glass half empty and it never changes. If one takes positive action in some direction, usually in the direction of helping a worthy cause or reaching out to another, they will find themselves feeling much better about their lives.
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@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
19 Nov 09
The other day,I run across an old schoolmate on a bus for the first time since we left our middle school.We werent in the same class so we never got in touch for the last 11 years.She changes a lot.She's much taller and prettier than the one in my memory.On the contrary,I may not seem to change much.Im upset I dont look pretty as I want and Im also not as slender as she is.We shared stories after our graduation and found out that both of us are singles.Thats what we have in common.lol We both got off at the same place and before we exchanged our phone numbers.It was fun to get in touch with your old acquaintance.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I ran into one of my old friends a few years ago too. I was so glad to see her and she seemed to be glad to see me too. We got together one day and founf that both of us had grown to be different people and it did not work out. I still care about her though.
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@getbrowser (1715)
• China
19 Nov 09
friends - It's very important to have a friend in life as its nice to have some one to talk when in need.
Yes, I can't agree with you anymore. People go in and out of your life on a daily basis but friends remain forever. Friends are important parts of our life. It is a fact that us human beings are social animals. It is in our genes that we live together in communities, to look out for each other, to support each other and to defence each other. Everytime when we are getting into troubles, then our real friends will give us a hand and help us out of troubles. Even if we can't keep in touch with our friends, once when no one realy to hear us no one understand us at that time may be friends can help us.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 09
friends remain forever...i'm with you with that...but not all the times that friends will remain forever...in your situation,i could say that it depends upon the situation...
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
19 Nov 09
Too true. You sound like a really good friend ElusiveButterfly. Friends are forever and isn’t life that little more sweet when there is someone who you can rely on and who will offer a shoulder when you need it. I like your attitude in regards to looking for the positive in any situation; it is a gift to have the ability to turn things around.
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@patgalca (14605)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Nov 09
That is so nice of you. I have been going through a rough time lately with health, emotional and family issues. I felt that members of my writing group were pulling away from me. Recently my doctor altered my medication. When I went to writing group this week I was so foggy, my tongue felt numb, the change in meds was definitely affecting me. One person in the group hadn't been there for awhile and she asked me how I was. I was honest and told her. When I got home that afternoon there was a message on my answering machine from that woman saying she meant to talk to me after group, that she wanted me to call her to meet for coffee. It felt so good for her to reach out to me when I have been feeling like everyone else in my life has been snubbing me. You did a good thing and I am sure you feel good about it. That is what God expects from us... help others before we help ourselves. God will look after what we can't do for ourselves. You are an awesome friend. (((((HUGS)))))
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
19 Nov 09
You are a good friend for her. I'd like to also advise you to maybe go and visit her even though that is not what you normally do. Sometimes people when they are down in the dumps like that don't feel comfortable in reaching out. I had a friend that had a couple of really bad marriages and like you and your friend we'd lost touch after high school and kind of drifted apart. She too lived in walking distance to me and like you, I would prefer to have people come to my house rather than venturing out. I had all my kids still at home at the time and it just was easier for me. My friend was also very negative. We ran into each other here and there and always talked about getting together but that never happened. What I did not know about her was that she had taken to drinking heavily as a means to handle her depression. She passed away last year at age 51. I don't know if I had been more active in being her friend if it would have made a difference or not. I do wonder tho.
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@abckimi (63)
• China
19 Nov 09
A great frined is also a person who's willing to listen. You're really a strong woman. If she comes by,You may need to listen to your friend's story and relieve her stress. And that's the real friendship between friends.
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• Philippines
19 Nov 09
I have seen people come and go in my life. Some I chose to forget and some I refused to let go but have to eventually forget too. It's sad how something great can just eventually fade out someday. It is always a good feeling to meet old friends. I would always want to spend more time chatting with them if I could.
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I hope she does come to visit, it sounds like she needs a friend. We all need friends, like you said friends are forever. I try to look at the positive too, like you said there is always something positive. We may have to look for it, but it is there. Take care, keep smiling.
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@GardenGerty (102593)
• United States
20 Nov 09
I have a few friends that I really miss seeing. Right now, because of our work schedules, I really miss seeing my husband, too, due to our schedules. I have security, financially, but lots of stress and less companionship, I am glad that you will be there for your friend.
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• United States
21 Nov 09
I remember when my hubby worked 3-12 and I got home at 4. We only saw each other on the weekends for a few hours. That was really tough.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 09
You're so sweet, I'd love to have a friend like you. I sometimes miss my old friends too, because I feel they are the ones who knew me for years, and if they still consider me till now, then their friendship surely must be genuine and sincere. I hope your friend do come to visit you, because maybe she can feel more free to talk and vent her emotions at your place. Give your friend a hug for me, if she turns up. God bless you.