How to recover from a bad relationship

Singapore
November 18, 2009 10:16pm CST
Hello guys, hope you could share some! I know all of us mylotters have gone through a bad relationship either with family,husband,wife,bf,gf or friend. Would you mind sharing your ideas how to cope up and recover from such a bad experience. As for me, first i would pray,pray and pray! and tell God all my pain and worries and after that try to reflect why such a thing happened. next
6 responses
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
To recover in a bad relationship is not an easy task for an individual. This needs great determination and dynamism to continue life without thinking of the negative events happened in his/her life. The easiest way to recover is to face the reality. To accept all the things happened. This is through doing the same routine and not preventing from something just to say that he/she had move on.
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
True to what you just said, to face the truth and accept the things that happened, Life must go on with or without them.
@ccet26 (92)
• India
19 Nov 09
relationship is something which need a lot to maintain...so if you with by mistake develope the bad relationship then try to spend with those people whom you are ignoring as it will help you to recover your bad relatios.
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
Good one ccet26! I realyy think it's the time to look at those people we usually, normally ignore. Maybe they could really help us! Thanks for the reply!
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 09
Hmmm...good question...first, be honest to yourself..you`re sad,you wanna cry,just cry,don`t hold back your tears!you know, after my terrible break up 2 yrs ago,i listened to"OVER YOU"by Daughtry over and over again...the lyric is so meeee...how you express your anger,disappointment withouth cursing here and there..how you realized that he/she was never the best for you,then finally you started getting better.. secondly, pray,be positive..i understand how hard it is to think positively in such a situation,but you must try..sometimes,you wanna protest"what`s wring with me?why did he/she leave me?"and so on..so many questions left unanswered. It is good that you evaluate your mistakes,relationship etc but don`t blame yourself too much!not worth doing it..be sure GOD must have a good plan for you,but of course,you don`t know WHEN.tell GOD what you`re feeling,what you want, and be sure that GOD will give you THE BEST ONE in the PERFECT MOMENT. third,change your mindset..if you think that you are not worthy after your break-up,now think the opposite.I am worthy and i deserve someone better than him/her..wake up! it is not the end of everything!life still must go on... last,keep yourself busy..joing community where you can explore your potential,make friends,be confident.GOD bless you always
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
hello jasmeena, Very inspiring! i definitely agree with you! I personally belive that we could really get over with those events in our lives, one day when we look back, we'll just smile and say it happened? did i really do that? God is always on our side! Thanks and God bless!
• United States
19 Nov 09
Time heals all wounds. Sooner or later it has to get better. I just try to remind myself of these things. If that doesn't do it I just let out the inner A**hole and suck it up
• Singapore
19 Nov 09
Hello bobfoot01, Nice one, I agree with you when you said, time heals wounds! it's a tested one! If the person doesn't want us let it be right? Cheers!
• United States
20 Nov 09
For me I like to take some time to myself. You know how some people just jump from one relationship to another, I can't do that. I feel like when you are in a relationship you become a part of that person, as they do to you. After a breakup I need to take some time to get back used to being only me. Plus with every relationship you grow and learn something new. Take some time to reflect on what that is and how it affects your outlook on life. I guess plainly put I like to "just do me" for a while after a break up.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
I think the best thing to do to recover from a bad relationship is to forgive and forget. Once you learn to forgive and forget you will feel that the pain in your heart will suddenly fade. I agree with you that praying is also a good way to overcome from problems. But while praying you should also help your self to overcome from a problem. God helps those who helps themselves and those who really trust in Him.