feels like giving up...

@ckyera (17262)
Philippines
November 20, 2009 4:52am CST
have you ever feel like giving up on something or someone? huh! there are times that i feel this way. well, i always think and believe that i am a fighter and giving up is not on my vocabulary...haha but that's just what i want to believe, coz sometimes i also get tired and fed up and i think the best way is just to give up & give way...huh! well, let say you have a friend or anybody who's close to you. and you tell them that you don't like what they are doing, and they say yes i will not do it again...but they still keep on doing it, and when you tell it again they will say the same thing again and so on so forth...what's that? making you believe for a lie? huh! so now, i feel like just giving up on it and just do my things and don't mind them...since they can't do what they say will do and just makes me expect for nothing, then i guess, im done with it...huh! and i think its better than to be hurt. so how about you? have any experience of giving up for something or someone? thanks!
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
OH no Oh no DUn give up!! U should be more motivated to fight for what's yours!! Dun give up easily if u really care.. Everything needs time for an end, and it's about responsiblity too.. Nobody likes to be stranded out of nowhere.. Thus, give it some time, and thye are definitely not lying to u.. U must have faith in yourself, as well as your own choices, if u dun have faith or trust in them..
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
lol! no one can stop me when i already decided to do what i want to do...hehe they say, if i give up, i will be a loser...who cares? its better to be a loser than to be fooled! haha well, well, sometimes, its really tiring and my patience do have an end. i have limit in some things and when it reach my limit...well well. haha
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
and besides, its useless to fight for something that you don't really own and for something who don't want to be stopped... and what about responsibility?
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
22 Nov 09
Well well, your wish is coming true soon.. Before u know it, it would have ended in the way u wanted in the first place...
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
hi there... hmmmmmmmmmmmmm...who are you talking too??lol.. heheh!if your asking me..ive experienced that already a lot of times.. and you know that.. i dont know what to do if i cant hold to my self anymore.. and if im going to explode!..i think you can read my mind if what im going to do.. im not really a type of girl...who always stays to be a good girl.. i have my pride too..if someone steps on it and whoever is that i really dont care.. if and only im very full!of it!already.. i want to be happy too you know...sometimes i think that life is unfair.. but still i hold on to God..and He has his own purpose.. what makes me happy???to have a peace of mind..that no one holds on to my own decisions in life..marriage life is a lot difficult.. and in the first place im really not ready that time..sometimes i do regret.. life is tough!for me... still i dont want to think about that too much...i must be strong for me not to break into pieces... thanks!
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
hello best friend! well who am i talking about? hahaha secret! all i can say is that, in the life that you choose to have, you should always be strong and needs a lot of patience and faith... all of us wanted to be happy and yes we can just have happiness if we have peace of mind and be contented & satisfied with what we have... married life is really difficult & there's alot of trials and problems that are coming in & out...you can't avoid those things to happen...all you need is to have trust & faith with your husband...don't give and just hold on... that's part of any relationship and if you happen to overcome those trials & problems that's coming your way...you will be stronger in the future... don't give up just keep on praying and put your faith with God... with Him you can never be wrong... wish you all the best acie my dear...
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
thanks bff... yeah i will...just need time to heal.....lol! all i wanted is to be happy even in the simplest way ....
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
haha...time to heal? so you really are hurt! haha and where's the wound? ok then, i will help you to be happy even on simple things!
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
8 May 12
This situations always come across our ways even if we don't really like it to happen. Sometimes we have to let go of the person cause we are letting ourselves hurt more if we keep on sticking with them. Friends all come and go but then of course, we have to let each other go when we are not happy being friends with them anymore. Yes, it can be hard to let go but holding on and giving them chances of hurting you all over again is not healthy anymore. You both have to give space and learn what is there to learn. Analyze your own selves and be a better person. No one will like you unless you are likable...
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
9 May 12
Hi Vi! I think it would be better to say that people will like us if we learn how we like them too...hehe or we should like ourselves first before other people do... Anyway, such situation is very isolated for me, haha there are only few people around me who are like that. But you know, there are some whom i just can't give up no matter how stubborn they are...my parents, my brother and my husband! haha I will not be fed up reminding them again and again the things that they should be doing specially my mom. Even if they will get mad at me, and call me a nagger and everything, I will not stop! haha Coz I only want the best for them and if they do, I am very thankful.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 May 12
True! We should like ourselves first before other people learn to like us. Yes, it's not good to stop caring and loving those of your special, loved ones... If you truely love them, don't ever give up cause by doing this you are proving them that they are worth to love and of course, you are a family.
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
15 May 12
Yup even to the point of looking bad to their eyes...haha coz one day, they will realize that what we are doing is just for their own good...
@Hazelrose (2186)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Hello cky,Yes,sometimes and i know how does it feels.Any way that's part of our human behavior.There were times that we feel like no hope at all, but that's not true because God will always help us.By the way,just give her/him another chance may be your friend can realize what your saying and want to be happen.Dont lose your hope.Thanks,good evening!
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
hello hazelrose... thanks for those nice words... well, maybe that's really one of my weakness...but anyway, its been so long and i feel like i have given enough and so i just get tired and fed up...so i think its bye bye time...hehe coz i am just hurting whenever i saw them doing those things that i don't like seeing...huh! but let me see, if i can still hold on to them... good evening hazel...can we be neighbor in farmville? hahaha
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@Hazelrose (2186)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
Hello cky,Don't give up,and be patient.Give them another chance.Time will come that they can realize what they're doing.Any way,yes its my pleasure to be your neigbour in farmville.Ha ha ha! good morning friend!
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
thanks ms hazelrose... yeah, i will take your advice into consideration and i hope for everything to turn good...don't want to put the friendship on trash... thanks...i will pm you.
• Canada
20 Nov 09
As I read this I realize that I may be the one who will be given up on. My partner may give up on me one day because Iam the one who keeps saying I will change this and I have a hard time with it. I try but I always fall back to doing the same thing. I guess because it's something that comes naturally to me and it's hard to change that.
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
hello tina... ah okay, but won't you feel bad if one day he will give up on you? is it difficult to do what he wants you to do? well, i agree that we have those natural traits that sometimes is really difficult to change, but at least you try...or maybe just don't give any promises so that he won't expect and then feel frustrated after... hope your partner won't give up on you...
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
21 Nov 09
I def know how you feel... While I was with my ex boyfriend, I realized that I became really good at telling him what he needed to change...and was trying to "help him change" All the while, I wasnt looking at what I needed to change, and didnt realize that I couldnt make someone do something that they were not ready to do. In my current relationship now, I feel as if we challenge each other to make those changes. I guess you can say I am at the period of my life where I am ready to accept that I am not a know it all! I will be the first to admit that it is NOT easy...but I know it is all for the best in the long run.
• Canada
21 Nov 09
No Im not ready for him to give up on me thats why I keep trying. Yes it is hard to change and I do believe it will be better in the long run. There are things worth fighting for :)
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
I know what you mean with this. Sometimes, I feel hopeless after advising someone (in my life) or in a sticky situation, like I'm hoping someone or some people would change, and I keep giving them chances and benefits of the doubt, but the same thing happens or it's just stagnant. If so happens, I would just keep quiet and then move on quietly. Not really having a no-care attitude, but would just do my own stuffs, since the words are fallen on deaf ear or something. But I'll just try to take it with a pinch of salt. Have to..
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
hello zed... yeah, you get what i mean and i feel the same... sometimes, i just feel of just moving away slowly since i am just like talking to air...huh! i hate the feeling of being taken for granted...and so sometimes, my hurt feelings makes me stop from being a 'friend'...so sad but sometimes we just have to.
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@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
23 Nov 09
I agree with you.. that's why it's best to have some alone-time ...
• United States
5 Jan 10
This is something that has happened to me recently. I was in a relationship with a guy for 4 1/2 years. He caused a lot of pain in my life, but I didn't want to "give up." Finally I realized that I was better off without him and I have been happier ever since. It's okay to give up on people if they are causing more harm than good.
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
hello picquarian... sorry to hear about how your 4 1/2 years of relationship ended...but since you are happy with the decision you made and you said you do better without him..i guess you just made the right decision! and yes i agree, if they are causing more harm than good, then we must give up on them specially if its already hopeless or impossible for them to change... thanks!
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
I've experience that feelings a lot of times but I still try to hold on while I can for I know I can still handle the situation. But if ever I find it too much I will just cry my hurt out. Even know that I feel like I am the one doing the best to hold on to the relationship still I never lost hope yet I know its worth the wasting waiting for my partner to do his part I hope I will not regret it in the end but I do hope I can not reach to the point that its too late in giving up. Well I'm still holding on while I can.
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hello happy... well, that's so nice of you...you know, i am also like that, but sometimes, somethings are just too much, and when we are already hurting much, giving way and just letting go will be a good option, instead of hating them in the end for their continuous taking you for granted... but yes, as long as you can, hold on specially if you know that it will be for the better of everybody...
• China
21 Nov 09
I would only recoment two times.If the person is not listen.I would not suggest once again.I would giving up in 2 times.
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
2 times? huh! well, at least on my part i think i have given more than 2...about 5-10? hehe that's why i get really tired! well, anyway atleast you know your limit...but did your friends/loved ones know that also?
@rosey19 (952)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
Sometimes I felt like giving up someone or something especially when I so depressed and spiced up with so many trials in life but I survived it by trusting all those things that bothered me to God. I ask his mercy to guide me in my decisions- will it do good to my family and myself? So in every problems that I have I know I can manage and solve it because God is my shephered.
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
that's very good rosey...trusting everything to God and asking for His guidance..yeah, with Him, nothing is impossible and things will be easier and better... thanks for that...
@lindiebiz (1014)
• Canada
21 Nov 09
You either take them as they are or find a way make them not offend you, be creative and think of a positive way to end your friends annoying behaviours.
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
aw...thanks! i'll try but my feelings just over power me...huh! i wish i could do better and have higher level of tolerance...
• China
20 Nov 09
Hi,ckyera,i had have to givp up a friendship with a friend in the hogh school.At that time we always shared our dreams,planed our future,And we also skipped the classes together just to have ice-cream,a little bit crazy.But it was really friendship!Unfortunately,she broke it one day and never said to me anymore without giving me a reason.At last i found out that she didn`t like me to have other friends.What a pity,i don`t think that one person can only own a friend! Anyway,i still miss her somrtime.
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
huh! sometimes its difficult yeah, but don't you try to tell her that you don't want to lose her as friend? or just try to explain to her that she don't own you and that you also need some other friends aside from her? well, sometimes, jealousy really arises between friends and its ruins a relationship...
@Craicha (801)
20 Nov 09
yes i feel like giving up too, especially the time maybe i was in tired and in stress...giving up of lots probs going on...but in otherside i try to be strong and think positive .... as it said life is beautiful just learn to handle it and enjoy your life in a right way....
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
hello craicha, yeah, there really comes a time that we feel down & low and feels like giving up...but you are right, we must be strong and think positive and just enjoy life, don't let those negative things win over us... thanks for sharing...
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 09
Yes, I felt that way a couple of times. We all get bored with saying the same things to someone. But that also depends who that person is. Sometime, it's better to leave it, and let the other person experience the consequences himself. Some people just cannot control themselves and take things lightly. But you can never give up on your children. That's what parents are for.
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
hello Godmother! yeah, i agree with you, we can never give up to our children and for me, i can't also give up on my parents... but in this case im talking about, i also agree on what you have said, sometimes its just tiring to say things again and again but the receiver seems like not listening at all...so yeah, i guess better to leave it to them and see for themselves the consequences... but its just sad that we have to give up to them before they will learn...huh! thanks for responding...
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 09
I have felt that way yes many a time in the past but I never gave up no no matter how much it sometimes felt that it was no use I did give up once after 21 years of trying to make my Marriage work and put up with Physical and Mental abuse, I gave up as I knew he was never going to change and I had the courage after such a long time to say no more, that is the only thing I ever gave up on
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
hello gabs... something are just worth giving up...specially if it concerns you and your safety... as long as you are happy with the outcome, guess you just made the right decision of giving up on that... thanks for sharing...
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
21 Nov 09
Yes my Life is much better now and I know that I did the right thing
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
im glad to hear that!
@TrvlArrngr (4058)
• United States
20 Nov 09
I feel this way sometimes and today is one of them. I feel like giving up on myself. My 15 year old son is giving me trouble and it makes life so difficult. I know it will get better again - it always does. Cant we skip the teenage years?
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
huh! don't give up my friend...i guess all parents experience such situations with their teenage son...hehe just be patient on him and don't feel tired on guiding him...he needs you and oh well, we can't skip those years! hehe if you feel like giving up on him or on yourself, just kneel it down and ask for God's guidance and help... thanks and hope everything wil be fine for you & your son...
• United States
20 Nov 09
Thanks! I definitely need God in my life
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
you're welcome... guess we all need Him in our life.
@bettydeng5 (1696)
• China
20 Nov 09
I once tried to pursuade my father give up to smoke, but he promised. When I saw him smoke again and again, I were be very angry, but I found though I told the bad habit for his health, he can't give up his smoking. At last, I give up to pursuade him.
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
huh! i also experienced that once in my life...i always ask my father to give up his addiction to smoking, but he just promised and so i just give up and stop asking him. and what i just do is pray, that one day he will stop it. and now, he's no longer smoking! haha maybe it will work to your father as well... and yes, that's the case, we just get hurt when we saw them still doing the things that they say will stop doing...
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@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
I agree; smoking is a very tricky thing. One minute, able to stop; the next minute, puffing away again..
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
well zed, i guess its just a matter of self will... coz if you really want to do a thing, for sure you can do it. if there's a will, there's a way. and if you don't really want to, there's always a reason...
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Hello dear friend, It's not giving up,i would rather say...it's getting fed up,on a sickening situation. When someone gives a promise and can't be fulfilled,and keep asking to be given another chance,and after giving them another chance,still,it's another broken promise...so,why should we keep hoping for it? One thing i always try to do is...to fulfill every promise that i make. I seldom make promises,becoz, a promise for me is like a responsibility that has to be done. And i hate people that makes promises made just to be broken. When someone says or made a promise to me,and fails to fulfill it,i will accept it for one or two times...but on the third time...that will be the end of it...It is just like fooling myself and hoping for nothing. Sometimes,we have to give them lesson,so they might learn from it(i hope so) Have a great weekend ahead dear amiga
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
hello amiga! yeah you are right and i have nothing more to say for i agree with you... you are right, its just like fooling ourselves making ourselves believe & hoping for nothing! everything has got its end...even our patience! thanks jaiho...and hope that you are fine now...God bless...
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
im doing fine now dear amiga,and hope to be more fine for the coming days
@clocks123 (1229)
• United States
20 Dec 09
i am feeling hurt over this person who took my number and email address. he email me once and i had to ask him if he wanted to keep in touch he said yes. when i email him he dosen't email right back. this hurts me and i feel like giving up on this hurtful situation.
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
huh! maybe he's just busy or what? if not, then its really something disappointing... don't feel that bad with it, atleast as early as now, you come to see his true color...
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
29 Nov 09
I have had that kind of experience. I had a very good friend, or so I thought, but then I found out that he liked hurting people. He always did it on purpose, so he lost many friends. Then he pretended to behave well again and some of my friends accepted him again, but I never accepted him, as he did the same many things. I decided to give up on him, and I'm happy I did.
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
hello madteaparty! wow...maybe even i will give up on that kind of friend...but, you never give him a second chance? well, whatever the decision you made, as long as you are happy with it, i guess you just made the right decision... thanks for sharing!