how do you handle falling in love with a friend

Malaysia
November 21, 2009 8:08am CST
it happens all the time. you are good friends with a person, you hang out with them all the time, and gradually you realize that you are falling in love with them,what do you do ?how do you handle falling in love with a friend? will it ruin the friendship?
3 responses
@jugsjugs (13046)
21 Nov 09
I would never fall in love with a friend as that is when if things dont work out you have lost a friend as things are never the same again no matter how hard you try.
@x_Jo_x (1042)
21 Nov 09
You cant choose who you fall in love with! If you like them, then you like them! You can just try your hardest to not let those feelings get in the way. When you are very close friends with some one its very easy to develop feelings for that person. When you are so close to someone it just sometimes happens
@badbasty (77)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
i think that's one of the biggest problem i have..?
@x_Jo_x (1042)
21 Nov 09
Hmm this is a difficult situation. I think it really depends on the people. I think that for a succesful relationship you need to be friends with the person first. By that, i mean you need to hang out with them and have fun and LIKE spending time with them for their personality. So being friends with some one first is definatly a good idea. However relationships sometimes dont work and then youre friendship would most likely also be ruined. And also, once you have told the person how you feel the whole atmosphere will change. If it was me i would probably try to live with my feelings for a while, until i was more sure of his feelings. If i knew for a fact he didnt like me then i would say nothing, and try to control my feelings so that it didnt affect our friendship. The way i would look at it is: If he didnt like me in that way, then nothing will ever happen between us and there is little point telling him how i feel incase it ruins anything. If i knew he did like me in that way i might be brave and tell him how i feel, or i would definatly hint to him that i liked him in that way so that he could then tell me how he felt. If he does feel the same then i think it is probably worth the risk, you might have something 10 times more amazing than just a good friendship! Maybe a good idea in that situation would be to get a friend to ask for you, but not obviously, so that they can find out who he liked!