I just wanna run away from my house.......

@shona264 (167)
India
November 21, 2009 8:44am CST
My parents are so over-protective these days.My dad follows my every move and he yells at me terribly and I hate it so much.Me and my mom always get into fights as she is always suspicious over me having affairs.I have to take care of so many things.No one understands me.I have been so depressed.I want to be a better person and grow up knowing how to control this. Am i right?
25 responses
• India
21 Nov 09
very nice ,i like this discussion and it is very useful to me and hope for more good things
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@shona264 (167)
• India
21 Nov 09
Hi Paritosh, Can I know how is this discussion very useful to you?
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• India
21 Nov 09
Ha ha ..Good catch... Just kidding,...
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@prem234 (76)
• India
21 Nov 09
be with your friends that make you to feel better
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@SACHIN2708 (1638)
• India
21 Nov 09
Well dear somewhere you are right and somewhere your parents is right,see firts depend what is nature of your parents ,they are caring and worried about you thats why they follow your every move or they are getting in habbit to interfere in all moves so you beeter know ,well I agree that every people want some privacy and freedom so first you should make them understand that what you want and try to understand what they are expecting from your side after that may br this problem can be sort out
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@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
21 Nov 09
I know this is that last thing you want to hear, but I was in this very same position when I was younger (I am only 32 by the way). Looking back now, I realize that my parents always had my best interests in mind, and I also look back now and realize that I would have been a lot better off sometimes if I had listened to them more. I wouldn't have had nearly as many problems in life if I had listened to them more often instead of just thinking they were trying to control me and going against their wishes.
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• India
21 Nov 09
Hi friend, You may be correct but running away will never solve anything. How can a gold be made precious? Just in the midst of high temperature right? Just try to be yourself and face everything with smile and then world will know that you are one of the precious one that have been selected preferably. Living in a cool environment never makes anyone better and known to many with outstanding exposure. If you believe in God , pray to Him for everything and you will succeed for sure... Cheers... Have a nice day always...
• China
22 Nov 09
Hello, friends you want to learn how to face the problem, rather than to evade the problem,we must believe that he can face any difficulties which!
• United States
22 Nov 09
Anyone of us has to face such dilemma and difficulty once in lifetime. We love our parents as much as they love us. We shouldn't let them worry, and prove to them, we can better take care of ourselves. We will be grown up one day, and we will make many hard decisions on ourselves, it is part of our grown - up process.
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Being over-protective parent was normal but sometimes it may affects your daily life. If I were in your place, I'm going to be paranoid. They just want to make sure that you're not gonna have some affair. The best thing to do is, prove to them that you're different from the others. Why not? At the end, you'll be the one to decide in yourself.
• United States
22 Nov 09
try to tell your parents, you are all grown - up right now, and you can take better care of yourself. For me, I would tell my parents straightforward, I am ok, and give me a chance to prove to you, that I know what I am doing, and I can do it myself. Don't over react to this situation.
@getbrowser (1715)
• China
22 Nov 09
In my eyes,it is useless to run away from your house because it is not a permanent arrangement. Nowadays, there are many children who have met such a situation. You see, from your perspective, you have grown up and have the ability of how to control yourself. But in the eyes of your parents, they are worried about you because they think the society is full of dangers and they want to try their best to protect your from dangers. So, if you want to solve the problem, you should try to communicate with your parents. Communication is important if you want to make your parents get familiar with you and your inner world.
• United States
22 Nov 09
Nowadays, most of us have developed different value and concept through experience we got, and learned from this new world, new society. While conflicts between two individuals might arose. So, try to keep in communication with your parents, try to make them understand your point of view.
• China
22 Nov 09
what you have donw really hurt them,are they?Having a talk seriously with your parents,tell them you are ok and what they are doing is really harm to you.They will understand you totally,and they will always the first understand you,let them see what has taking place on you.
• United States
22 Nov 09
yeah, having a serious conversation with your parents is more important. Otherwise, they never know what you are thinking, and what you wanna to do. Communication is the key word for every relationship I guess. Even to your parents too.
• Indonesia
3 Dec 09
hai shona i think running a way is not solve your problems with your parents. it will make more worse situations. you should try to talk with them for your own good. have a nice day
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
Why would you want to run away when there is still an option? Try talking to them. It would be better than to run away and leaving your dilemma in replacement of another. Try to ask them why are they acting like that, and in return you should tell them how you feel and if you have any problems, open up to them. They're your parents, they will understand you.
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
22 Nov 09
I guess your parents did that, because they love you. Since they over protective, it might cause some inconvenience for you at the moment. Try to understand their situation, and explain your situation to them patiently. I guess most people without patience, they are tend to be more edgy, and conflict will be caused. Try to be reasonable and patient with them.
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
parents love thier children...they protect their children form they know its dangerous to them..they love you why they are doing it to you...maybe you have to talk to them.confront them, that you're hurted everytime they do it to you...
• India
22 Nov 09
It happens with me every once in a month, just the same problems you have. Just think about it and you will be normal.Leaving up your house when you are young is a great deal you have to start all over and for that you require great potential.I know talking with parents don't work.But you have to cope up with it only u know how? Once you create enough distance with them for some time(DONOT LEAVE YOUR HOUSE TILL YOU HAVE YOUR OWN LIVELIHOOD)then you will loving them once again just like when you was a child.You are probably a teenager, drop your ego, it helps me,you owe a lot to your parents,in fact everything,So just relax and think over.
• China
22 Nov 09
Hi, I think your parents do this, because they really care about you, and don't want you get hurt, maybe they are over-protective, but they just want protect you, don't want to hurt you, they do all this for good for you, so I think maybe you can chooose to talk to them, and tell them what you think about, don't choose to run away from home, you can tell them you already grow up, and can do decision yourself.
• United States
22 Nov 09
Well, I am a parent. If it makes any difference to you sometimes I just wanna run away from my house too. My daughter is 18 and going through hormonal issues. I am hanging in there though.
• Philippines
22 Nov 09
Hello,SOmetime we really don't understand our parents why they are very protected to us..just because they just wanted us to be in our right path..don't do anything wrong that make them mad at u..sometimes we just felt that our parents are very protected just because sometimes what we did is right but in their eyes it's really wrong..just think first whatever u do before u move
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
22 Nov 09
Hey shona, just out of curiosity, how old are you? I was wondering because I had similar feelings when I was a teenager. I think a majority of teenagers feel that way because they think that their parents are too strict and nosy. You're probably feeling that you don't have any freedom or anything right? It may seem that way but I'm sure your parents are just looking out for you. It took me years to finally realize that little bit. I couldn't stand my parents being so controlling when I was younger. They wouldn't let me go out late and pretty much nagged me and nosed around my business. I thought it was really annoying and also contemplated running away a few times. But I'm glad that I didn't follow through. It would have been stupid and there was no way I'd be able to survive for long out there. Your best bet is to sit down and have a talk with your parents. Tell them how you feel, they probably don't even know how affected you are by their actions. Just get everything out in the open. Find out why they are being that way.
@ccet26 (92)
• India
22 Nov 09
i do it when i was child but now i know that i have many responsibilities towards my family and i don't want to do it again..
• India
22 Nov 09
dont run away.tell them what you are feeling right now.they are your parents they have the right to scold you.just sit with them and have a chat of all that has happened and your feelings.even after that if they are the same i guess they follow the old principles.its you have to change then and not them.then you have to adjust and act accordingly.try to be wise.and dont eun away its your life.take care.by.