Beautiful - with or without?

Hi, there! When me and my partner haven't cross our path I used to put some light make ups, wear nice clothes, use perfume and etc. I'll make sure i look good wherever and whenever I go. Even if I'm home i do some effort. When we met and after a year being a couple the effort slowly diminish. I guess it is because we are already comfortable and accepted each others flaws as what you said. Acceptance has a big role in a relationship in able to see the other side. No pretensions needed. I admit that sometimes I am not comfortable of those efforts.

hello. Its good to be beautiful when you are engaged in a "PARTNER HUNT" because that will put extra points to you or extra charm. Looks is not really all that matters in finding a better half. But it is a way of showing that you are neat, hygenic and has personality development. In a relationship, looks is not also that matters but is love. But staying beautiful as you are when you are still single is also an expression of love to your husband. When you put effort to be pretty for your partner, you are making him feel so special and he will no longer look at another girl because he married the most beautiful one. Though your significant other does not make a big deal when you don't look beautiful or you would say that he loves you till you've got wrinkles, still there is a slight joy or appreciation of his being a husband when he sees his woman in a fresh and beautiful look.

As Chris Rock says, 'When you first meet someone, you're not meeting them, you're meeting their representative.' In other words, you didn't meet the person you're married to/dating looking like a hot mess so why is it okay to suddenly look like that after the fact? Yes, you love your partner for better or worse, in sickness and health, that doesn't mean that you get to not make an effort, if not out of respect for yourself then out of respect for them.

My partner loves me, I have this notion. Effort I believe looks beautiful if a person has a partner. Others flaws, personally, what do you think of this idea? I look like effort, flaws. A person with no partner will look beautiful. Pursue what you think. Look beautiful. With, or without. ----I took some words in the original post and made my response with them.

I would have to agree on this. When I was in a relationship, I looked like I was in my pajamas all year-round. Of course, I'm exaggerating, but that's just to get the point across. Now I'm single, I can say I've never been better in all aspects of my life, and that includes the fashionista side of me. I'm not saying I'm waif-thin, I have longer extensions, or bury myself in layers of makeup. I'm just a lot more conscious of how I present myself to other people, and how to take care of my body - in or out.

I dn't have a partner, so I have no idea if what I will do. I keep myself looking good when I am in a good mood. So I guess I won't beautify myself to please someone else.

I have always been the same and I do it for myself because my Partner loves me for who I am but I like to take care of myself and I would say I put just enough effort in to make me feel good and to me that I am acceptable but I have always been like that

I dont make as much effort with myself as I used to but then I have a 17 month old and a 3 month old therefore if I havent got baby sick or paint on me I am going to the park and getting puddles kicked at me hahah. When they are older and dont like me looking like a pianted sicked on muddy mess then yes I will make more of an effort not just for me but for my partner too!!

I think the effort that I put in putting on make up or whatever doesn't make any difference to my significant other. Plus, I typically don't do it for him anyway. I do it for me. I only do it when I feel like doing it. He doesn't care though - he always makes it known to me that I'm pretty or I'm beautiful with or without make-up (or clothes) on.

hi redphile, I agree with you. I think if someone loves us, regardless of how we look like, either we beautify ourselves or not, he/she must not care about someone's physical attributes but care more on what's inside. As they say...Beauty is skin deep. And true love sees more than meets the eyes. Because after all, what we have outside will fade in time but, the heart and sincerity we have will remain forever if we only know how to really love. Happy mylotting!

Make Hay While the Sun Shines.as you are happily married to your partner so you dont find any reason to beautify yourselves coz apart from your beauty your partner loves you coz he understood you which wouldnt be the case with the single people.every one would be attracted towards beauty nd if every thing goes well u would marry him.you cant expect someone to approach you for an date if u are ugly.hence physical beauty brings two people closer nd its upto you to understand whether he would suit you or not.gud day.

I just have to add that whether we're in relationships or not, we should definitely make an effort to take care of ourselves, look presentable and clean at all times.