People can't accept frankness?
November 21, 2009 11:14pm CST
Why is it that some people could not accept frankness or total honesty of one person? I tried to be as honest as I could and told them exactly how I feel. I just do not like going around the bush. Now, it seems that I am at fault. I really do not understand why?
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• Bangalore, India
22 Nov 09
Hi..Jules I am also sailing in the same boat. We will be very frank, honest and sincere to the people thinking that they are also like that. But they will hide many things from us and they are not at all frank. One fine day we will come to know that, we were trusting the cheaters and by that time it will be too late. I feel these people are not human beings. Any way I am trying to forget all these episodes and will be more cautious in future
22 Nov 09
Because they are easily offended to accept any remarks which greatly reveal their own real personality it could be an insult to them as some are pretty protective of their privacy and do dot like to indulge in a lot of revealing conversation. Though, being honest is a remarkable qualities it really irritates other people as sometimes when you do not like to carry a good conversation you are likely to hit a soft nerves which they may turn embarrass with the things you said.
23 Nov 09
Some people don’t like it when you present them with the truth because it means they have to face it and it is difficult for some. I’ve found that a lot of folks don’t like it when you say no either, especially if you’ve always been the type of person who was easy to manipulate; if you reach your limit and you finally say no you become the worst person on earth and all you did was express how you really feel!
10 Jan 10
Some people's sensibilities are hurt when things are told to them straightforwardly. It takes a lot of diplomacy and creativity with words when trying to get your point across without hurting their feelings. There is honesty and there is tactlessness. Telling another person what you feel is good if it will help your relationship with him or if it will improve some aspect in his life. However, I think a person should keep his mouth shut if he would only belittle someone even if it is how he feels at the moment.