When people come to see you do your children play up?

@jugsjugs (13045)
November 22, 2009 6:28pm CST
I have 6 children 5 of which live at home still and two of the boys always seem to play up when someone come round.I have friends that know that my children have sleep problems as well as other problems like ADHD,but it is the people that do not know who come round that seem to bother me what they must think about the children.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
23 Nov 09
I wouldn't be concerned with it, let them think what they will. As long as you know your doing right by your children that is all that matters. Most of time people will think what they want regardless of what you say, so wasting your breath on them is hardly worth it.
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@GardenGerty (99319)
• United States
23 Nov 09
That is correct. Some people look for the negative, and others are more positive and are really nice to have around.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Those that always look for the negative, seem to be unhappy. I know I can be negative and look for the negative and I know how miserable that has made me in the past and can make me even now... Don't let that be you, just be positive and who knows the positive may rub off on you. This is to both Garden AND Jugs!
@GardenGerty (99319)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Whether children have problems or not, they all seem to act out to some degree when mom has company and is not giving them 100% of her attention. Do not worry about what other people think, if they are your friends, they will understand. If they do not understand, or at least try to, they probably are not really good friends.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Other mothers will most likely understand what it's like to have the kids be a bit pestering, and then again some won't understand. Women who aren't yet mothers may understand and then again they may not, but regardless just be yourself and don't worry, like Gerty said, if they don't understand they aren't really good friends.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Nov 09
I think it is only natural for children to act differently than they typically do when there are new people around them. Sometimes this change in their behavior can be positive and other times the change in their behavior can be negative. However, you shouldn't really worry about what other people think about it, it is more important how you deal with the changes in their behavior. Kids will be kids and that is just part of their nature that adults have got to accept.
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@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Nov 09
Sometimes she did when she was small. She loved my friends and always wanted to say something to them. They always treated her very well and she would be excited when they came over for a visit. She went to most of out get togethers too and was the life of the party, she fit right in and all were nice to her and included her in things.
• Italy
23 Nov 09
I think it's normal, all the kids I have known play up when there's visitors around. My dog uses to do the same. If they see the attention id drawn to something else, like conversation, they act up to draw attention to themselves, I think it's normal.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Cant say that my kids did to much but my grand daughter gets in there and talks to them and asks questions she just turned 5 las t weds. but talks older. And My daughter sells Avon so she goes around asking people do the want to see the book. Just handle the kids the way ya always do and never mind what people thimnk you have it to handle all the time they dont!
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Well my kids have a tendency to play with other kids when they see them. Is that what you are asking?? This is something that they normally do when they get better acquainted with kids around their ages.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Don't let what others opinions about your children make you feel bad. They know their condition, they will just have to deal with it or walk away. You can't flatter them. Just flatter your children instead.
• Canada
30 Nov 09
We don't have children, but when I was younger and people came over, we had time with them and then if they stayed past our bed time we'd have to go to bed. The guests always came just before bed, so that we would have our time with them, and then we would go to bed.
• Boston, Massachusetts
23 Nov 09
Hi JJ, My two sons have autism and they also play up when we have visitors. But they are supportive of us and understand our kids situation. They even help in keeping them still and even making effort to calm them down. They are really hyper. But they are just sweet and have this "charisma" to entertain our visitors/friends that made their paying up somewhat CUTE and COOL!
@longbangod (1791)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Its normal for kids to play by time to time, even if with visitors around. Sometimes youll get irritated but you cannot do anything about it. Never mind what other people will say, I'm sure most of them understand especially those who have kids themselves.
• United States
23 Nov 09
I think most kids act up when someone comes by to visit, even if it is a family member. Kids also do the same when you get on the phone.
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
23 Nov 09
This happens to a lot of people. Children allways act up when you are going for groceries, when visiters come by, etc. In the times you can least use it basicly. The fact you get bothered is why they proceed with their behaviour in most cases. They get your attention, even though it's negative attention; it's still attention. In a lot of cases ignoring your children can help reduce this. It can be hard though, especially if they do something that you can't ignore like hurting each other or breaking something that is valuable to you. Best thing not to worry to much about it .
@sasalove (1710)
• China
23 Nov 09
I have been discussing with my colleage who is also a mylot member for this question, she advised that she can not handle it for only one baby, you are great that you can manage 6 in your daily life.. It is really headache that the kids are playing up when someone comes to visit you, esp for those friends who did not see for a long time. Could you use the toys or food to calm them down while they are naughty? Or You could talk to them in private that they can get a secret present for them if who behave better? Have a nice day.
@jennybianca (12915)
• Australia
23 Nov 09
This is a diffuclt one. We all like our children to behave when visitors come around. I remember when my daughter was 2.5 years, and my friend whom I hadnt seen for a long time came to visit. She brought her 2.5 year old daughter along. Well, my daughter wouldnt share any of her toys. At one stage, there was my friends little girl on one side of the kiddies play table, and my daughter stood on the other side, trying to pull it away from her. It was like tug of war. I was quite embarrassed. Your situation is more difficult, as I realise it is harder to manage behaviour management with children with ADHD. Do they have medication? Do they have behaviour management therapy by a specialist? The latter can be particularly good. Would they be amendable to a reward system? What I mean is that you have a chart, or calender, one for each boy. Every time you have a visitor, if they behave, they get a gold star. When they reach 5 gold stars, you give them a small gift. Good Luck.