Do you have a neighbor who keeps borrowing things from you?!

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@simonelee (2718)
China
November 23, 2009 9:39pm CST
I was not used to this. We move to this place 2 years ago when my sister and her family decided to leave miles away(we where neighbors). We have this one pesky neighbor who keeps borrowing our things, at first they borrowed my mom and brother's clothes and they re-adjust it.(they get mad when my mom keeps reminding them to return the clothes)huh! Second, they asked a favor if it is okay to stock their food in our refrigerator, then months after their stocks for their small business occupied the entire refrigerator! Third incident, they asked if they can use our washing machine to dry their clothes(our electricity). Fourth, every morning they borrow our iron and as usual they don't return it unless you ask for it. lastly, what i hate most is when we cooked they always part of our budget,and often they are first to be served and often left nothing to us!!! three times a day. my mom keeps tolerating them![em]angry[/em ]Have you experienced this? Do you have this kind of neighbors who keeps borrowing things and other personal stuff?? What do you usually do if they are abusive?
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? haha that's too much! if i were their neighbor..maybe i will just throw the iron in their face! haha just kidding! or will say that...'hey can't you just live here in our house?' haha well well, that kind of neighbor is really annoying and irritating and really pushing us to our limits! hehe the first time its just fine, but when its too much? what? don't they have anything in their house? looks like they are depending too much from you...or they are just thick faced people? so far, i haven't experience such kind of neighbor, although before, in my parents house, we borrow things from each other but not always, and we see to it that it was returned right away... our neighbors then just used to borrowing cash? lol! no, they borrow, hammer, pliers...things like that but never those personal things...
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Nov 09
hahahaha your reaction is so funny. i can imagine your eyes wide open. throw it on their face while the iron is still hot. Actually, there are lot of stuff they borrowed, too many to mention.hehehehe As i observed there are more than 4 family living in that house, too crowded. And only few of the members have a regular job. They are too dependent to their neighbors. It's okay to borrow stuff but not the extent that they return it with damage and often denied that they borrowed hmmmm... they often claim our kitchen utensils. here's a thing, they also borrowed our toilet pump!yucks!!! By the way i like your avatar! cool!
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
haha...simone, i always appear to be funny on you? hehe but yeah i know i am...and not only that...aside from my eyes nbeing wide open...you will also see my eyebrows raising so high! haha and my hair becomes even more curly out of too much irritation! hahaha really? such a big family! what kind of place are you living? a subdivision? coz in our place, its just kinda normal borrowing something from each other coz houses are really close to each other...(sometimes even 'dingding lang ang pagitan') and most of our neighbors back then are also relatives... anyway, i think its really not a good practice to be that dependent to our neighbors... okay, there's nothing wrong in helping but when its being too much... or maybe your family is just too kind and pity them... still i can't believe that those kind exists...too much!
@simonelee (2718)
• China
25 Nov 09
hehehehe you're so so so funny! you're kwela like my partner's private nurse. A happy person. We're living in a village but not as exclusive as before.(frown)i miss the life we have before. you know what i hate this place, i hate the environment, i hate everything here! this place is so borrowing. It's okay to borrow but not to the extend they're going to borrow everything and being dependent to others. They really exist,kath!(i hope i mentioned the right name) and guess what, they are family of big mouth. By the way how are you?
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
24 Nov 09
I have had people that borrow to the extent that I've had to cut them off because it is clear that they are taking advantage. I know it is hard to say "NO" but your mom really needs to put her foot down. There is no way in the world that I would give to others to the point that it compromised my own family. I'm sorry to say this but this is your mom's fault as much as it is the neighbor's. It is horrible and disgusting that they are taking advantage of her as they obviously are. At the same time....she really is allowing it to happen. There is now way that I would feed my neighbors and not my children. Maybe you can talk to her or push her to say no to them. Or maybe you can speak up to them and tell them enough is enough.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi, there. yeah! she is also responsible why all these things happening. I keep telling her that they are abusing her kindness. What i really hate most is when they got nothing from us they start making up stories. I told my mom that everything has a limitation and she should know that. She never listen to me. she got me wrong, as always.(frown)This is one one things we argued. There's now a gap between us because of this pesky neighbors!
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Nov 09
Show your mom this thread. Most people here agree that they are using and abusing her kindness. They have their own business which tells me that they are not destitute. they use your refrig for their food which tells me that they are not without food and yet they borrow your food???? Washing and drying clothes at your place does run up the electric bill quite a bit. I know because at times my daughters come over and borrow mine. Borrowing her clothes and then adjusting them to fit themselves is not just using her. It is so disrespectful that I can't think of the right words to describe it. She must get agitated with all of this. What next? Is she going to let them into her bank account? They are pretty much having her support them and she is going right along with it and letting it happen. These types of people just prey on people like your mom that don't have the gumption to say "no". As for what they say about you when you do say no.......who cares?? Really ....let them talk. Anyone that matters is not going to listen to them. If I cared about what people said about me then I'd be more embarrassed for them to discover that I'm letting people like this walk all over me. She's really ok with giving to them like this??? It doesn't bother her to tell you that you can't eat because she fed them???
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
I don't have neighbors like, my friend. Our neighbors here did not do that. I think you should talk to your neighbor about that matter for her buy their own if not instantly bring back the borrowed stuff...have a nice day!
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Nov 09
HI, there. nice to see you again. Thank you for dropping by. I don't think they will listen. I recently found out that their former neighbor complaint because they borrowed air bed and for more than 2 years they haven't return it. they are like really born being leech!
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
If they are not listen, my friend. Just says a words that have a little peppery to touch their ego. That kind of neighbor should not be tolerated because it ruin the relationship of the community...
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Its so good to be true..Damn..I think I'm more mad to your mom than to your neighbor..Its all you moms fault..Sorry..But its true..Their lots of thinks in live that you need to draw a line..And That's to much for me.. Even if I'm new at that place, I can only help my neighbor in special way.. But extra help..da.. Also who is your neighbor? Are you blood related or a totally stranger neighbor until they start borrowing things from your mom? .... Still I insist..make your mom stop doing that..it just to letter word.."No" enough is enough..common for God sake..they maybe laughing behind your back for soo...*&*^&^&*.. get may point?
@simonelee (2718)
• China
9 Dec 09
hello, again. Nope. they are totally strangers when they start borrowing things from us. Actually it's my first time to encountered people like this. they don't really know the word "shame". yeah! i know. its my mom fault why they keep abusing us. I wished we live in other street.lol This neighbor is a leech to our community. They are too dependent in their surroundings.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
25 Nov 09
OMG! They sound extremely painful! I’ve had annoying neighbours in the past but not quite that bad! It would be difficult but someone is going to have to talk to these people because you surely cannot go on this way. Maybe you could start by saying no the next time they ask for something and explain why, not easy but it sure sounds like they’re taking full advantage of you. We used to live next door to a very old lady who had the habit of just letting herself in our house; we would be sitting at the table eating lunch and the next thing, there she is standing in the middle of our kitchen! She was sweet and very old and that is the only reason she got away with it although it was quite unnerving to find her in our house when we weren’t expecting it!
• United States
26 Oct 10
im right with you on this my neighbors wont stop either ,so i will stop them but the parent are the stupid ones they send the kids over to get stuff all the time and it is bad so i may hurt someones feelings but i has to be done. i really dont mind helping the ones that are trying to help them selfs.but the others can hang it up.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Oh that is really annoying, your neighbor is just taking advantage of your being so kind with them.Because of being so familiar with your family, it seems that they are abusing, you have to talk to say no to them because enough is enough, i am just glad that i don't have a neighbor like yours and if i do, i will of course not tolerate this manner.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hello, xannebell! i guess there are people who doesn't what shame is. It's already in their blood! Their face are thicker than the callus on their feet. If you are in our situation you probably die young.hahahhahah Oh, God! The nerve! Thanks for commenting. Have a great day!
@BART78 (2932)
• Canada
24 Nov 09
i living alone in my apartment in my neighbors are great people especially my foreigner neighbors, most of the time they borrow my barbeque grill and when they return it i have roasted chicken/beef/fish or port in return...i don't problems with them...
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Nov 09
Its so nice to have foreign neighbors. we used to live in a place so opposite in our current situation. Well, i guess i have to learn and love my neighbors though there are shameless. i just hope this coming new year God will bless them.
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
It seems like they were so shameless. That's not good. If I were your mother, I'll be frank and tell your neighbors all my rancor. How rude they are to be like that without shame. That was too much. I hate neighbors like that. It isn't normal for us to have a neighbor who doesn't know what shameless means.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
25 Nov 09
They really were. It's innate to them. They are not only shameless but also when they talk they keep shouting even if the the person is next to him/her. I hate this family so much. they have everything, everything about negative. Shame on them! TSk!
@anniege (203)
• China
24 Nov 09
So I am lucky. I haven't met such neightors. But if someday I meet someone. I will tell she/he"ok, you just keep it,no need return to me anymore". I think she/he will realise what a shame.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Nov 09
hahaha my neighbors are immune to that. they already have our electric fan, though it's damage but they ask for it. I guess there are people who doesn't know the word "shame". Well, i just hope they survive on that kind of attitude. Thank you for participating anniege.
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Your mom was right. One is enough, two is too much and three is a poison. You should let your neighbor knew that enough is enough. I don't want to have neighbors like yours. And if I do, I would never let them borrow or used my stuff.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
3 Dec 09
Hmmm... let me clear... my mom is the one who keeps tolerating our neighbors. last night another neighbor came to borrow my headset for she has no headset to use to converse with her chat mate. When I refuse my mom to lend my unit she frown and walked away. I don't want other person to use my headset because its unhygienic. Its a personal thing.
• United States
24 Nov 09
I would have to simply explain to them that you can not afford to keep giving them these things. Tell them times are tough but you are sorry. Or when they ask for something, just simply say: I am sorry, I can't. Don't give them a reason why. IF they don't take the hint then break it down to them. Yes, I have one of these neighbors too. Practice every day in the mirror saying no, and then work your nerve up to say it once and just see what happens. It may start a trend, and the end results will be positive.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Nov 09
Hi, Barbara. my neigbor make sure that they say it directly to my mom or i'm not around because they know that my mom wont say no. They are also aware that i get pissed off. I decline them several times so they never dare asked me again a favor.
@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
24 Nov 09
I have not experienced this to that extreme. That is bad. Mostly you get neighbors who want to borrow things and not return them. In this case, I usually say sorry I don't have it. That keeps them from bothering us for awhile.
@simonelee (2718)
• China
24 Nov 09
My mom doesn't know how to say "NO" to them. I talked to my mom several times and complained but she keeps tolerating them. I also an e-mail my dad regarding our situation. I just hope things would change as soon as possible.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
21 Dec 09
I didn't have a neighbor who borrowed things, but I had someone who used to borrow money from me. I used to visit this particular home where I used to eat. This lady was running a mess and we used to all pay her on a monthly basis and eat over there. She was damn cunning and smart. She was literally extorting me for money. I would have just paid her 400 bucks and bought monthly tokens from her, but still wouldn't be content with it, and she would keep borrowing 10 bucks or 50 bucks all the time. And finally, when it would be time to return the money, she would say, "I will deduct it from your next month's account". I was damn irritated about this. I would refuse her so many times that I am not going to give her anymore money, but she would purposely send her son up to my room asking for money all the time. She did this with everybody. I had a bad experience for three to four months with her. But finally I quit going to her.
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 09
Thank God I have good neighbours. They never borrow anything from me neither do I borrow anything from them. Next time if they want to use your washing machine,tell them that it is faulty. Take out the fuse secretly and show them that is really not working. The repairman came and needed a spare part that is out of stock. Take out the fuse from the plug of the iron and lend to them. If they find out that it is without fuse, tell them that you just receive from service.As for the refrigerator stock all your things to the full. Don't invite them over for meals.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
I had that kind of neighbor before. When i have a small store and small business too. One of my neighbor always borrowing goods into my store. But in the end thay cannot go to me for their emergency needs. And sometimes our things they got that and hard to returned.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
25 Nov 09
I dont have pesky neighbour like you do and I really appreciate that because sometimes I prefer to live in peace and quiet without having to be disturbed.And what is worse is if these neighbours keep your stuff for far too long and forget to return it and when they do its damaged or they dont know where its is.Consequently I prefer to always have my own things or do without the things I odnt have
@salonga (27964)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
Those are abusive neighbors and I would say abusive people manage to abuse because there are people who allow themselves to be abused. Such is your mother dear! Well I have no such neighbor and if ever any neighbor attempts to abuse me this way, surely, he will not last a minute in my doorstep. I will not even allow him to knock at my gate as my dog will surely run after him. My home is my home and I will not allow my things and my appliances to be borrowed every now and then and even cook for them when there is no party at all. I also do acts of kindness to my neighbors because I do love my neighbors actually but that does not mean being blind from abusive practices of my neighbors or anyone for that matter.
• India
24 Nov 09
That is very bad and it should be stopped...There is no point in tolerating such a nasty, disturbing neighbours..u should say no to them..In order to survive in this world u should have a strong mind and strong tounge..So next time please say no to them or just make them aware u dont like it..
• Malaysia
24 Nov 09
Oh, that's very bad taking advantage of other people's kindness and good deeds. Lucky, we have not experience such things. When I was a kid, I think we have the best neighbor, but they have moved to some place else. I guess what your family could do is just tell them what they have put you through. You have tried your best to help them in every way you could before, but if they don't appreciate what you have done, it's better to do something otherwise they will only make your life difficult.
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Hi, simone. Thank God, I don't have a neighbor like that. Our neighbors in the city are so close to us yet we don't know them well. We only get to know their names and we get to our day-to-day activities individually. We do not borrow things from each other. It was different living in the town when I was younger. Almost all our neighbors were our relatives, though. We borrow things from each like bolo, hammer, or saw. But it never got to the point that the owner had to remind one to return these things. Then came a time that my father was somewhat irritated that he told them that we lost our things, purposely to stop them from borrowing. Also, some neighbors in the town had the habit of asking for pepper, malunggay or other leafy vegetables that they saw we were growing. My father remedied by giving them seedlings and told them to plant on their own yard.