Does your mom mind who your friends?

Philippines
November 24, 2009 7:41am CST
When I was still studying, I can't just bring anyone to my home. It should me someone who's presentable, someone who loves to study, not into drugs or whatever negative attitude or habit. My mom would always be there ask and interrogate my friends as if they're having a police interview. My mom said, she just want to know whom and what kind of people that I get into, because they will affect me in one way or another. Yeah, she has a point. But sometimes, my friend don't like it. How about you, does your mom mind who's your friends. If they do, do you like it?
18 responses
@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
24 Nov 09
When I was in high school, my mom always wanted me to invite my friends over to our house. I think it was so she would know who I'm hanging out with and who I'm around with in school and what-not. When I went to college, it was different since my school was hours away from home. So she just asked about them. I think it's good that parents ask. After all, they just care and want to make sure that their children are with good people.
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• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Yeah, parents especialy mother deserves to know who their childrens' friends are. Since whatever happened parents will be the one who would be blame. They are responsible for their childrens welfare. However they should learn to trust their childrens. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Boston, Massachusetts
24 Nov 09
Hi Careguarden, My mom is the mom of my friends too. She is so concerned about my type of friends. She used to invite them to eat and stay at home during the weekends. My mom finds time to talk, share and laugh with my friends. She too gave them advises. She was able to establish good rapport with my friends to the point that they call my mom as their mom too. This happened when we were still in highschool and up to this time they still loves my mom. Visit my mom. I am so lucky for having her as my mom!
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Wow! that's really great to hear. Your friends were very lucky to have your mom. They have extended mother. And you're luckiest as you have a very understanding and supportive mom. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Boston, Massachusetts
26 Nov 09
you're right...me and my friends are so lucky for having a mom like her. those classmates of mine that she gave advises especially about relationship were all enjoying a successful and career and family life.
@bettydeng5 (1709)
• China
24 Nov 09
My mom always concern what friends I make, she think the kind of character will affect me, my mom like the person who are confident, learn hard, deligent, respect the elder, help familes do housework etc. Your mom concern you, so she will care what people you make friends.Have a nice day!
• China
25 Nov 09
mom always do that things right? Actually I'm not willing to talk sth about my friends to my mom until she want to know sth. But sometimes I will just tell my mom some bright sides or advantages about my friends then she can rest assured and stop squeeze some information about my friends.
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello bettydeng, my mom was just exactly like your mom. Yeah, I know that my mom was only looking what is best for me. But there are some people which I like to be friends with, because I'm happy with their company but mom won't allow me to be with me. I know what is good and bad, I just wish my mom have given me a little bit trust. But that was all over. I understand my mom. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi, careguarden, I can understand your mother. Every mother has the same idea. They hope their children can make good and honest friends,They are afraid that their children may affected by some bad friends, anyway, people are easily affected by friends' behaviors, in a longer time , they will do what their friends do. So don't blame your mother, she did so just because she loves you so much though she 's a little overdone. You can talk sincerely with your mother and let her know your thoughts,I believe she will also think more about your position.
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Yeah, now I understand my mother more, unlike before. I know what she did was right, and she only think what is best for me. I didn't actually blame my mom, I was just thinking that there are some things I think that I'd missed. But that was long time ago. It just come into my mind, some what if. You're right., Thank you very much. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@smile823 (45)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi ,careguarden.Welcome to mylot. I understand your mother"s behavior.Because my mother and father as well.Every parents want their children to have a bright future.Chinese proverb that said"close to red man red,close to the black then become black",emphasizing that the people around you influence.Now i have my own baby,i want to give him all the good things.Give your parents more understanding,so even after you become a mon or a dad,you may also do so. Good luck to you!
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Yeah, I agree with you. The environment and the people will surely influence and affect someones personality. I like your quote " close to red man red close to black man then become a black." This is very true. I know what my mom was for my best. I understand her now, unlike before. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Newpal (154)
• India
25 Nov 09
Oh! Yes my mom always enquire about my friends and the type of person they are.She just wants me to make friends with honest people.She doesn't like smokers and drinkers and wants me to avoid all those things and avoid the people involved in doing all those stuffs.She appreciates me if I make friendship with truthful and hardworking person.
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Yeah, that's what also my mom want to make sure that all my friends are not into any kind of bad habit,especially smoking and drinking. My mom always reminds me not to try any of those things, unless I'm on the right age. My mom also said that I will only understand completely what she did 'til I have my own children and family. And yeah, she was right! Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@doniep (99)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
Mother's knows best! Mother knows what good and bad for their children. While i was in highschool i have been through many types of friends, example like nerdy, classy, weirdy and lonesome type of friends. I bring them at home, unknowingly at the time my mother was observing me and my friends, but she never choose my friends. She just comments or suggests what she had observed in my circle of friends.
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Yeah, that's what supposed a mother did, just giving advices and opinions to their childrens' friends instead of preventing them from hanging out. Since their children were doing experiment, exploring, and discovering life and people. What's important is they were always there who remind them what is right. You're lucky to have your mom. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@tictac213 (118)
• United States
24 Nov 09
O yeah! she used to do that when i was a teenager but not anymore. I think shes right otherwise kids as well as teenagers end up in falling into bad company, or they make friends who may harm them in one way or the other. As a teenager i used to think why does my mom interrogate all my friends and keep a check of them as if they are passing thru some security check post and getting scrutinized but now as i grow up i realize that it was the right behaviour and right kind of attitude and was meant for our better future. I love my mom:)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Yeah, what every mom does, especially on checking their childs friends is only for the benefit of their child. They just simply care and love. Even myself when I look back then, I understand what my mom did to me. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@RoseYap (51)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Yes, but it is only SOMETIMES. But she will advice to me, "It is you who hold the decision to chose whom what kind of friends would you have, it is you who will get into trouble for choosing a wrong one, it is you who will be down if they left you, but it is me who will not be the one who will left you on your suffering".
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
3 Apr 10
Well my mom likes to know about my friends and even i share her about my friends both girls and boys. She always hear to me, when i appreciate a friend or complain a friend, she judges me on what i should do with a friend and what i should not!
@eddify (413)
• Pakistan
26 Nov 09
When i was a little kid my parents knew all about our friends as we were closely netted families in the school and we were very popular anyways. My whole family knows my friends as I always take my mom to visit them and they visit me as well. In my view its better if ur family knows who are with it gives u and them a sense of protection. My family knows about my online friends as well.
• India
25 Nov 09
Well, In my home the same interrogation has going out what u mention,but i dont like this, but sometimes its help me lot... for a case, one day my friends are compelled me to do a group study in my home.. so i allowed them.. at the time of examination my relation has expired, so in a needy situation we pack to banglore and I gave the home key to my friends to prepare for exam and we went to banglore. but we didnt go to banglore due to accident, so we back to home and got shocked to see my friends in a drastic manner. they all having drinks and smoking.. my mom and dad got anger and scold them and knock out them from home. on that day onwards my mom being like a CID... Our parents always do the best for us. So keep listen to them words.. Thanks
• China
25 Nov 09
Yes ,she will,when I was chindhood,she also to tell me just to know the good students,didn't to know the bad students,When I grow up,my mother also to tell me this,so ,I think she will mind.
@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
25 Nov 09
There never used to be an interrogation as such. My mother would just get to know the person the normal way. My mother did trust me so there was no fear of me getting into wrong company.
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
Well, yup, because the most influencing people to teenagers is their peers or friends which they mingle and spent almost the whole day with them in school. Our moms just wanted us to have good friends that will be good to us and will make us a better person.
@monkeylong (3147)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Nov 09
My parents does not matter my friends at all. Theyy just treat my friends so well when my friends come to visit my home. They will usually cook some delicous food for my friends.So I'm so happy to have so good parents. Happy mylot.
@sizzle3000 (3040)
• United States
24 Nov 09
My daughter used to hate when I judged her friends. They dressed how I didn't want her to dress and acted like I didn't want her to act. I would tell her my problems with her friends but she didn't care she was still friends with them. So I gave up trying to tell her who to be friends with and just started saying my opinion and letting it go. But if I thought they were too bad of an influence they were not allowed in my home. So she would stand weith her friends outside of the house. They would chase each other up and down the street and just have fun. It was nice to see her smile. She doesn't have many friends anymore. They turned thier back on her once they graduated High School.
• India
24 Nov 09
Not at all, she never minds for that. She takes it easily. I have brought many of my friends to my home, she has accepted them all. Morever I have introduced many of my friends to her. She is very good mom of mine. She always back me. I don't have any problem with her.