would you be selfish in love?

Philippines
November 24, 2009 10:03am CST
hello lovers out there!!!how do you treat your significant others?Do you love them so much you have to be selfish?if not,do you think it's okay to be selfish?I have a friend and she loves her boy so much he doesn't want him to be with his own set of friends longer than their time together.The guy loves my friend so much,but sometimes he feels the leash is too tight for him.I tried to talk to my friend but i think she's already blinded..She just loves him so much.Now,do you think it is okay to be selfish in love?
3 responses
@gx7001lm (63)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 09
from my opinion it is not okay to be selfish in love to love somebody is to bring out the best of the person i seems that your friend is causing fear in her boyfriend now that is not love right? if you really love someone you would let the person be himself / herself as long as he/she does not hurt you physically and emotional as well
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
yes.you're right..ythank yu for the reesponse!!!:D happy mylotting!!!
@Genericbe (1379)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
It is not selfishness if they both want to be together. There should be mutual feelings to each other. It is unfair if their intensity of love have a big difference because this is where misunderstanding comes. If you already have a relationship and you love each other they would rather be together all the time like their the only one existing and it is okay if they both want it but if it is like posession where the other one doesn't want it is and it is called obsession. That is the time they should really have a serious discussion about it and try to schedule their time regarding the activities or events that they wanted to. Being in a relationship especially a serious relationship there is an obligations and rules should be set to be fair with each other. It is a give and take relationship in order for a relationship to work properly. Selfishness is not okay in love because all is fair in love and no one should be selfish instead they should give everything that they got to each other and there should be no secrets they should be open to each other most important thing is there should always be a communication to each other with regards to their own opinions and feelings.
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
easier said than done,but a fact.however,if you are really in that tough situation like me (about my friend's case)it is very hard to explain.she's blinded!of course i don't want to tell her she is sick,because she basically isn't.she acts normal,maybe a little bit insecure but normal.this is the first time she acted that way...and i don't know why she does...
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Its not love then..its owning..love is unselfish.. the truth is she don't love him..she loves herself..she don't care about him, she care for herself..so its not love at all. its owning.. she think she own that guy..it just that simple