Do you believe the saying "once a cheater always a cheater"?

No. People change and to say that if you have cheated once then you will cheat again does not make sense. Most of the time this is the case but people can change. There is a huge trust issue with people who cheat and that trust needs to be earned again.

This is hard for me.. I just found out that my husband, who fathered my 2 kids, cheated on me and got someone else pregnant... This is the first time this happened to me... That I know of... It will be a long time before I can trust a man again.... I hope Karma is a b***h and he pays for what he's done...

that us true.once if anybody cheats they keep on cheating.ive been through a lot of similar experiences.i have blamed myself many time for that.for still believing in people who have cheated me about 2 times.they cheat me,then apologize and become friendly.then again they cheat me.this has happened to me from 4 different persons.and since then i have stopped trusting everyone and will not trust anyone completely again cause all that i get it pain.

I don't believe in this saying... All people are different, each one of us has a different personality.. If a person cheated once, it depends on this person if he/she wants to cheat again or not... We cannot absolutize this matter. Everyone has a choice....

no, i'm no fan to this saying. it has in their veins to cheat you for as long as you allow them to. the point is, that they can change in their own ways and its not possible but they still do it whenever they can. you cannot change the older person in just a minute, it would definitely take time. besides, did giving a second chance hurt you? absolutely not. so why whinnying over a cheater when they can have a lifetime to change? its not too late, though.

for some man and woman wedding vows are worth nothing, not even the ink in the papers they sign, that is too bad, but that saying is truth for me, my ex boyfriends jump the fence a few times, and everytimes he promise not to do it again, but the first chance he got he did it again and the same thing begame again, posmises, so i decided after the 3 times, that was it, and finish with him.

well.if someone got the manner to cheat then he may keep that and hard to change but someone can change it if he willing to. that's not absolutely like once a cheater always a cheater saying. but bad habit or manners are hard to throw and that depends on different people.

I do believe in that. He will always be a cheater, no matter the gravity. Big or small, it doesn't matter anymore because that is still cheating. If he has successfully done it the first time, he will always do it again in the future because he thought it was easy doing it. A person who cheats can never be trusted. What is sad is when the cheater wants to amend his ways but he has lost the trust of people. It is always so hard to regain the trust of people. There is nothing more important and more honorable than an honest man. Honesty is still the best policy. I hate being cheated and I don't trust people who cheat on me.

I dated a guy once who cheated on me twice. He cheated once and promised he would never do it again, but he lied. I had been engaged to him and broke it off. Now I am married to someone much better who has never hurt me. I would never believe anyone who has cheated on their spouse or their boyfriend/girlfriend. I am a believer in a leopard never changes their spots. Once they cheat they will always cheat.

i believe that the saying "once a cheater always a cheater" makes some sense, but in another aspect, i believe that ppl is changing or be able to change if they are determined. In addition, maybe in some cases, lying is better than telling the truth though it's wrong.

If you have given them a chance to change in order to correct his mistakes then do so if he will do it again their you can conclude that a cheater is always a cheater. My husband has an affair with another woman two years after we get married & we almost broke up that time but I give him a chance to make up his mistakes. Its not that easy to forgive & forget or even to regain your trust again. Time heals but not as soon as we expected but I just give it a try & it works besides I have nothing to loose when we part ways for I know I am the one entitled for the custody of our kid.

ya believed that saying . if someone has cheated with the past then he/she .they never no what they are going to do ..in their future and they always used to cheat

Definitely a big YES, because as you've said its an addiction already and you keep on doing and doing it again eventhough you regret it after. Cheating as we all know breaks a trust of someone and because of the famous saying that nobody's perfect few people break someone's trust but it doesn't mean that we should not give a person a chance to prove them that they cannot change.

Hello kjess77,firisly I want to make clear that what kind of person can be called a liar or a cheater. And how about the white lie...

Omg, I totally agree with you, he will definitely repeat the behavior. I've been ... well I was... in a 7 years and 2 months and that was an on and off relationship. The only reason why, is cheating. I'm not the bad guy here.. he is. And still he did it again, yeah say I'm stupid I know, just because I love him and I'm aware that I let myself be stupid for years. I feel so terrible because just a month after he was trying to win me back. And I'm totally confused, I think I'm in a relationship again, I don't know. Although, I did told him we're okay. Shux. I'm gett'n crazy really. Okay, since we have a communication again, I'm kind of falling again. It's like a chance for me that I wanna take advantage of again..I don't wanna lose him again. Why is it always again. See, the damage has been done...Obviously, once a cheater always a cheater. So don't be stupid like me.

I believe that people change, but not much. For the most part once a cheater always a cheater but of course there are exceptions. Sometimes people can change because of something that happens in their lives.

I don't agree on that. There are people who can really change and avoid there "habbit" of becoming a cheater. Maybe it only requires that person a certain situation to face before he/she can change.

I strongly believe that once a cheater is always a cheater. But if someone has cheated somebody then i would not say that he or she had this similar behaviour in the past. What i am saying is that his past deeds should not be taken into question. But yes u cannot predict his future deed and of course i am not going to trust that person any more. If he can cheat once then he can cheat again and again and again. Thats just my point of view!

I certainly think cheaters are prone to cheating, but I also believe it is possible for them to change. Cheating's rooted in either an unsatisfied s-x appetite or childhood trauma- if they can reach a consensus with their partner that sometimes the issue can be solved. But if its something deeper, the person might need professional help to change.

no i dont think so i think people make mistakes and learn from it!!!