Men can fall in love in first 10 seconds??

@mawong79 (215)
Malaysia
November 25, 2009 7:43pm CST
A study that men can fall in love in first 10 seconds. With so many women looking for love, you might be shocked how long it takes for men to fall in love at first sight. Just how long does it take for a man to fall in love? Appreciated your sharing about your experiences and your opinions.
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@allknowing (130092)
• India
26 Nov 09
That is not love but infatuation and also a desire for physical contact Love is sublime and needs to be built up gradually.
• Malaysia
26 Nov 09
allknowing, I agree with you on this point. The only love that is instant is the love a parent, especially a mother, has for her new born. No other love is instant. This love is also protective and comforting and binds the parent to the child throughout life.
@allknowing (130092)
• India
26 Nov 09
I feel sorry for these teenagers who mistake infatuation for love and land themselves in a ditch!
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
26 Nov 09
I absolutely disagree with that study as it seems completely flawed. Fall in love in 10 seconds? More like fall in "lust" in 10 seconds. Falling in lust is really a chemical reaction in the brain, which is why people at times think they're in love, when they're really in "lust". Yes, I do believe that within 10 seconds of a man meeting a woman, that he knows right then if he's physically attracted to her, or lusting after her, but really how many men are going to fall in love with someone in 10 seconds? That's just not realistic, nor is it the movies.
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
26 Nov 09
Well I guess every guy is different in terms of how long it takes them to fall in love. My husband says he was in love with me a month after we were dating and that he knew then that he'd marry me. I just tell him that I was in the lust phase then and that's all I was thinking about. ;)
@mawong79 (215)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 09
I think every Men have different lenght of time to fall in love with someone. My hubby told me that he had fallen in love with me on the first day he met me... and I believe that men is attracted by sight. This is scientific based reseached.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
28 Nov 09
This depends on how you define love. If you mean love as in "I have a warm excited crazy happy feeling when I see her" idea... then yes. About 10 seconds is all a guy needs. If you mean "I have mentally determined that I will spend the rest of my entire life with this one single person, for richer or poorer, better or worse, until I die", then that is a bit different. The fact is, here in America men can fall in love with just about any girl that walks by. That doesn't mean that their idea of love is anything more special than "you make me feel good, and I'll love you until you no longer do that". That's not love. That chemicals in the brain. Love is something more than animal attraction to the opposite gender, and most guys don't know the difference. I can not count the number of men I have met who really believed they were in love. Then woke up one day realizing they never loved this person at all, and the whole thing was a very bad mistake. That said, there are a few who do know the difference, and you are very lucky if you find one.
@Lucky09 (1763)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
hi mawong^^;; i don't know how certain this study is but my hubby said it happened to him to me at an unexpected time and place(country)... he came here with a negative notion about my country and looks down on Filipinos. he was so disappointed on his first days of stay until he met me. he said his negative and melancholy feeling and that made hima cursed andlmost regret coming here was all changed after we saw/met because i welcomed him so friendly hakhakhak...well that's his story that he keeps about his love at first sight
@Lucky09 (1763)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
**made him cursed and almost regret
@funkeyguhl (1743)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
I don't think a man or anybody for that matter will fall in love in the first 10 seconds. There could be an attraction or spark but not falling in love. I am not sure how long will it take for a man to fall in love but usually for a person to really fall for someone is about three months. This is because the relationship has already gone past the 'fairy tale' type of romance.
27 Nov 09
Love takes time..May be it is just an infatuation thing.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
If that's the case...so men cant really be trusted after all. Falling in love in first 10 seconds is impossible. Attraction maybe there's a possibility it will happen. But I do believe that men can easily fall for a girl in first day of meeting not first 10 seconds.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
26 Nov 09
Theres no way. The only thing its possible to develope in 10 seconds is lust. Some people may mistake that for love but it isn't. How can you know you love someone when all you know about is how they look and you know nothing about who they are or what are they about? They must be rather shallow to love someone based soley on their physical appearance.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
27 Nov 09
Wow all of ten seconds geez that long lol.Anyway on a serious note I dont believe that is only limited to men and I dont think that you can fall in and out of love tah quickly .I am of teh view that if you fall in and out of love that quickly you wer enevr in love in the first place .Also I think that there are some women who are just as competent at falling in and out of love .Granted I believe that men would be able to fall for someone in a quicker time than women
@jinggat (16)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
In that discussion shown above, I have a doubt on that study. Falling in love doesn't take a long process but it also doesn't easily take for just 10 seconds. It could be a flirt if you say that you are in love in just a 10 sec. However, falling in love in 10 seconds could be possible to other..I suppose...
@Fireheart (683)
• India
26 Nov 09
Certainly not my friend,even am a man,but you can say we admire their beauty or physical appearance thats all but we never fall in love just by the sight without knowing the person, people who fall in love withing seconds are no more just that they might be impatient of never finding a true lover.anyway according to my experience we never had the feeling of falling in love with every single women we meet thats for sure.
• Australia
27 Nov 09
hi friend,i dont think so if a man fall in love within 10 seconds,if he does its not a love its onlu lust,you might be saying love at first sight,but for the love at first sight is also lust,slowly after second ,third,..sites only its turns to be love..LOL:-)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
I guess, men really do fall in love so fast because they are actually very much particular with the appearance. So with just a glance at a beautiful and sexy woman, wow, man! they almost fall and their hearts easily get captured..
• India
27 Nov 09
there is no chance that a man could fall for women in 10 seconds and completely i dis agree with you. men are not that easier to be attracted by any women. it takes time,more and more time. every thing starts with understanding which cannot be easily done with first 10 seconds.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
26 Nov 09
I believe that men can fall in love in first 10 seconds, which is frequently happening to the male. But falling love at first sight is just like flash in a pan and like firworks which can be earsily faded after bright flaming. I met one guy before and we fall in love with each other for the first sight, at that time, I realized that I am happy than going to the heaven. Then we date in another day, but curious that our love only lasts for one month. Now I think of the short love, I don't think it is pity as it is an inevitable result.
• India
26 Nov 09
Love cannot be instant contrary to whatever poets might say.You can be infatuated with someone, but unless and until you know somebody as a person which all of his and her good and bad attributes and accept them you cannot fall in love in the true sense. You might like someone instantly and feel you want to share the rest of your life with that person but the actually love comes much later, when you get to know the person better and actually accept him or her as your soul mate.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
I think that's what they call love at first site. I think it happened to me when i saw my wife for the first time. But i can say it's crush at first site because of the physical attraction. You can say that its already love if you feel that you need to be with this person constantly after you got to know that person better. Because love is not a feeling it's a commitment. Cheers!
@verena (56)
• Indonesia
26 Nov 09
Wow... is it true? I think it's faster LoL... I don't believe it at all. In 10 seconds, men are only attracted physically. I'm sure it takes a long time to fall in love. Love needs to know each other. And I believe that even in our whole life we won't know our spouse fully.
• United States
26 Nov 09
I believe in love at first sight. I believe in the eternal soul that exists throughout countless lifetimes and I believe our one true love, our soul mate travels through those lifetimes with us. Love at first sight is merely the recognizing of your soul mate, the one you have been with before and will be with again. I guess the question to the man who fell in love in 10 seconds would be, what took you so long?
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
i dont think men can fall in love in first 10 seconds. Maybe not fall in love but the exact word would be admiration i think. In just 10 seconds you only can noticed the physical appearance of that person but not getting to know the person. I think it is more of an admiration thing.