how can you handle these kind of people/situation?

United Arab Emirates
November 28, 2009 9:21am CST
there are some people who seems to be very unfair, that you haven't done anything yet and you just think of what you will be doing and what are you're plans but it seems to them that you done it already and you have wrong them already... that you are being accuse of what you have not done yet and you felt that you're loosing you're freedom to do things. That they cannot accept that fact it hasn't been done and yet for them you are guilty already! Because of that you are becoming more naive because the consequences has not taken it's course... that you become afraid. Decisions becomes scarce, you're freedom to think shallows your mind... That you know for yourself even if i do it right or wrong you won't regret anything, that you tried at least to experience life... does it matter how others think? or do it your way? or would you even care and take the facts that they are right from the beginning and never really experience life? Would you care to learn at the mistakes of others and not experience it on your own? Thanks to those who will comment on this...
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@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I think they just afraid that you will experience what they experience and because its regretful to them they don't want you to experience what they have experience.. The mere fact that they already thinking that you do what they afraid that you will do..because they see the tale sign that what they do before..That why they are scared that their effort will go to knot if you make same mistake as them.. But if you ask me if they have the right to stop you experiencing the same mistake as them..I think no..they don't have the right..The best thing that they can do is give you advice..Tell you the consequence of your action..And If you make the same mistake as they did..Then let them help you recover.. The best thing in life is to make mistake..cause when you make make you learn. If you take risk..you achieve We only live once in our life. make it worth while
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@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
I just have another question..Are you guilty or not?..lolz..sometimes we hate that people think we do things that we don't do..but do you also thinking of doing what they don't want you to do? Maybe they can read it on your face. or maybe your actions does..but anyway..they only think for your better
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
3 Dec 09
Nice poem you have sent below to another responder..
@free_man (7337)
• United States
28 Nov 09
Hello Jlexxx and welcome to my lot. There are some people that think they know everything and no one else knows anything. These are the type of people I think it is best to leave alone. They are not real friends they want to be praised at everything and they think they are so special. When in fact they may know a little or may not know anything at all. I have had a few people in my life try this same thing on me, that is when I tell them that their opinions sucks. Opinions are like our bottoms everyone has one and they all stink! No one is better then anyone else we were all created by God and no one was created any better then anyone else. I don't want to learn things from others mistakes. I want to experience life on my own and learn what is right and what is wrong on my own. I don't want anyone telling me what I am doing is wrong because they know better then me how to do something. I am willing to learn new things from others and learn how to do things the right way. But my way isn't always the wrong way. I really don't give a hoot what others think of me I try to live my life the way God would be pleased with me. And if others don't think I am doing the right thing then they can go to hadis as far as I am concerned. As long as God is pleased with what I do then that is all that matters to me. No one is always right no matter what they think! Have a great day! And don't let someone else choose what you do in life, it is your life and no one can judge you for what you do. God is the Judge of your life and no one else is. Tell them to go away and do what you think is right in your life!
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
There's a one way there's a two way there's a highway and there's my way.. lolz.. Theirs a lot of road to choose from but whatever road that we want to take we must first know where we going and what we need to get their.. But before we leave to take that road. Sometime we need to ask for an advice to the people who already take that road what we need in order to arrive at our destination safe and sound..also what problem they encounter along the way and how to prevent it.. And along the way sometimes we need to stop to ask for directions.. Some don't know, some don't care, some give you wrong information, and some are helpful, We are the driver of our own car, and we chooses what road we take. But if we don't stop to ask direction Or stop but don't listen, then we never reach our goal... Just a reminder from a traffic rules: Stop, look, and listen.. Arf arf free_man.. Just adding my thoughts
@free_man (7337)
• United States
1 Dec 09
You are so right if we don't stop look and listen we will never learn. We have to sail our own ships the way we think is right, but it is wise to stop and ask for help some times.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
What i have learn early in life is very helpful on my life nowadays. There are three kinds of people here on earth as what I have observe. The first ones are the people who can help you.The second kind are the people who will bring you down. The third kind is the people who are neutral who doesn't care and living on their own world. So by now we already know who to trust and cherish. I don't care what other people would say to me as long that I did nothing wrong to them. I live my own life...I am the master of my world.
• China
3 Dec 09
hi,i agree with you ,to do our own thing ,and let people say go.
• Malaysia
29 Nov 09
Hi, Jlexxx! Welcome to myLot! Perhaps that these people you were talking about care about you or because they know the consequences you are about to venture based on their own experiences or other people's experiences?? You have the right to experience life, but there are some things that you don't have to involve yourself in that could ruin yourself. However, if you mean that these people are preventing you from doing something to develop yourself and for a good cause, just let them be. Some people are just pessimist and they never want to support before you even start, which can make you feel discourage. Just remember that one can never know the meaning of success if one never fails. All the best in life!
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
You got their mind setting right.. They care so much that its killing you.. Funny when I was young they want me to take a swimming lesson..but they don't want me to go to the water that is 4 feet deep or over.. And when our graduation day came. We need to jump in the jumping board that is five feet high and the pool is 14 deep..And they expecting me to jump? crazy man.. Also They enroll me in a karate, but they instructed my instructor that I can't join sparring session because I may get hurt..And they expect me to earn a black belt. How how can you deal with that? lolz
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
29 Nov 09
If you have to deal with that kind of people, I'm sorry. I have had to deal with this kind of people too, and in my opinion, I think they have had many bad experiences in life, so they prefer to be suspicios beforehand just in case they will have to pass through the same bad experience again. The best you can do with this kind of people is trying to be understanding, and if even so they will still be the same, then it's up to you if you want to keep the relationship or not.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
I can relate to that..I tried to understand at first..but when the bucket is full the bucket is full. Sometimes for me its overacting already.. This they experience that and they don't want us to experience the mistake they done.. But in experience we learn..If they don't learn from it why they prevent us to learn from it..How can we learn from it if we don't experience it. What don't kill you make you strong..If it make them weak or inferior then why feed it to us.. We only live once in our life..We all do and make mistake one way or another..but the must important thing of making mistakes is we can learn from it.. Example somebody in our neighborhood got hold-up imagine..We are all in strict rules not to go out for a month! Imagine that..we waste our one month just staying at home because somebody in our neighborhood got hold-up..Life is about taking risk..It should be the thief who must be afraid to go out not us..