what trials you both experience that you never ever forgotten?
November 29, 2009 3:10am CST
one trial that we experience is that when time we cannot pay for the rent because of delay salary of my husband.so our land lady forcing us to leave the apartment.shouting us to leave the house so most of our neighbors heard and we are so embarrass and felt so bad that this is happening to us.i think that is the worst for us to experience degrading by someone.do you and your husband have experience some trials that you never forgotten?
29 Nov 09
hey,, if you don't mind my asking, but from what i heard , it sounded like you are unemployed and only earning member in your family is your husband.. that's pretty bad for a family... only one pillar to support the whole weight. so i would suggest you take up some job, even part time just to ease some pressure of it.. i really don't know what the hell i am saying to you without knowing anything about your life, so i will understand if you curse me.. happy mylotting..:)
30 Nov 09
My sympathies with you and your hubby…I really don’t know why some people are so mean about money…if that landlady wanted her rent so bad, she could have told you so privately instead of embarrassing you both publicly! Personally, I’ve never been publicly humiliated but I remember the times when both hubby and me were out of job and what a hard time we had…we did not even have the money to buy stamps for applying …no net then…even net was there, we had no computer at home so we couldn’t really afford the cafes…and when we got calls for interview, we did not have enough money for both of us to go…so we would actually argue as to who should go….then one day when money was nearly all over, I was so frustrated that I collected whatever we had, and both of us went out together, appeared for some individual interviews and then spent the day together outside the home…we did not really know what to do for further interviews and such as there was no more cash with us.
30 Nov 09
Hello amyson. You know these incidents make a person stronger. I recall as kid being shuttled from one house to another because my parents did not have any regular work and so could not really afford rent. I have experienced the shame associated with neighbors whispering behind our backs and relishing the scandal seeing us being thrown on the streets. I have seen greedy land lords/ladies who took the only furniture that we had and all we could bring was our hand-me-down clothes. But instead of being bitter, these incidents made me and my brothers strive to have better lives. It taught us a lesson to make sure that we secure our future and we all vowed that all hell would break loose if we would be thrown on the streets again.
3 Dec 09
yes they are challenges one have to face as they even males you stronger now that you are. as long as you keep yourself right and never ridicule others i know you would be able to surpass others problem may come in your way because of your positive disposition in life. take care
• United States
30 Nov 09
I'm sorry to hear that. No one should ever have a landlord that lets everyone else know your business. It is embarrassing enough when you have to leave and only a few people know why you have to leave. I think there are better things in store for you, though. Everything happens for a reason and usually when something bad happens, and we are having a bad time, it is horrible at the moment, but something good comes out of it in the end. I hope you ended up in a better place to live.
• Garden Grove, California
29 Nov 09
amyson the experience for me still reverberates as I am in GoldCrest retirement center and myson in gov. sponsored housing with three other men all looking for work. we were evicted as we were behind on our rent, so we were homeless, without anything but my tiny social security check. so yes its been a year and my son is still out of wor k. so I cannot forget this, it still haunts me. I want to be out of here in an apartment and it cannot happen until my son get a job.degradation yes humilitaion oh yes indeed.
29 Nov 09
well, trials is part and parcel of this life as i could not think of a person who never undergo life trials. though, it may comes to the point that you feel hurt it comes as a challenges to make a hard effort to pass on it. takes the experiences as a challenges and do better the next time around to avoid meeting such undesirable situation to repeat again. i do not experience it yet and though if i am going to put my shoes in your experience. i would still feel the same things. i just hope you never put hatred in your hearts and learn to pass it and forgives those who hurt you and may they experience karma.
29 Nov 09
hi,amy,sorry for the incident..we live in such a social environment,that maximum 1 or 2 years,lapse in earning also,people can survive with support of father,mother,brother,sister and brother in laws.. Few people save for at least coming 2 months expenditure in cash shape.. Very few faced it,that too if the house owner is very bad fellow.. By God grace,i am living in my own house with a garden mix up of lawn,flowers and vegetables.. I wish to have your own house,by next year this time..All the best and have a nice time.
29 Nov 09
good to hear that.were finally have our home and we are prove to have one even it just small house important is we have our what we called real home.yes the help of our parents is a bigger factor in our relationship when we are just starting to build a family own our own.