Interested To Have 2nd Child ... But?

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India
November 29, 2009 7:45pm CST
Hi friends, I have a lovable husband and a boy baby who is just 3 years old. My parents and friends are telling now you plan for a 2nd baby, this is the right time for that. IF you postpone later then it will be difficult for the women for delivery. So plan for second baby is good. I am also interested to have a second baby. bUT i am thinking about the financial situation and future career plans a lot. And I am thirties now. Little bit confused about planning for a second baby. Give me some of your opinions friends.? Can I plan for second baby now or later?
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10 responses
• United States
30 Nov 09
I am a little young, but the first thing you should consider would be, "can I give this new child a good life?" if you don't think that you can financially or emotionally support that child, then no, you should not have another. it usually causes tension on the entire house when money becomes an issue, and children are not cheap xD, not only does the child suffer, but so does everyone else. for example: you have another child but you cannot correctly support them now you feel guilt for the child you cannot properly raise, food becomes an issue, bills start adding up, etc.. after all the tension has built up, the little things start becoming big things, everything gets thrown out of proportion, and it can risk your marrige, and or happiness. but, if you are both ready to have another, and you can support the child properly I say do what you wish, being prepared is the most common thing people overlook when it comes to children.
• India
2 Dec 09
thank you friend for your response
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
It really depends on you if you can support another child go for it but if you worrying to much about your financial status you should postpone it. Having another child is very difficult because you going to start again like you did in your first born and you should also think about their future.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
It really depends on you if you think you can support another child go for it. I think your age is not a problem you are still young to have another child again. If you worries a lot about your financial status I think you need to think about it carefully. I agree that having a child is expensive now a days you need to consider their future and you going to start all over again like what you did to your first born.
@Wizzywig (7859)
30 Nov 09
I think the important point here is that you should plan a second child when YOU feel you are ready and not when anyone else tells you that you should. You know your own situation and how you want your life to evolve.
• India
2 Dec 09
thank you friend for your response
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
30 Nov 09
My best friends mom had 3 kids then 20 years later had a 4th. The labor was no different. I think if you know you want more kids, then start planning for baby number two. Put back some extra money in the savings and think about what things will be different with two kids. Then if you decide now is the time you are ready to go.
• India
2 Dec 09
thank you friend for your response.
@neelimaravi (1794)
• India
30 Nov 09
hi priya, if your financial status is ok, then you can proceed for your 2nd baby, otherwise wait for one more year, i think you are a house wife like, for my both the kids have difference between them 4yrs. they are like a friends, and if you planning for second baby, just explain to your first baby, that your friend baby is coming soon, then he will attend and think for his little baby. otherwise it is little difficult to manage your son. after 2nd baby, mainly you will attend to him/his only, then your son feels very bad. so, just take him also near your 2nd baby. then he will also very happy. i think this will help you in future.. thankyou, have a nice day.
• India
2 Dec 09
thank you friend for your response
@oit236 (38)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
For me,consider first your financial situation and if it's good enough,plan the second baby right now. Considering what your friends said,it is true that it will be difficult for you in the delivery of the child if you planned it later. Godbless
• India
30 Nov 09
thank you friend for your response
@spalladino (17926)
• United States
30 Nov 09
That is a myth that waiting will make having a second baby more difficult. If you had no problems the first time around, you're not automatically going to have problems if you wait. Your age is a consideration though because you don't want to wait toooo long before having a second child if that's what you want. My oldest grandson is 5 years older than his little brother and there are some problems because of the age gap. His little brother wants to do everything that he does but he's too young at 3 to play with the 8 and 9 year olds. Fortunately, he has a little sister to play with. The bottom line though is that this decision is something that you and your husband should make based on your own feelings and no one else's.
• India
30 Nov 09
thank you friend for your response.
@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
14 Dec 09
I think there is no perfect age gap for children. Personally I feel that it's good to have another child when you still feel that you have the energy. I find that as time goes by my energy level dips and I feel more easily tired. perhaps also because with a child, the child wears me out more! So that would be my reason for having it sooner. but another factor would be whether i find that my older child can take care of herself and understand the idea of having a baby sibling.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
14 Dec 09
Hi Priyavivek I think you must go for the second baby as the more you think about it the more confusing it will be.Let's get it straight,you boy would love to have a sibling the more age gap you leave the more difficult it will be.As far as financial situation is concerned I think that can always be worked out and anyways, second ones are always economical.When I had my second one my older one had just turned two.Its nice to see them growing together and the great bonding they have,Good Luck!!!!
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
It is definitely great to have your second child already since your son is already three years old. But as mothers we all worry about finances and the first 2 years of your child to be just in case you will go thru with another child. Especially you already have your first, you already know the ins and outs of what you need to have another son/daughter. I myself is in the same dilemma wherein people are telling me to have my second one already or the age gap will be too far off from the first. I would rather wait and make sure I am financially ready before I head that way. I do not want to have to suffer financially for something I can plan for.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
I think the important thing there is that you plan to have a baby when you are ready. Financially and emotionally. Not because somebody else told you to do so. I believe that their are some who at the age of thirties still able to have a baby.