What do you do when someone you don't know add's you?

@snafushe (791)
Canada
December 1, 2009 5:28pm CST
When you go to see your friend's requests on facebook, and you have no idea who the person is. Do you just accept it so you have more friends, do you send them a message and ask them who they are or do you just decline right away ... ?
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16 responses
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
hey snafushe.. personally i just accept.. some people add and also give a message on their intentions for adding.. some are for facebook games and some are just wanting to be friends and to socialize.. so its pretty much ok for me to accept people into my facebook.. its not like im a big star that i need to decline friend requests from people.. im a fun guy so what the heck just add me if you want to.. just be sure to give me a msg or chat with me whenever you're online.. so that at least even if we havent met before we can talk and maybe get to know each other.. lol..
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
I agree totally agree with, declining people who want to be your friend totally negates the concept of a social networking site. Although i have my share of sending request to those i thought were friends but denied it . But it doesn't mean i'll do the same. People who offer friendship are welcome. If you think that they're not worthy of your friendship you can always unfriend them later.
@zeethegr8 (785)
• India
1 Dec 09
If the person who has requested me for an add and me have any mutual friends I usually accept their requests. Unless I'm in a mood to accept new friends I don't take in requests from people whom I don't know or even my friends don't know. I don't like those kind of people who just add people to increase their friends list count! Duh! Facebooking is fun! I have a few myLot friends also on facebook. Its nice to keep in touch and know people from around the world. Life Rox! Rock On!
@jenzai (388)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
I would send a message asking of who they are rather than accept them abruptly. I am nor comfortable of accepting someone I really don't know. So I amke a background check before I decline the request.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
1 Dec 09
I don't have facebook, I have other social network sites. And of course, I have mylot. I do get friend requests from time to time from people I don't know. And I have been weary, because a couple of times I was just targetted for recruitment for whatever site they were promoting. If someone does send a request here in mylot, I first go see if had interactions in any of the discussions here. Then, at least I would know where his or her head is at in terms of viewpoints. You did not put in what you would do if you get a friend request. I will send you one so I will know what you do.
@snafushe (791)
• Canada
2 Dec 09
Haha wow just after reading this comment I realized what your message was about haha :P
• United States
4 Dec 09
If I dont know them I will look to see what friends we have in common and try to figure out if I can place them. If I dont know them at all or do not want them as a friend I will simly "ignore" them and the option goes away. They do not know that you have declined them. You will just not show up on thier wall.
@kirkuf (19)
3 Dec 09
I have facebook but i only got it because all of my friends are on it, i used to prefer myspace, as a general rule i really only add people on facebook that i know as a way to keep in touch with friends and have used it to reconnect with old friends and keep up with people i dont see since i moved away. i really do love the idea of social netwoking online and i think it has been used or can be used as a force for good to bring people together, it is just unfortunate that some people abuse it.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
3 Dec 09
it is really amazing how people search for you or your id and then request to be added to your circle of friends. I really dont like it And being a female I get more requests then my male friends. In past I use to decline the requests right away but then a friend suggested that I should not ignore them and let them wait.
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I get a lot of that because I'm a vampire wars player..and usually it says how many mutual friends we have in common. I usually just add them-there's not enough personal info on me to hurt anything. :)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
2 Dec 09
it don't happen that to me in facebook coz those who are adding me are people whom i know since elementary, high school or college. but it happen to me all the time here in mylot. i am just accepting them anyway they are not harming me..hehehe..
@solared (1207)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I add them cause most likely they are adding me for mafia wars, superhero city or battle stations.
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
for me i always accept the invitation beacuse i think that a priveledge to have afreind in different places.
@olisaur (1922)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Unless they're someone interesting- like, they have a cool default pic, pr they have common interests with me, I deny them. On myspace (yes, I'm a social networking addict) I'll add almost anyone, since it just feels like a much more casual site. I like to keep my facebook page more personal.
@Josflch (93)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 09
Hi, Snafushe. I think that is ok. For me, I will accept who is add me on facebook, and friendster. Sometime I will recognize that someone I don't know that time I add them is my old friend. Haha, is ok to make friend also if you don't know them. Have a nice day.
@kaylachan (56272)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Dec 09
I generally accept. There are a lot of people on there that know me, but I don't remember them. adding them helps me get a closer look at them and determine who they are. I try not to use messaging to often much on socal websites because my computer doesn't like the interface so I'd rather save myself the headache.
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
I usually send them a message first, to know who they are, where did they came from, or have we met before, etc. Questions like this is a good way to start conversation or to get acquainted with the person. Who knows maybe that person is just a distant relative, a far friend, or so.
@Torrs13 (217)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I usually decline the request. The only time I pay attention to those requests is if there is a personal message attached to it, but I usually end up denying the friend request anyway, unless it is someone I am interested in talking to or will be seeing in the future.