In a few hours i will have to put on the fake smile for everyone

@jugsjugs (13042)
December 1, 2009 6:48pm CST
and act like every thing could not be better,knowing that the school will be on the phone todo with one of the children or that friends or my mothers boyfriend will pop in,what with all the things i have got to do i hope i can keep everyone happy.If everyone think you are happy they tend not to ask if you are ok,noone knows then.
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@RyanneD (189)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Are you okay?...
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@jugsjugs (13042)
2 Dec 09
I will be ok,I think it is because i have worked out that what i thought was a friend is not what she appears to be at all and the best bit is confirmed that i have a true friend who never has or never will say anything against me.I think i am on a bit of a low.
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@RyanneD (189)
• United States
2 Dec 09
It seems that way to me. Ya know, sometimes just venting about it helps. If you ever need to talk I'm a very good listener.
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@jugsjugs (13042)
2 Dec 09
Thank you.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
19 Dec 09
Hi i think I am like you too I dont open up even when i am sad.I just try to make things positive as much as I can so noone is even aware about what's going inside I am like this from teh beginning.and I think I will like this even when I grow old.I think it is the way life is!!!!
@jugsjugs (13042)
19 Dec 09
I think that you are right as i think that if you try to keep smiling then that way people do not also tend to ask you too many questions as well as tell others that you are not happy and then try to speculate about what is wrong with you.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I hate that. I have to do that alot in my life also. I hate it but I do not want to have to explain all of the time what is going on in my life either. I do not want to burden others with it because they do not understand it or want to hear it either.
@jugsjugs (13042)
19 Dec 09
I think too that alot of people would not understand if you were to tell them why you are soo down as well as they do not have the same problems in their life like lots of children with illnesses as well as a husband or a mortgage,so they could never imagine what you are going through.
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I agree with you. Most people don't really want to hear what you have to say anyway. There times to tell the truth but most of the time just keep smiling.
@much2say (43079)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I'm sorry jugsjugs. I don't know what all is going on . . . but don't stress yourself out to put on a fake smile for everyone. The people who know you well will see right through it. I have a friend who tries so hard to let people think everything is honkey dorey, but we just know there's something going. It's ok to let people know there are things going on in life - we all go through things in life - they just don't have to be in on all the details.
• United States
2 Dec 09
Well I try to be happy even when i am not
@savypat (20245)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Girlfriend, I read all your discussions and I think you need a break, you seem to be having a good case of mother/housewife ides. This is a very common ailment and so I would advise you try for time off, just an hour or two a week when nothing is expected of you. Look around a see if there is any way you can do this for yourself. Remember you deserve it and it will help keep you sane. Blessings
@doormouse (4619)
2 Dec 09
if you're not happy why pretend,your friends and family won't mind if your upset,everyone gets upset sometimes
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Why not try to make yourself happy for a change!
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Hello Jugsjugs Don't you hate that haveing to do that to keep the peace when your life is not as grand others in your family or when company comes over. They always seem to go to the same people to vent but if you try tell them about your life they walk away or look like they are bored or kid that you have it really bad situation (when they think it trivial) It is never easy and hopeing it will not for the whole day. Let us know it goes and what is bothering you after they leave. Thanks for sharing Unique16
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
It's hard to smile when you're unhappy.It could be quite upsetting if things don't go your way. It's okay to feel frustration when this happens. I know that you wouldn't anyone to know how you feel, but sometimes it can help if you tell a few people who you trust about your true feelings. If they are your friends, they will be there for you no matter what happens. I hope that things turn out better for you my dear. In the meantime, you can also use myLot as sounding board for your concerns.
• China
2 Dec 09
Dear,maybe it is now a good choise for you,but dont't do like that for long.Get too many things in heart without say it out loud is harmful to you bady.So just forget it or share it,okey?
• India
2 Dec 09
I think the first response and your return response to it, summed by the situation you’re in right now. And like the first responder, there are many of us who are good listeners, so anytime life hands out a raw deal, come here and vent…it would definitely make you feel lighter and amidst all the people here you might just get an answer to some of your problems or how better to deal with them.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Yes, I know how you feel when you have to put on a fake smile for others. I am the same way too. My life is mainly about showing you only one side of me and then I will just not let you see the REAL side. Not that I am a bad person or anything. But all of us have sides of us that we don't show. People have no idea what life is like for you. They have no idea what you have to do behind closed doors. They just don't know... I think all of us have to put on the fake smile from time to time. It is a way of just letting people only see the side of you that you want to reveal.
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
it needs a little talking jugs... a piece of suggestion: don't pretend to be happy while actually you are not. you can talk, and people can understand - that includes everyone around you. take care...
@chriszh22 (433)
• China
2 Dec 09
I can totally understand you my friend. People sometimes have to shade themselves to meet others' needs, like a smiling face, even pretend. Sometimes I just think people just live for others, not him/hersleves! Cause you, or your family or friends will care about what other people say about you, good or bad. It's very tired to live in this world, but we still have to move on no matter what. Cheer up man, you're not alone.
@jndlponti (2408)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
oh... I don't get it. Is something matter? Something wrong? Yes sometime when you put on a fake smile it will just help you ease the pain or burdens. Since by that you could avoid questions that you do not want to entertain.
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
2 Dec 09
It's so hard to put on that mask when things around us aren't going so well, isn't it? I'm not very good at it myself. I hope things go smoothly for you, jusg! Please let us know how everthing went, okay? Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
• Singapore
2 Dec 09
hi jugsjugs..i'm new here but you know, why don't you try to be yourself instead of giving them fake smile..show them what you really feel. every person has a unique identity. besides your also cheating yourself that your ok. being true to youself is the best freedom:) if you need a companion i'm here. Godbless!be strong:)
@ToniTsui (39)
2 Dec 09
yes something frustrating will make me silent, I wouldn't say too much in that case ,but as I stayed at home I still havet to keep the fake smile or my parents will worry about me .then I will stay alone in my room and cry with nobody around