You will marry, for love, or for money?

China
December 2, 2009 6:48am CST
During our talk, our foreign teacher asked me marry for love, or for money? For love, i answered without any hesitation. But in such a material society, i think many people marry for money, regaredless of their age or emotional. Even today, some married people tell me love is not very important. Without money, you will lead a hard life. What about you, mylotters, will you marry for love or money?
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• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Id go for love. I cant be happy for money alone. But I can be happy for love alone even without money to buy luxury things. Before, I had all the chances to marry a guy with lots of money but did not do it for I know it wont make me happy and money cant satisfied what I need.
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@mizzk1 (56)
• United States
9 Dec 09
I would marry for love....you can always find money....but whos to say if u will ever find that true love again???
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@hwj308 (64)
• China
8 Dec 09
I just told to myself to take much more efforts to reaching my goal ,to seize more amounts of techniques and money ,you know it is a material society ,we can't exist without them ,so some wants to improve this bad situation by marrying,I think ,as a man ,we should master my own life by myself ,I don't want to marry for money ,so I should hold more money and stronger capability.so that ,we can marry depend on myself
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• Philippines
2 Dec 09
For love of course, nothing more nothing less, money will always be always there, but finding true love is only once in a lifetime.. I believe that if you have a true and enduring love everything will just follow and that includes financial freedom..
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• China
2 Dec 09
Hello, Crystalfealy, I guess all people hope marry for love. Anyway, the problem is, if both of the couple do not have money, can love still last long? Which is more important, love or bread? I think there will be no love if there is no bread...
• India
2 Dec 09
when u hav someone who gives us hope...everythng works out...
• China
2 Dec 09
Thank you for your comment. I guess I am too pressure these days. My hushand lost his previous job and now get a low sarary from his current job, and it seems hopeless for him to get a good one... I feel love were worn out, by the pressure we faced, by the trifles we encounter... Without money, we seems have no mood, no time for love...
• Ecuador
3 Dec 09
well its a very delicate subject, but if a couple doesnt have money on both sides well im happy to say that love will create bread one way or another, if love is strong enough then the couple will do anything to gain that bread (money) they require :)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I would definately have to say marry for LOVE. I have to admit we think alot about being rich and having enough money to never have to worry about anything. But..... You know what....... If we didn't love eachother I don't think we would ever make it through some of lifes problems that come our way. We have been hungry, cold, homeless and lots of other things and I think love is the only thing that kept us going. Sure you wouldn't have to deal with any of that if you had money but would you really be happy. I mean having money causes it's own problems. I think the most important thing in life is being happy and knowing that your loved ones are healthy. And one of the best ways to be happy is to be with the one you love. So I say wait until you find the one you love. You will be much happier and enjoy life more.
• China
4 Dec 09
I am agree with you,love is the only thing that keep our life happy ,full of sunshine and keep going no matter what happens.
@arystine (1275)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
I will marry for love. I don't think I can ever fall in love with a rich guy who is not compatible with me. Even if a guy is disgustingly rich, I will not marry him if his personality conflicts with mine, if we have different beliefs and religion. For me, marriage will last if there is love.
• Hong Kong
3 Dec 09
Hi crystalfealy, Yes, there are many people who were married for money. It is because not every one can really find someone that they love. They might finally marry someone who love her so much but she does not love him much. In this situation, money comes first, so that she can live a leisure life. Of course, it is always good to have someone that she loves and knows how to love her. Then, they can both work hard to make a living. They can build up their own castle and live happily, too. I married for love. We both work hard at first few years and now I am a full time housewife. He can handle the financial matters himself. I believe most of us would like to marry someone that we love, and I agree there are someone who loves money much. It is a material world! Best wishes, agonyaunt69 (8:29pm 4 December 2009 Hong Kong time)
• China
4 Dec 09
Everyone needs love,but without money,so she would order the above material to sacrifice his love.But everyone is not willing to do so, maybe whomped!
@adamc151 (479)
2 Dec 09
For Love! and like you i'd say for love without any hesitation. Marrying someone for money is just wrong. Its selfish, greedy and what about the poor guy/woman who thinks you're marrying them because you love them.
• Indonesia
2 Dec 09
Hey ya :) you are right and i like what you said if there's another choice i would choose not to get marry at all lol btw i'm just wondering why is it greedy and selfish? the man got what he wants (marryin the woman he "Wants" so is the woman (getting the money without loving the person means no heartache whatever he do or done (now i sound selfish here). what i'm saying here is that marrying someone wealthy to benefits others i think is another wide meaning of the word "unselfish" love maybe i'm just skeptical in love but for me,love is not everything some might call me silly but imagine how much people you can help with the money you have by marrying a man (in my case) who got a lot of cash?not that im saying i can't make my own cash to help others and just depend on him. Money is NOT everything but it sure does rule this sick world
@IamSamm (75)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 09
Interesting topic:) and a very hard one to answer for me.Why? first off if i marry someone for love i will get hurt,deeply hurt(from personal experience) loving someone isn't an easy task to do,and i do believe there's no such thing as pure love or unconditional love that last FOREVER ( i don't like the word forever,its deceiving lol) excepts parent's love of course. Let see you marry someone for love which through time it just fades away (fact?no?) cause of so many factors to mention but for instance because He/She so busy with their own life/work so basically if you are strong enough to actually "unconditionally" love a person,marry for love is a must but for me personally,i would rather marry for money.Giving my heart away to be hurt,and wasted away is just something i can't cope no more. Marrying for money whatever how the marriage "might" end it wont hurt your deepest soul No one loves you more than yourself,this i just learned recently
• China
8 Dec 09
dear mylotter, your response is quite different from other mylotters! But what you said, in my opinion, is quite reasonable! If we marry to the person we love deeply, we may get hurt someday, And of course, if there is no bread, i think love can not last long!
@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
21 Dec 09
I could never marry for money and I don't care how "poor" we were. What would a life with money be if there was not love in the marriage? I have never had a lot of money, but usually enough to get by. I have been married and divorced twice and I do not want to be married again, but it has nothing to do with money, except for the fact that both marriages left me poorer coming out than I was going into them. No doubt about it, IF I were ever to even consider getting married again, it would be for love and NOT for money.
• Boston, Massachusetts
5 Dec 09
Hi Crystal, I married my husband for love. Both of us feel that we cannot live without each other that we want to grow old together. WE both live a simple life and the richness that we have is not money but love and being there for each other. Money will be earned if you are hardworking and industrious to work. Yes without money you will live a hard life so don't let it happen earn it. You may have all the money and have everything that you want but without love, life will be gloomy...something is missing inside!
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
Of course, i will marry for love but you cannot be in love with someone who does not fit your criteria. How could you be in love with a person who does not even respect himself or make himself respectable. For me, we should not use our hearts only we should also use our brain. But of course, love should be the primary reason. Good luck!
• United States
4 Dec 09
I would only marry for love. Sure money would be great, but you can find money anywhere, love is special. Once you find love it's hard to find it again, but money will always be out there for those who want to go get it. If you marry for money you wont feel like a whole person inside because there is no feelings there for the pther person. But if you marry for love you wont care about money because your already rich in your heart.
@eddify (413)
• Pakistan
4 Dec 09
Thats a tricky question and one has to think hard before making the decision as your whole life depends on this relationship. If you are not in love you will soon realise that this marriage will not last regardless of the amount of the money you have i.e take example of Elizebeth Taylor, Princess Diana. IF you are in love you will try to survive with or without money. If u dont have money both of u can put the effort and somethings will be done. If u ask me, I will love to marry the with with money :)
• China
4 Dec 09
Both are important.Certainly,the love is more important than money.If marriage without love,that would be a sad life.But marriage without money, it is also sad. Everything goes wrong for the poor couple.
• Italy
4 Dec 09
Well marriage is itself a complicated issue. I think love should be preferred for marriage. coz money comes and goes but love remains forever. I married for my parents love. They want me to marry a girl from our close relatives so their family ties can be more strengthen with new relations and i love my parents so much, so i got married for my parent's love and luckily i got a very good lady as my wife. Now i love her too. Choose love over money and you will be happy in your life.
• China
4 Dec 09
I think i will choose to marry for love.In my opinion,enen if you have a lot of money but there is not love between you,you cannot fell happy.But if you are ture love,even if you have not enough money now,you can support each other and get more money in the future.Meanwhile,you will fell very happy.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
I think the best choice is love. Because even if you have money love is always take to consider.
• United States
3 Dec 09
I married for love the first time. I think I could marry for money and end up loving the man that I married. In today's world it couldn't hurt to marry into money to be able to survive. Happy Mylotting