To My Friends

@dorannmwin (36698)
United States
December 2, 2009 9:47pm CST
If I miss any of your discussions, I am so sorry. I try every day to respond to as many of the discussions that you all have started as I can. I know that you all understand that sometimes there are discussions that you sometimes start that don't pique my interest, so those I won't waste your or my time on. However, if I do happen to miss some of them that I would be genuinely interested in, I'm sorry. You see, I have this one friend who has started over 40 discussions in the last couple of days and that causes the ones that I would rather respond to disappear from my friends started list a lot quicker than I would like for them to. So, do any of you have a friend like this? Does it drive you up the wall when you can't respond to all of the discussions that your friends have started?
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@neelimaravi (1794)
• India
4 Dec 09
hi dora, how are you, i think u might be busy with cristmas festive.. i am also in the same boat like you... some times even i can respond some of our discussions, i feel so bad for that, but, what to do, without knowing anything i can't even response, for that... so i just leave it like that. thankyou, for your topic, have a good day
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Thank you for your response. I think that the Christmas season is adding undue stress to me just because of the season because I'm done with a great majority of my preparations, but there are still things that unconsciously cause stress during this time of the year.
• United States
4 Dec 09
I know you have responded to all my posts. If you were to not respond to any of my questions I would understand. I know it may be hard to respond to everyone and because we all lead busy lives it may be hard for some people to be on here 24/7. I am on here six days a week and there are days when I may only answer three or four questions and then there will be days when I have more time and post anywhere between 20-30 responses.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I too have noticed that there are some days where I am able to respond to more discussions than on other days. I also know that I need to commit at least some of my time here to commenting on the responses that I've gotten for my discussions. I really enjoy my time here and try not to stress about things, but I also don't want anyone to get mad at me if I miss a discussion that I was legitimately interested in.
@much2say (39616)
• United States
3 Dec 09
No worries, dorannmwin! We can't expect all our friends to get to all our discussions . . . that's way too much! I try to get to whatever discussions I can with whatever time I have . . . but there is just no way I can get to everyone here even if I wanted to. Don't be sorry . . . you're one of the good eggs on myLOT! I know we will see you when we see you - and it's a pleasure when we do! I can think of a couple people who start all these discussions all at once. It's more like the same rant, one after another worded differently. There are a few I can think of who aren't on my friend lists . . . one or more of them have been on discussions recently, as they post a zillion discussions but never comment on anyone's responses. It drives me more nuts when I took the time to write and I'm not so sure it was ever read.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Thanks for saying that I am one of the good eggs on mylot. I really enjoy my time here and so many times I just wish that I was able to commit more time to it.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
3 Dec 09
If I had a friend who posted 40 discussions i one day and expected me to respond to all of them then I would slit my throat! Seriously, if you have a friend who posts so many discussions then just answer a few. The amount is somewhat ridiculous. Does she/he respond to all of your posts? I was in a bind last week and this week too so I cannot get online much. So I just answer those that I wish to respond to.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Dec 09
I try to answer only the ones that are interesting to me. Where I'm upset right now is when I see a discussion that I would like to respond to on the discussions that my friends have started and then when I have the time to come back it has moved too far down the list.
@minx267 (14585)
• Hartford, Connecticut
3 Dec 09
Yes, so many discussions so little time.. There is never enough. All is forgiven. :) ok, 1 down... :0)
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Dec 09
LOL. I wish that there was more time in the day for mylotting. I love to respond to as many discussions as possible but it is really difficult to do when I have three little children running around the house and trying to keep them in line and mylotting at the same time is nearly impossible.
@haiershen (1084)
• China
3 Dec 09
we are here, adding frineds and start topic and reponds most of the topic,but when the time goes by, our friends here more and more. we are have no enough time to give all the reponds to all my friends.but a little which is very attract me very much and there are more words comes out of my minds.Though i start less discussion,i'm very happy that all discussion i started were availably,thank you for my friends here give me more help.good luck and have a nice day!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I don't think that you have to respond to every discussion that your friends start, but I do like to use the discussions that you all have started as a jumping off point. I feel bad when I've seen the header of a discussion that I am interested in and I just don't have the time at that moment to comment and then I come back and I am not able to find the discussion because another person has started so many discussions.
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
Ooh! Now, I feel guilty. Sometimes I posts many discussions as I can, if I have bothered you that much..I am so sorry! But atleast now that I know, I will try to minimize my discussions.. Thanks for making this one! I appreciate it :)
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Dec 09
It isn't you. It isn't you at all. All of your discussions are great and you do take the time to respond back to the people that have commented for you. The person that I am talking about starts far more discussions in a day than you've started all together.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I do have one that starts more and more, and doesn't reply to any. So sorry you are having a time.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Dec 09
Sounds like this could be the same person. I think that I would not be as upset about it if they were to take the time to respond to the discussions that they start, but they don't.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
3 Dec 09
Hello Dorann. I understand completely, and I believe this happens to us all. Life is busy, and we do have our own tastes. I don't think a true friend would expect a response to every discussion. I have a couple of friends like those you mentioned, and no way to I have the time, so I will respond to several of the dozens of discussions started by a single individual...the ones that capture my interest, and then move on to my other friends. To me, that just says all I want is to make money from you...not receive your input! Karen
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I feel like that is what they are saying by starting all of those discussions as well. I, like you will respond to the ones that capture my interest and skip the ones that don't. Oh, how I wish I could find an extra hour in the day to respond to more of the discussions that you all start.
@Hatley (164647)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Dec 09
hi dorannmwin yes I have the same friend and wondered if she thought that by making so many many dicussions she would be making more money? I dont think it worked that way. she turned me off as I was looking for other peoples discussions and she filled pages and pages instead. So I did not get to all my friends either Dorann and I felt a bid frustrated by this. Yes I drove me up the wall because I wanted to respond to more than one person.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I'm glad to know that I am not the only one. The reason that I really like to respond to the discussions that my friends have started is that I know that most of them will also respond to the discussions that I start. If I was able to respond to more of your discussions, I think that our friendships would be able to grow more.