Is there anybody who is indispensable in your life?

@dpk262006 (58673)
Delhi, India
December 3, 2009 11:36pm CST
Hi friends! Sometimes it so happens that we gel with a particular person so well and get attached to him/her and start feeling that s/he is indispensable for us. Do you feel that there is someone in your life that is indispensable for you and your life without him/her will be boring, dull and drab? It could be anybody ranging from your friends, relatives to your partner. Or do you feel that no one is your life indispensable and you can live your own life independently without his/her presence in your life. Please share your views on it along with your experiences in life in this regard. Thanks in advance.
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@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
I would say, my 3 girls. After all that we have been through life's trials and struggles, i think i could not live without them in my life. If i were to live without them, my life would be so boring and hopeless. I have overcome all that life has thrown my way because of my girls and i know though, i am aware of the fact that they will have to start or have their own families someday, they will still be the most important part of my life. A great weekend, to you my friend.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
Hi sweetie! I can understand your love, affection and bonding for your three daughters and I wish that you bonding with them may become more powerful in coming years. Yes, it is true that once they get married, they may leave your place and settle elsewhere, however their importance in your life will not diminish. Hope your daughters read this response of yours. Thanks for sharing your secret with us and wish you a happy weekend too.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
4 Dec 09
MY WIFE.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
Hi Bala! I appreciate your choice, however our dear 'bhabhiji' (hope you get the meaning of the word bhabhiji) carries more importance than your very brief response and she is indispensable to you in your life and so are you to him.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
4 Dec 09
Deepak, I would think that any person who one gets attached to and one continues to be around influencing our lives in a positive way is one we would always want around. As much as circumstances can sometimes detach us from these people, we would want to know that these people are around.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
Hi Alok! I entirely agree with all your statements, however, do you feel that there is anyone in your life, at present, which you may say that s/he is dispensable to you or you do not feel any person deserve that credit. Thanks for sharing your views.
• United States
4 Dec 09
I would like to say that my wife is indispensable because I need her in my life to make things make sense. I could also say that I live alone inside and if I didn't have anybody I would be alright too.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
Hi git! Your wife must be a very lucky woman as she is indispensable to you and hope she already knows about your feelings and sentiments. I endorse you that for a married man his/her partners are the most important person in his/her life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
• United States
4 Dec 09
I think this question is self explanatory. Who could live alone? Without any distinct relations to a friend or grieving hate. Nobody. Even the baby hates his mother, and loves her. Ya, get attached feel indispensable. Sometimes this isn't true. I don't really know. You have to decide for yourself. Of course. I would like to gel with a person. Gel is really cool. It is wiggly. And distinctly gluey, yet relieving. I don't gel. Maybe I do. It just sounds cooler than anything. I don't gel I guess.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
hi apple! You appear diplomatic and philosophical in your response. Thanks for sharing with us your philosophy of life.
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Hi. My husband is definitely indispensable. I could not imagine life without him. I have been independent since I was sixteen. I thought I'll stay that way until I met my husband seven years ago. He may be imperfect and we have lots of differences. But still, our imperfections and differences complement one another.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
Hi sole! Welcome to my discussion. It is understandable that when your hubby is with you since you were sixtenn, you would surely develop a bonding towards him and would feel incomplete without him. Hope your hubby reads this response of yours. You are your hubby both appear very lucky. I wish you a very happy married life. Thanks for joining and sharing.
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• United States
4 Dec 09
This is easy.It is my bestfriend.Without him I would be a bitter, angry ,little girl.He makes me Know I am not alone . He Gets me. We have fun talking about everything ,and I mean everything.I hate to think where I would be without him.
• United States
5 Dec 09
I will. It is so strange for me to be this happy. I guess I will have to get used to it.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
6 Dec 09
What is so strange - getting too much happiness?
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi Sara! It is good to know that I asked you an easier one . I can understand your respect and love for your best friend and he does everything for you, therefore, he becomes all the more important and indispensable for you in life. Keep enjoying your life with him.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
4 Dec 09
When I got married, I was a timid person. I never used to talk to men, was a cry baby for everything, was damn afraid of everyone. It was my husband who made me understand the world and face the world with boldness. He was a china wall for me in all the ups and downs of my life. He made me go to places alone and face people alone. In the beginning I was shivering with fear but slowly I understood that he is doing this for my getting courage and he was right. Now I am moderately courageous, can talk to people without fear and can put forth my points with confidence. Because of him, even my children are very independent and confident. Now also any problem means I will seek his advice and he will guide me properly. When he falls sick also, he only gives me courage instead of my giving courage to him. He is indispensable to me in my life. He is my friend, philosopher, guide and of course my beloved husband.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi Buchi! I am moved to read your response and your thoughts about your dear and respect husband. I wish he should read this response of yours and he would come to know why he has become indispensable in your life. He must be a great a source of inspiration for you through out your married life and nothing could be greater and satisfying than this. One of the best responses so far. Thanks for sharing and telling all about you in a candid manner.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Pl. read 'respected husband....
• India
12 Jun 10
Thanks Dpk for the words.
@Sreekala (34314)
• India
7 Dec 09
Hi Deepak, For married people, everybody will choose their partner as the indispensable person in their life. If I think in that way, my hubby is indispensable person in my life at the same time my kids too I can’t give less importance to them. But in reality we all may move forward with the absence of another one it is a fact. In our life we are going through different phases and the importance of a particular person may change. For e.g., I am indispensable person for my kids definitely it will change after a particular period. It is unwritten law in our life.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
6 Dec 09
The one person, who I would not want to live without, ever is my daughter. She, along with my husband, is the mot important people in my life. If I did not have them my days would be colourless and dull. My family is what my existence is all about and my child is my primary reason for being here. Take her away and you take away my reason for being. Sure I could live without anyone else and, as a loner type I feel I would be equipped to do it but I can’t imagine ever wanting to!
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
6 Dec 09
Hi Paula! I can understand your attachment to your dear daughter and husband and both are by virtue of their relationship with you are indispensable to you and your life would be difficult without them. Thanks for sharing your candid views.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Honestly deepak..I think that most everyone in my life right now in indispensible. I can't imagine having to do without any of them..lol..Take care.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi Jen! Do you mean to say that everyone in your life right now is indispensable?
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Yes..there are not many people that I let "in" so to speak so once they are there..well..I don't feel they are dispensible at all.
• India
4 Dec 09
It is for sure that no one can live alone and independent. for the happyness we need something and we need entertainment device it could be alive or just electronic things. yes it happens with me every now and then that i usually very soon find a person which become indispensable for me and then i make sure as i found that i am in this situation i try to come out of this situation. And i know how to do that very well. but it is very bad habbit of a human being they cant live without entertainment.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
You are right anjali Parents are most important for you, at this stage.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
Hi anjali! Nice to see you in my discussion, appears you were too busy to do mylot. So you mean to say that the moment your realise that someone has become indispensable to you, you try to come out of that situation and try to be more independent. It is a sign of positive and bold attitude on your part. By the way, at present, who comes in the bracket of 'indispensable' person for you? Thanks for sharing your wonderful thoughts. Deepak
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• India
4 Dec 09
right now no one is there in my personal front but yes my parents and my brother and sweet sister is the one i love the most, but yes my parents is indispensible for me.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
6 Dec 09
Hi deepak Exactly I do not know rather I can't say that there is someone who is indispensable in my life. Because, whoever I think that they are indispensable, they will prove that they are selfish, including friends, relatives neighbours and all who ever is connected with me or my life. But i can loudly say that now I found something which is indispensable and inseparable in my life that is none other than Mylot, with my collars up.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
6 Dec 09
Hi Vathsala! So your vote goes to mylot, which has become indispensable in your life. BTW, mylot for consists of friends and therefore, mylot friends become 'important' in your life, is not it? Many people around us are selfish and they do not bother about us, when we do not remain useful for them. Don't spend too much time thinking about them. Thanks for sharing your candid views.
@vandana7 (98517)
• India
6 Dec 09
Hi deepak, I cant imagine my life without my father. :) Last night something came to mind quite late. This old man was fast asleep, I walked into his room, woke him up, told him, and then I returned to my bedroom. :) I could only sleep after that. :) And he didnt understand one word of what I said! LOL. He was so sleepy. :) But I do miss my friends. :) I feel the need to talk to them once in a while. :) So for me, my father, and all whom I consider my friends are indispensable. :)
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
6 Dec 09
Hi Vandana! I can very well understand your position and can gather why your father is indispensable to you and you love him a lot and without him, life would be very difficult for you. He has brought you up with all his love, affection and care and he still cares for you, therefore, he naturally becomes indispensable in your life. Thanks for sharing and joining us. deepak
@riyasam (16556)
• India
4 Dec 09
right now,i feel that my kids and hubby are an indispensable in my life,that includes my parents and friends too but nothing except GOD is constant,it is difficult but i have to accept that fact.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi riya! It is understandable that your family members i.e. your parents, husband and kids are most important to you in your life and I hope that so would be you to them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
4 Dec 09
All of my family members are indispensable to me in my life. I cannot imagine without a single one of them, because I love them all so much. They love me as well. This is what we say blood is thicker than water.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi will! Yes, it is true that blood is thicker than water and one's family is import to one, most of the times. I feel that your family is lucky to have a person like you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
5 Dec 09
Hey dpk! This is a very difficult question to respond too! There are people in my life that I could definitely live without if I had to! Maybe my life wouldn't be as full or as fun, but it would still be ok! Then there are others who I would miss terribly! My partner/boyfriend is one of those people! We don't always get along perfectly, but I, at this point, don't know what I would do without him in my life! I'm not quite sure he feels the same way. I think it would be easier for him, although I know he would miss me too! But, as for my other friends, life would still go on, even if I would miss them terribly! I have had lots of friends come and go in my life so I already know that this is true!
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi Opal! So you have the courage to live without certain people who are close to you, it is good on your part that your can think about living independently. Your partner and friend are most important to you though you can make do without them. Thanks for sharing your inner feelings and conflicts.
@much2say (53650)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Dec 09
For sure, I would have to say my husband! We have been best friends throughout our entire adulthood, so we've never been alone. Sure we've had other friends but no one compares to him. Now he is a family man, as he is my husband and the father of my 2 children. We recently had baby #2, and goodness, he is doing so much for us. He works long hours and then comes home to take care of my oldest daughter (who is a handful) and myself and the baby. There is so much I am grateful to him for. I'm so glad you posted this . . . it is a reminder to me that I need to do more for my husband, who is dear and special to me. I've been so caught up in our new family adjustments . . . I want to do something special just for him. So thank you for the reality check!
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi dear! I am delighted to go through your lovely thoughts about your dear hubby and I can understand that how important he is to you and your kids. He appears to be very nice and hard working person, who not only looks after his work well but he shares the family responsibilities too. I wish he should read this response of yours and he would come to know why he has become indispensable in your life. Hope your bonding with strengthen further and you will continue to enjoy each others company. Thanks for sharing and telling all about you and your family in a candid manner.
@neelimaravi (1793)
• India
4 Dec 09
hi deepak, i think my husband and my two kids are indispensable in my life, we are very close to eachother..some times i might feel live without any distabance but, we can't, once we get down to this field, we can't get back, we don't also. thankyou for your topic, have a nice day.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
Hi neelima! So it is your hubby and kids who take the prime space in your heart and they are most important to you and I hope that so would be you to them. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@asfiona (174)
• India
5 Dec 09
Hello dpk, Well, for me indispensable person could be anyone. First of all, God is so indispansable in my whole life at the same time my parents. Later on, God knows. If i talk about life feeling boring, dull, or drab without him or her would be my sweet boyfren. He is there for me in everything, i felt complete when he is with me. Without him my life seem to be boring, worried, dull and lifeless. He make me happy all the time and i thank to God for this.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
6 Dec 09
Hi asfiona! It is great to know that you are a theist and God is indispensable in your life. I feel those who get attached to the great God have no one else to look forward for support and help. Hope you will always be happy with the blessings of the great God. Thanks for sharing your wonderful views.