What can make your friend not to respond to your discussions here?

By Bala
@balasri (26577)
India
December 4, 2009 6:06am CST
What may me the reasons that will make a long time friend of you in Mylot lose interest on you? My dear friends It is purely a hypotherical question made to bring out some interest responses.
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@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
4 Dec 09
Hi balasri, I preusme my friends don't respond to my discussions sometimes in the same way I don't respond to theirs sometimes, the topic just has no interest to them. Although friends will invariably share some interests they won't share all. I have a friend here who responds to lots of mine but mainly posts in the football interest and I know full well he does not want me to feign an interest in football which I don't have, and no not a thing about, to disrupt his discussion on the subject. No one seriously expects all their friends to respond to all their discussions as not everything attracts ones interest.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
4 Dec 09
You are right.But the suspicion arises when a avid responder is suddenly trying to lye low.
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@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
4 Dec 09
Oh well if that's the case you've probably just annoyed them.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
Sorry Pal I don't even know the meaning of annoying.If it is a negative thing I for one wouldn't have done that to my friends.
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@dpk262006 (53920)
• Delhi, India
4 Dec 09
Hi Bala! I think if I happen to start a meaningless, irrelevant and useless discussion with whom my friends cannot relate to then they are not going to respond to my discussion. It is, therefore, I try to start meaningful and thought provoking discussions and I feel lucky that my friends support me in my discussions and I do get their responses. If my friends are busy elsewhere then they may not respond. :-)
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@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
Thanks pal.That is a good explanation.Thanks God it has not happen to me still with friends like Deepak sticking to me always.I just cherish your friendship.
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@dpk262006 (53920)
• Delhi, India
5 Dec 09
It is my pleasure Bala to be part of your wonderful and witty discussions.
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• United States
4 Dec 09
maybe the person just lost interest in mylot in geneneral maybe the person's notifications dont work and they never know when you start a discussion maybe their dog chewed through their internet cable and they cant be online
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• United States
4 Dec 09
oops wow its early LOL first line the word should be "general"
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@balasri (26577)
• India
4 Dec 09
There cannot be a better and valid reason than these.You are always a genius Zu. Somewhat I liked that Genereral.
@Hatley (157862)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 09
hi balasri outside of having trouble with his or her computer or cable troubles, maybe I said something in jest that she or he misunderstood and lost their temper over. sometimes one makes typos and misses them , and if the typo made a good word into a bad word you might have insulted your friend without meaning too. Usually little things do not upset a long time friendship so would have to be something that was rude or insulting.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
You are coming closer to what I am thinking.Well these little things may include the jealousy over the growth of popularity here among the peers.
@riyasam (16582)
• India
4 Dec 09
there may arise a situation in which my mylot friend maynot want to answer in my discussion as he/she may not like to embrass me with their cutting reply instead they may privately message me.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
That is a new way of looking at thing Riyasam.The decency of the friends should not be confused with being let down by them.
• United States
4 Dec 09
Perhaps it has nothing to do with you..Myself for instance, often there are subjects that either hold no interest for me or I don't know enough about (or absolutely zip) and, mainly with the latter, see no reason to disrupt the flow by saying..'Sorry, I don't know squat about it!'. That's inane to me.. Enjoy!
@balasri (26577)
• India
4 Dec 09
I know you friend.But I never expected such a passive response from a person who I adore for his wits.Come on friend ,you can you better.
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• Philippines
4 Dec 09
Maybe the first reason is that they lose interest in mylot, secondly they are not that interested in your discussion, third one is that maybe they are too busy for a lot of things aside from replying to your discussion.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
4 Dec 09
Very fair reasons.Thanks.
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@bjcyrix (6857)
• Philippines
4 Dec 09
They might not be able to respond to my discussions because I dont create discussions anymore.LOL They might have other things to do that keeps them busy so they dont get to myLot anymore. They might have decided to just post new discussions more than responding to others'. Another possibility is that they dont get the mail notifications in their inbox saying that I have created a discussion so they dont know about it that they couldnt respond to it. Worst case scenario would be I have offended them in a post or somewhere else that they didnt want anything to do with me anymore. That is of course the most extreme case of worst case scenarios here. I hope no one ever goes through with that.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
6 Dec 09
who knows? there are lots of reasons. Just send an IM to the person and ask. The truth is always best.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
6 Dec 09
Thanks.But I don't have to as I have pointed out in my discussion itself that it never happened to me.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
6 Dec 09
well, dah? consider this then: it could happen to many member of mylot and any responses might help them.
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Dec 09
Hi Balasri, I think the reasons for not responding even if they are my friends are the following: 1. the topic is not so interesting that it did not trigger their enthusiasm to respond 2. even if they are interested to respond, someone already mentioned or a similar view on the discussion and the person feels that it's not good having the two similar responses 3. she's not in the mood to reply in any of the discussions 4. she finds it boring and not worth giving it time and exerting effort to respond. It's okay. I will respect their feelings and decision for not responding on to my discussion. We are not forced here to respond... thanks dear!
@balasri (26577)
• India
6 Dec 09
Thanks though it has repeated the opinions of most of the responders.
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Dec 09
the discussion is very limiting...that's i think the all the possible reasons why discussions will not be responded even by our friends. it's okay if i have a similar response to others. i am happy to know that i am sharing the same sentiments like them. anyway same with you i have not experience no response for my discussions though i seldom make one!
@ElicBxn (60052)
• United States
5 Dec 09
I have LOTS of friends. I have a lot of discussions to respond to - if I wanted to. I don't respond to discussions that have no interest for me. I don't respond to soap opera discussions. I don't respond to cricket discussions. I don't respond to anime discussions. I generally don't respond to political discussions. I don't respond to hockey/football/baseball/soccer/NASCAR discussions. I do respond to any discussions I feel I can make a solid addition to, in horses, cats, or any other interest that has put up an question I feel is interesting.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
6 Dec 09
What makes a cat and a horse great pals ElicBxn?
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@ElicBxn (60052)
• United States
6 Dec 09
I know stuff about cats and horses, that's why I can respond to questions about them. I like them, great pals? I don't understand the question.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
I'm not expecting all my mylot friends to respond to all my discussions. On the other hand you can't expect me to respond to all my friends discussion either. Because each and everyone has their own interests and preferences. Not responding doesn't mean you are losing interest, the topic just don't interest you. I won't take it against a friend if they will not respond to my discussion because it happened a lot of times. I always believe that all members here are my friends whether they may be or may not be on my friends list. Cheers!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
7 Dec 09
I prefer not to respond to this response as it has no interesting reasons to offer.
@KrauseHome (33259)
• United States
6 Dec 09
Well, it could be for a lot of reasons. Maybe they have been to busy and not having the time to notice when you have started a New discussion, or they have a lot of friends on their friends list and never get back around to responding back to yours. Or maybe they are not interested in responding to the type of discussions you are starting right now as well. Personally I have heard many excuses here for this thing, and many of them are truly legit, while some seem to be childish as well. I know I have a lot of friends who try and respond back to any New discussion I start and I do them, but I do also try and help others as I have time too as well. But I can say that if a person does take time to faithfully want to respond back to the New discussions I start in here, I usually will take time to respond back to theirs as well.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
6 Dec 09
Very valid reasons.Thanks.
• United States
5 Dec 09
As I think it is impossible for me to give a reason why anyone does or does not respond to my discussions, I think is is impossible to know how another person thinks. However I can can tell you why I do not respond to a discussion regardless if it is opened by a friend or any other myLot user. 1. The topic does not interest me. 2. I have nothing of quality to add to the discussion. 3. The topic of discussion has been posted many times before. 4. Inane mindless question i.e. "do you drink coke or pepsi" etc. 5. Discussion that only require a yes or no response as this is a myLot guidelines no-no.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
6 Dec 09
1.Happy know that you find my discussion interesting. 2.You have certainly added quality to my discussion. 3.As far as I know this issue is raised for the first time and all the more reason for you to respond. 4.Thank God you don't fine discussion that inane. 5.You sure have given a great and elaborate response within the guidelines of Mylot.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
5 Dec 09
I think the main reason friends do not respond to some of the discussions, is because they do not have any kind of input for it. Some discussions are too long for alot of people to have the time to read through also.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
6 Dec 09
I too am not a fan of long discussions.I am not that patient.
@alokn99 (5718)
• India
5 Dec 09
Bala, I can think and give you all the usual reasons and excuses. If that was the case with me, i would think i've done something to tick that person off or my discussion are not simply not stimulating enough. But that's me jumping to conclusions after ruling out the usual one's first.
@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
Another interesting response.I have not experienced any rejection by any of my friends so far.But I just am enjoying the various reasons my friends are trying to find out which is the sole intention of creating this discussion.Thanks Alok.
@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
5 Dec 09
I've never had this experience, nor think anyone like that. But just to answer your discussion, I'd say that a friend would choose not to respond to discussions that one makes is perhaps because she/he might be offended or perhaps having lots of comments to respond to. Sometimes, it takes time for friends to realize other friends have started discussions, and they might also overlook that fact. But if purposely avoiding, maybe there have been some misunderstandings that the other party does not realize. This is just my basic thoughts.
@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
Thanks.You may be correct in your opinion.
@salonga (27969)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
My friend I think losing interest on the person is not the main reason why sometimes our posts do not get good responses. I for one do look at the topic itself and not the person who posted it. Of course I give priorities to my supportive friends too but if their topics are out of my interest, I don't comment either. How could I do? If my response will not be really meaningful, I would rather not respond at all. In my own opinion, the reasons why long time friends could not participate in your discussions could be any of the above: 1) The topic is not interesting and your friend could not find words to say. 2) The friends are too busy and could not log in or maybe even if they could log in they only can afford to respond to few posts and unfortunately your topic was not one of those that stimulate their interest. 3)Your friends are maybe too busy with their own discussions and were commenting back so that they could not give ample time to respond to others' 4) Your long time friends may not find you really supportive of their discussions too so they don't also find time to respond to your every discussion. Well the best is to find good topics that will not only interest our friends but even all the other users. The question is what could be those topics? Well, sometimes posting a topic is a hit and miss. Just keep on posting and from how the users respond... learn from it!
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@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
That is a good response Salonga.I have a group of friends who kept responding to all my discussions irrespective of the subject matter of those discussions.So I have learned about my friends very well from the beginning.The purpose of this discussion is to get some unusual and interesting reasons for the friends' silence.Thanks anyway.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Usually it has to do with the topic since it order to continue with a discussion is important to attract the attention of others.
@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
Happy that you are attracted to my discussions as I am towards your's.
@May2k8 (3632)
• Indonesia
4 Dec 09
may be my friend jump to other discussion and don't look on my discussion, then they don't get time to responding me. Must be have other reason beside this, they not only myloting because they also working and don't found interest on my discussions.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Dec 09
Thanks.