Girls Fat Or Thin - Who Is Beautiful?

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India
December 7, 2009 3:45am CST
Hi friends, I have noticed that people these days make a huge issue over a girl being fat. But when a man or guy is fat people fail to point it out or make fun of it . On top of that girls are pressured to be thin and look ' hot and sexy ' but when a guy is fat it is not such a big deal. some parents too.. if their daughter is fat .. they advise her to lose her weight and look thin . what is your opinion about this friends.?
18 responses
• China
8 Dec 09
hi,priyavivk,no matter is gril or boy in my family,who is fat,my parent will tell him or her to lose wieght.for many person,i have a good body,because i'm thin,but in fact,i really want me more fat,just a little, so now i eat more than common.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Actually I'm fat and I'm always struggling to lose weight eversince. I get my genes to my mother. I think that is the reason why no one dare to court me. Yes I agree it is double standard when woman is fat it is big issue for men but when men is fat women find them attractive. During my elementary and high school days my classmates always teasing me because I'm fat. I don't know why other people always judgmental they only see the ugliness of others. Whether you are thin or fat as long as your healthy and happy don't mind what the other people saying. I agree that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
@nani3298 (12)
• India
8 Dec 09
hi priya beauty lies in the eyes of beholder goes the saying,it really does not depend on weather the girl/boy is thin r fat.wat really matters is tat u should b fit for ur self and carry u r self with confidence and elan.that is wat that counts and not the physical apperances that matters. ya with the advent of fashion nd movies(0 size figrues)there is pressure now a days for such a figure.so its up to the individual wat really counts to take from them for it is wat they r expected to b.but is it really necessary for the comman man whose day goes off fighting for his daily chores.its wat is expected of them tat make hem to maintain such a shape.so dont go by them,but b u r self and not b a copycat.
• India
18 Dec 09
hi nani , thank you for your response... you r right... beauty doesn't lie in the skin and it is in the heart and the behaviour of the person
• United States
8 Dec 09
To me, any woman is beautiful as long as she is healthy and happy with herself. I believe that a woman can be overweight and still be "hot and sexy" as long as she's healthy. Plus, who doesn't like some extra womanly curves?:) I don't think anyone, even the skinny girls, are really free from labels and stereotypes. I consider myself skinny- I'm 5'4, almost 5'5, and weigh 97 lbs. It's hereditary (got it from my mom, who's 5'7 and 105 lbs), people always tell me in the face that I'm anorexic or bulimic and that I need to go to a rehab. :/ Skinny girls are pretty self-conscious too! Sorry, I keep going off topic, but you get my point.
• India
18 Dec 09
hi friend , thank you for your response
• India
7 Dec 09
Yes it is true that people expect only women to be slim and trim and also tobe beautiful. I feel it is more in our country where they do not consider woman as they are. They also feel that a slim and beautiful woman captures the heart of her husband. But in my personal opinion beauty is but skin deep and it is the good habit and behaviour that can impress a person more than their slim and sexy looks. Happy mylotting.
• India
18 Dec 09
hi friend , thank you for your response... you are right ... beauty is not in the skin but inside their heart and behaviours
@neelimaravi (1794)
• India
7 Dec 09
hi priya, for me there is no problem to be thin or fat, actually i am thin, i have two kids, even though i won't look like two kids mother.. my hubby use to say if you become fatty then you look more beautiful..chubby cheeks like that... so, for me no problem, lets take what ever it comes..thankyou, have a nice day.
• India
18 Dec 09
hi neelima thanks for your response...
@veronizm (909)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
Hi priya! For me it's not about being fat or being thin. It's about having the right proportions for your body. I mean, a too skinny or a too fat physique is not only unattractive but unhealthy as well. Even for a guy, it's a big deal to me if my guy is either too skinny or too fat. I believe that having a balanced physique, with the right body proportions, is what that counts most at the end of the day :)
• India
8 Dec 09
thank you veronizm for your response. you are correct too skinny or too fat physique is not only unattractive buy also unhealthy.
@coolcat123 (4392)
• India
8 Jan 10
i agree, that the path of girls are harder in any sphere of life. People say girls look beautiful being thin and they give more importance to the beauty rather than the energy what fat people mostly have. thee qualities are ignored.
• Philippines
26 Dec 09
I don't think being fat or thin is the basis for being beautiful.for me,being beautiful is having a great personality.a person who treats other like crap is ugly.way,way ugly.who wants to be with a stuck-up who thinks s/he is God's gift to the people of the earth?a person who has a cheerful,funny personality is more fun to be around and more beautiful.also,I have read that when a face is deemed "beautiful",is is not really a beautiful face.it means that her/his face is symmetrical.her eyes,nose,mouth,cheeks,and face shape are right for each other.scientifically, a face deemed "beautiful" is not really "beautiful",it means his/her face is symmetrical.
@garybao (75)
• China
17 Dec 09
In my opinion, just for fat or thin, I think thin is beautiful, at least her style is hot and sexy. However, I think knowledge is more importatn for a girl. For a guy, maybe fat means strong.
• China
17 Dec 09
in my opioin, these girls may find their own prince at last,people may have different interests,some people may like "fat";some one may like "thin". girls need not care too much other's sight,the feeling of yourself is much more important.
• United States
13 Dec 09
I've seen friends of mine and family members get ridiculed because they're overweight. Yet I am ridiculed for being skinny. If you are healthy, you should be beautiful, in my opinion. My husband exercises more than anyone else I know and is vegan yet is overweight. But he's always been a big guy. Then I hardly ever weigh over 100 pounds but have never BEEN over 100 pounds. People assume I don't eat enough, but the people who know me best know I eat enough to consider eating a hobby. A person will never be perfect to others. It's what matters to you. People may think I don't eat...they may think I get no nutrition...they may look at my husband and think he's just an overweight slob, yet he bikes 20 miles a day and eats no animal products. It doesn't matter because it's simply not true and we know the truth about ourselves. In terms of society, it sickens me how often women are put down on the covers of magazines and in entertainment in general. "Has such-and-such lost herself?" showing a woman who has gained barely ten pounds. And you've got these scantily-dressed women on the covers of men's magazines where you can see their ribs...THAT is what society calls sexy? Excuse me, but society is simply wrong. If you are healthy, you're beautiful. Too skinny, too fat...even then, it isn't up to what other people think. Only you have control over your body. I started getting into modeling when I was around thirteen years old. I was much shorter then, but I was pencil thin. I remember going to a modeling convention and after a runway show, we walked around and met with different agencies. I was told over and over, "You're too short." Yet all the tall girls, even when beautifully thin, were told they could lose a couple of pounds. I remember hearing stories of young teenage models eating tissues to temporarily shrink their stomachs for photoshoots. It was disgusting, and I got out of it. Society says the thinner the better. But you have all these women starving themselves and men who suddenly think that big boobs and visible ribs is what makes a woman. It's little wonder that women think they have to keep shrinking. If all women were skinny and sickly, where's the individualism that makes a person beautiful? Where's the differences that make us human?
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
9 Dec 09
There is way too much emphasis on weight and physical beauty, in this country at least. Inner beauty shines through no matter how you are shaped. folks used to concentrate on getting to know a person instead of what they looked like. There are plenty of fat people who are very attractive, and plenty of thin people who are far from attractive. Look at the face and eyes; inner beauty will shine. through. My husband of thirty years was amazed to see I had gray hair not long ago. I have never colored it and have been gray for some time. He never noticed because he looks at me through love's eyes - still sees me as I was then. In the same way I was surprised to realize one day how overweight he had become. It is becoming a health concern, and that is what made me notice. Up until then I actually was not aware of the extra weight. I saw him through love's eyes. I agree with your other responders. Healthy and happy should be our goals, not physical fad and fashion. The more of us who practice this, the better.
• India
8 Dec 09
That doesn't matter to me, If the girl is attractive and nature is good, I vil like her, first pref goes to character, nature, behavior and all that stuff, next comes beauty and all.
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
hola priyavivek.. honestly im obese because of this i have many insecurities in life.. ive done many workouts but nothing happen.. but for its not whether being fat or thin its the attitude that really counts to be beautiful inside and out..
@dong88 (796)
• China
8 Dec 09
Hello! I believe that the girl's beauty does not depend on fat,thin.Why? Because there is fat fat beautiful,thin with thin beautiful mainly in health!As long as healthy,dignified,well-proportioned body is beautiful!
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
For me thin is good because fat is not good the way they walk,they dress thin is flexible in anyway specially they travel don't have many set's to covered.
@fatih02 (39)
• Indonesia
8 Dec 09
I think these issue is right, as a boy i feel that if there is a fat girl i don`t like that, because i think the performance is important one for the girl, although the inner beauty of girl is the most imortant thng that girl must have. But if you think realistis a thin girl is more interisting than fat one.
• United States
8 Dec 09
I think the most important thing is to be a healthy weight for our own bodies - I don't think anyone is really that attracted to either emaciated or hugely overweight, I think maybe there is something in us which IS attracted to 'healthy. Its possible to be skinny and look really unhealthy, with dull skin and hair, etc, and likewise the other way. I am overweight and I know, however much people say it doesn't matter, there HAVE been people, and work situations etc where I have been judged accordingly - where my intellect or talent has been underestimated because of my appearance. There is definitely a certain level of 'acceptable prejudice' still in existence towards overweight people, and I think men suffer it too, but women more so, in terms of the societal ideals put upon them.