Repetitive mistakes..what do you call this,or how would you address the concern?

@jaiho2009 (39001)
Philippines
December 8, 2009 3:55am CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters, This very moment my daughter arrived from school and telling me this. "Mom,my classmate is crying this morning,becoz,her mother is pregnant" My eyebrow raised wondering and i said..."so?" The story goes like this. "My daughter's classmates had two half brothers with different fathers. And now again,her mom is pregnant from another man again,so,it means,if the child will be born...there will be four kids with one mother from four different fathers" I smiled while thinking about this. I think how stupid she is,but i want to give her justice,maybe,she is just too generous to fall in love and not to learn her lesson from previous relationships. What is your opinion about this matter dear friends and mylotters?
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7 responses
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
8 Dec 09
Hi jai! I can only say that the 'woman' is either naive or great. Bringing up four children from different fathers is an uphill tasks and facing so many question is also not an easy task, which a bold and couragous woman can only do.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Hello dpk, Well,if i am her sister,i will surely give her a big bang on her head. She is selfish...her daughter is now suffering from emotional stress,becoz of shame. I am not in any position to judge her...but,if ever she happens to be my sister...really,really i would take her to the best psychologist in town. I know it needs a lot of courage to raise 3 kids and one coming on the way from different fathers. there were will lot of questions soon to arise when the kids grow. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
9 Dec 09
I did not know that she is your sister, please do not take my response otherwise. I just said what I considered right.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
no no dear,she's not my sister. what i am saying is..."if ever" If ever she is my sister...
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Hello my bonita mia there is only adjective I could describe that mother, she's simply irresistible....
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
....i mean ONLY ONE adjective....
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
Hello Martin, That's good of you...hahahaha. I think so,she's really irresistible(phew)!!! You made me smile amigo(really..hehehe) have a good day always dear
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Yes my bonita mia...I think you're also an irresistible woman..( if I knowwwww!!!!) Have a nice day bonita....take care..
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@Khushi309 (139)
• India
9 Dec 09
i dont want to give her justice at all. i agree that she is stupid i also say that she is being unfair to her other children in doing stuff like this... she should be ashamed of herself, take some control of her life and not to so desperate for love and affection as to fall for such things again...
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
Hello Khushi, I do understand your opinion friend. yah,she's really stupid,she only thinks of herself,and having kids with different father is not easy. It is the kids who suffers most in this kind of situation. She should think about her kids,and not think for her own pleasure alone. I hope she will learn her lesson,and would think for the betterment of her kids future. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@allknowing (69508)
• India
9 Dec 09
If she has married all these guys after legal divorces then nothing wrong but this point has not been clarified.If that is not the case I am surprised that you have doubts whether this is a normal behaviour or not!! It sure is a crime of sorts. Preiti my female dog behaves better.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
hello allknowing, She's married with the first one and got separated,and with the second and third relationship,she's not married to anyone. I was a bit amused with her behavior,having few relationships i think is normal,but having kid for each relationship is not normal i guess. If she likes to have a lot of babies from different man,well,it's her choice. But,the kids might suffer emotionally with this kind of situation,and,the mother must be considerate with the kids feeling. I wish she will learn her lesson,before it's too late. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
9 Dec 09
I know a couple people like that and I think it's basically just being careless. I heard of (a few years back) about a woman that had 6 kids and has maybe had some more since, but she made a lot of money a month in child support off of these kids and they didn't want for anything and she made enough that she didn't have to work. I do feel sorry for these kids, having different grandparents and ending up with better gifts for holidays and birthdays, being treated different and being able to do different things with their father's side of the family that the others don't get to do. How do those kids feel when their dad can't take them for a weekend and the rest of the kids are gone? I think kids in a predicament like that are the ones that end up feeling a lot of rejection in their life. I think the mother should really think about birth control rather than what is going on in the heat of the moment.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
Hello mzz, It would be fine,if each father is giving the kid financial support,but,what if they're not getting any,(ugh)it will be hard for the mother and also with the kids. I agree with you,it is the child who suffers most in this situation. Imagining each kid with different father,so much confusion and even shameful to the kids part when the society will judge them. I just hope so that the mother will ever learn her lesson and will give some consideration with the kids emotional feelings. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@zahidz (311)
9 Dec 09
relationship with four men is may be a normal but having child with all four is really strange thing,may be that mom just love to have child with also wanna enjoy this life. but this habit will effect the children and no good at all for small ones also. some people really care about only them self not about their relationship which cause a real pain and specially children just get disturbed due to their sensitive nature. May God Bless those children Ameen!
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
Hello zahidz, I know what you mean friend. I agree with you,having few relationship is normal,but having kids for each relationship is not. yah,she maybe loves to have kid from each relationship,but she must consider her kids feelings too,and not think for herself alone. The sufferer here are the kids,for surely there will lot of questions from their friends and society too. It will somehow affects the kids emotionally. thanks for your response and have a good day always
@Sreekala (23718)
• India
8 Dec 09
Hi dear, It is sad to know about the kids and they are suffering actually. I don’t want to comment about the lady it is purely her personal choice which is not possible for me at any cost. She should learn to do some sacrifices for her kids otherwise what is the value of the word ‘mother’. Hope her kids may be self-sufficient at the earliest.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
8 Dec 09
hello chechi, I am worried about the kids,her daughter(my daughter's classmate)was the eldest. I could understand that,she's suffering from emotional stress regarding her mother's situation and their situation. Having 2 half brothers from different father and another one is coming...i know the society were judging her mom,and that's driving the young lady to feel ashamed. I just hope her mother will grown up,and would live a better life,for the sake of her kids. thanks for your response dear and have a good day always