What if I don't want to go?

maybe you can have a try.every baby is an angle.

Oh gosh, I am sorry about your loss. I understand your reason for not wanting to go to the baby shower. We tried so hard to have a second baby for the longest time . . . it was hard when everyone around us was pregnant. I didn't want to hear any news of people getting pregnant when we were trying so hard . . . and I nearly cried when I saw people with preggo tummies. It is a personal thing - not something you would want or need to explain to everyone. You don't have to go to any event you don't feel comfortable going to. I think the money gift in a card is just fine. The excuse I've used before was that "I think I'm coming down with something" . . . meaning you're getting sick! With the swine flu and everything else out there - no one wants to get sick during the holidays - especially any pregnant women who are due - so I'm sure they'd understand.

I wouldn't tell her your personal business. Just tell her you have something else planned or just tell her you aren't going to be able to make it on that day. If you want to send her some money or gift card in a nice card you could do that and just mail it to her or take it to her on another day. I think it would be hard to go to a shower after having a loss too so I understand why you don't want to go.

hi, well... if you really dont want to go cuz of your own reason then you can tell your friend the truth. She would understand if she is a reasonable person. you know some people don't care what other people's situation... but I hope she does. Plus, your other friend that make you feel uncomfortable too then it is could be another reason. If you can't tell her that then, just dont show up on that day and then make a phone call from home and saying you dont feel good or pick up some emergency thing to tell her. hope it helps

You don't really need to tell her any of your personal business, just say that you've got something going on that day that you need to do. You have plans. Whatever. I sometimes find it hard to turn down requests - like birthday parties and showers and bachlorette parties, but the "Oh, shoot, I have to work that day!" line usually works pretty well. Be sure to send a gift (or drop it off) sometime, though, and a card I'm sure would be nice. (And be sure to say "I'm sorry I couldn't make it!!" That's what I've done in the past.) Anyway, you're not OBLIGATED to go to a baby shower, especially since you don't know the people in it very well. But I think a "I have plans" excuse, a gift, and a card would suffice just as well as your presence would.

Don't do anything you don't want to, never.. Life is supposed to be good, you have to do what you want, when you want and how you want it.. because it's your life, although this might not be possible all the time, you know what I mean, you should decide, and if you don't want to, just don't do it.. it's that simple.. Me, I don't want to work for money, so i just don't..it's that simple

You don't have to spill the beans to tell the truth! Be honest and tell her you will be sending a card and some money instead of attending the baby shower. Lengthy explanations can sometimes get you into more trouble than a simple truth.

Hello! Not very pleasant situation. I would say if you don't want to go, don't go! If you don't want to tell your persona thing to other prson, don't do that! It is such easy - just don't do it!!! Tell her that soething happened ...or that you just forgot that on that day you promised to go to a ...I don't know think something out! And remember - LIE IS SO SHORT!!! thant don't waste it by spending time on a things that that you don't want to do!!!! Good luck!!!!

due to a personal matter i don't want to attend your shower. i don't want to offend you but this is the way i feel. if she is a real friend, then she'll understand. if she gets angry after all this, then i don't think she's a true friend. If she is your friend then she will consider your feelings not just her own. All the Best.

It would be perfectly acceptable to send a card with some money and a short note saying that you are sorry that you were unable to attend this happy event with her but wish her the best etc. When I had my showers, some of my closest friends were not able to attend but did send a gift and a nice card. I did not feel in the least bit upset....I understood and I'm sure your friend will also.

simple. dont go. your friend would understand and so what even if she doesnt? you are not trying to hurt her by not going, you are just protecting yourself from hurt, and there is nothing wrong with that, trust me. if i were you, i will not go. this is a personal issue and i know you wouldnt like to tell everyone about it, thats perfectly normal. my advice, send her a card after... if she is your friend, she will understand that it must be some really important reason why you couldnt attend something that matters so much to her...

I know..sometimes its very hard to turn down requests especially parties weddings babyshowers etc..But if you dont want to go somewhere its really simple to get away from it..just give some excuses or reasons which seems legit like I've a lot of work to do or I've got another business which is very important to me or something like that..but it should not hurt anyone..Make sure you sent some gifts or cards for the event..

If it would hurt you/make you upset to go, then I wouldn't go. I know last year around this time, I had a miscarriage and after being so excited about expecting then losing our baby, it hurt to even look at baby clothes. It was even more upsetting because all of my boyfriends cousins, and one of his brothers were all expecting so I didn't even want to be around them. If they know about your loss they should understand, even if you don't say that's the exact reason. I don't believe you "owe" her a reason unless you're comfortable with telling her. Or just tell her you can't come and it's personal.