Do you think childcare provider can take care as the same way as the mother?

India
December 9, 2009 5:58am CST
The answer is an obvious 'no' which has been cofirmed by studies which reveal that a provider can cater to the physical requirements of the child,but cannot fulfill the emotional needs in the same way as a mother can. Support is important, but none can take the place of the mother, who is the most significant individual in the life of a child. Mother makes important contribution both, in deciding the career as well as the life of the child.There is no substitute to a mother for a baby.It is the mother who brings the child to this world after nurturing her for nine months in her womb. Please share the mothers role in your life?
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17 responses
@vathsala30 (3726)
• India
10 Dec 09
I do not think so. A mother is a mother. Apart from love and affection, she has got the motherly feeling which will be missing in the childcare provider. A mother is concerned about the child and is possessive about her child and his health. Where as we can not expect all these things in the childcare who will take money and do their duty. it is like the difference between we are doing our house hold work by ourselves very clean and the maid doing the work for money.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi Vathsala, Yes the correct example you gave doing our house hold work by ourselves and the maid. Mother simply superb.She is an great gift to the child from God. Thanks for your response.
• China
10 Dec 09
as a mother of a four year old, i absolutely feel that nobody can substitute the role of 'mother'. i really care her more than myself, and i cannot imagine any other one could be as caring and as sensitive as me to my own daughter.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi dinglover, Yes we also feel how great is our mother when we play that role in our life. Thanks for your response.
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
10 Dec 09
I agree with you completely that day care providers will never take care of the baby as emotionally as can be done by the mother. It is a fact that mothers are full of love, care , patience and emotions with the child. Mother is the only one who bears all the tantrums of the child. whenever the child cries, he is immediately sent to the mother by other family members. Mothers can scold a child but her love for her children is very deep. The emotional demands of the child will never be fulfilled by the Day care provider.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi bluray, I agree with you.I hate daycares.We pay evethough they cant satisfy. The only thing is atleast they must not hurt the kid. Mothers love is somtehing bond and special. Thanks for your response.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
For me no other best care than a mother of the child because she knows what the best for there children and have more patient to take care more.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi ebuscat, Correct mother is always best. Thanks for your response.
@mystone (42)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 09
Absolutely not! Every mother take care of their children with love and they want the best for them. I agree with you, that raising a child is not about the physical requirements only, but more important is to fulfill the emotional needs which best only could be given by a mother. This will effect their future and personality.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi mystone, Anyone can cater to the physical requirements of the child, but cannot fulfill the emotional needs in the sme way as a mother can. Thanks for your response.
@aguas_aj (501)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
I agree with you. Though caretaker or even grandparents can take care of the child. The mother is always the most important deciding factor in the child's life. Her love and support and nurturing will always be above every thing others can give. She will always be irreplaceable. That's why a mother should be responsible coz even in her action, she becomes the living example for the child
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi aguas_aj, Yes.No one can take place of the mother. Thanks for your response.
@Awsimo (5)
• Australia
10 Dec 09
My mother is prbablythe person who shaped my life the most, she introduced me to books, food, excersize, joy and most of all life! without my mother i wouldnt be who i am today. while i admire that childcare providers go out of their way to help children i believe they won be able to take the role of a mother.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi Awsimo, Absolutely right.Mother is always great.Without her nothing is there.We are lucky to have an mother with us.She is such an wonderful person and an great gift from god. Thanks for your response.
@drakesuyat (1064)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
i talked to friend one time working in other country about leaving her child into a childcare center while working. and only recently she found out that kids there including her child are being punched on their tummies to stay quiet. upon knowing it, she immediately brought her child back to our country and let her mom do the caring while she works back abroad. there is no doubt that mothers will always have that loving touch to their children no matter what. unfortunately for me, i'm a dad. but i sure know how to give care for my kids the same way a mom like you does.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi darkesuyat, Great to know that you give care for your kids the same way a mom does. Really feel so bad why in the daycare some persons behave like that as your friend faced.Now she dont want to worry also because left the kid to her mother.She will take care very well. Thanks for your response.
• United States
9 Dec 09
I have to agree with you and I feel the role of a mother in life is to be a mother. Personally, I dont plan to work when I get married and become a mother. I do have a Mary Kay business but that is flexible and something I will wrap around time with my children. Because I just feel stay at home Mom's are the best kind of child care a baby needs.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi phoenix, You are correct.Mother is the best person to take care. Your kid is so lucky then because you are spending the whole time with her.Thats great. Thanks for your response.
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
9 Dec 09
I think it depends on the childcare provider and the size of it. I worked in a few daycares and have seen different situations. The first one I worked at was my favorite. It was a small daycare and I worked the nightshift. I had the same 3 kids all the time 5 days a week. They are like my kids. I loved them and they loved me. They cried if I wasn't there and on my days off I stopped in just to see them. I remembered their birthdays and I took care of them like they were my own kids. Not all daycare workers get that personal with their kids.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi ravinskye, Happy to hear from you.You are simply superb.But no one i heard like this they take care as their own kids.The kids who were with u,their mothers are really so lucky to have you in the day care. Thanks for your response.
• India
9 Dec 09
It is really difficult to share my mother’s role in my life as all mothers and their children share the same story of love and sacrifice and a special place inside the mother’s heart which cannot be compared to anything on this world. Now I am doing my own bit for my son and in this way I think we women are luckier than men…by giving birth and taking care of another child, we at least get a small opportunity to repay a little of our mother’s contribution in our own life.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi sudiptacallingu, Yes as i discussed, mother makes important contribution and she isthe one who brings the child to this world after nurturing her for nine months in her womb. Thanks for your response.
@samson1967 (7423)
• India
9 Dec 09
Mother is a living God on this earth, and there is no substiture for mothers love and kindness!!!
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi, You are absolutely correct i agree with you. Thanks for your response
@SViswan (12095)
• India
16 Mar 10
Though I do agree that no one can replace a mother....I have also seen women who just do not have the mother's instincts. I've worked at a school (with young children) and we also had a daycare centre along with the school..and I know first hand about this. No one's to blame..it's just that we assume based on the majority that a mother 'knows' how to handle kids...but not everyone is able to do so and sometimes...childcare providers do a better job. Having said that...I don't think anyone can take my place with my children...and even if I'm willing to have household help...I wouldn't leave my kids with a childcare provider or my house with a maid for that matter. I quit working a few months back to be home for my children.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
Nothing can replace the care of the mother, because she knows everything about her child's feelings, wants and needs.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
13 Dec 09
Hi, For child carers our kids are another pay check.They don't care about the kids well being as they can't take up teh role of mothers.I introduced Childcare to my little girl when she was ten months old so that I could get back to work,but it didnt work well for either of us,At work I was always thinking about my baby,therefore I resigned and now I am a full time mommy to two beautiful kids and enjoying every minute of their growing up period
@bellis716 (4807)
• United States
10 Dec 09
As a rule, a stay at home mother is best for a preschool child. However, there are some women who, although they gave birth to a child or children, do not have the required emotional bond to the child. Some may have that emotional bond but not the required knowledge. Child care can be learned, if the woman cares enough to learn, but without the emotional bond, the child would be better off under someone else's care.
@drakesuyat (1064)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
i talked to a friend one time who is working abroad about leaving her child in a childcare center while she works in the office. and only recently that she found that kids there including her child are being punched on their tummies to stay quiet. upon knowing it, she immediately brought her child back here in our country and let her mom do the caring while she work back abroad. there is no doubt that mothers will always have that loving touch to their children no matter what. unfortunately for me, im a dad. but i do know how to take care and give care for my kids the same way a mom like you does.