Would you pay to go to someone's wedding ?

@ronnyb (6125)
Jamaica
December 9, 2009 11:39am CST
My co-worker today today jokingly said that I would need to pay to come into is wedding and it got me thinking that maybe this wouldnt be a bad idea.I mean many people rack up some serious bills to pay for food ,venue ,dresses ,services etc so it would be nice to know that after all the honeymoon and lovie dubbie and kissie ,you will still have money to start your happily ever after.In addition this may be a way to keep off all the freeloader whose sole purpose is to eat as much food as they can eat and dont even stick around to clean up. Now I hope I dont seem like the wedding grinch who is trampling on such a wonderfull institution because I do believe in marriage and I dont even think I could charge for mine but it is a logical suggestion though.Oh and in my defence I wouldnt charge my really close family and friend,joking lol. What is your take on this situation ?
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@suzzy3 (8362)
13 Dec 09
I thought we did in buying a present for them for the home.I think it is quite normal to for everyone from the family to help out with the wedding expenses these days.I have come to one conclusion these days people expect too much they have forgotten what the true meaning of marriage is love and life time companionship.Not a great big ceremony that no one can really afford anymore and may spend up to five years paying back.We married in a registry office spent hardly anything all our friends came and it was a wonderful day.
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@machizmo (279)
• United States
10 Dec 09
It is a good idea, considering how expense alot of wedding receptions. I would charge a fee to anyone not related. It would help bring income to pay for the wedding and possibly allow the bride and groom money for their honeymooon.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
10 Dec 09
hi ronnyb,I wouldnt charge any money for my wedding and it wouldnt be great if all the guests habg around with the receipts that they have paid the entry fee .Rather its up to them if they wish to gift me on the occassion that would be better rather than billing all my wedding food bills on them.Afetr all your first marriage is so important in your life right and what would you do if all of your friends skip your marriage coz if at all you charge them .gud day.
9 Dec 09
I would ask for money instead oif gifts for the people that were going tio buy gifts. The reason is this, me and my partner have lived together now for around 2 years, we have everything we need for our place therefore the gifts we would get would be for setting up home whuch we have already done. Money wouod just be a better option for us in our setting but no I wouldnt make people pay just instead of gifts money would be better!
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
9 Dec 09
You have made a good point ,the two of you dont really need gifts but money would be better
• China
25 Dec 09
In chinese now almost no people take gifts to take part in somebody's wedding.Money is the gifts.And it make one feel difficulty if he/she haven't money.Because if the money you send is little you will feel ashamed.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
15 Dec 09
Well I know of a few friends that have taken weddings out of country and said you are welcome to join us the wedding package we booked is such and such per person. Most family members and friends pay their own way to go on the trip.
• United States
10 Dec 09
I agree, Instead of being stuck with gifts that you may not even like, I would rather have the cash, I can at the minimum cover expense afterall a weading costs a bomb..... and by getting peaople to buy their seat at the weading u only get the people who actully care instead of all the freeloaders rite ???
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
10 Dec 09
In some countries it's a custom for the attendees to pay money when they go to the wedding ceremony. Where I live it's mandatory, and that makes me consider avoiding being invited to friend's weddings...
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
Hi. I'm open to the idea though I never have prior experience similar to that. Just in case, that would be my way of helping the newlyweds to recover part of the food costs. Here in the Philippines, however, I've noticed that most people insert a small card on their wedding invites stating that they prefer to receive cash in lieu of other material things as they already have most of the home appliances they would be needing in the future. I did not do this in my wedding a year ago but my husband and I were surprised that 95% of our guests have given us cash gifts instead of wrapped material things. It really helped us a lot because we were able to recover more than 150% of our wedding expenditures. Because of that experience, I now give cash gifts instead of wrapped things to help my friends or relatives better.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
10 Dec 09
My step sister did this at their wedding reception. It wasnt a lot and it was for covering some of the cost of the food and beverages. That can be understandble.