cheating men

@esrine (35)
Bahamas
December 9, 2009 11:51am CST
Shuold i stay with a married man if he is cheating on me with his wife and another woman?
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21 responses
• United States
10 Dec 09
I would not to me you would always be that other women and really if he is seeing you plus another and is married he is not ready to settle down yet. Now this is my opinion and I do not know how you are together if you get along and he treats you good he may be for you but if he is only around for a booty call it aint worth it to me. Take care and let us know un update if you can.
• Canada
10 Dec 09
Why are you with a married man? Where are your values and morals? What do you mean "cheating" with his wife??? If this man will cheat with you, he will cheat on you. Open your eyes and smell the coffee. Sorry, but I call it the way I see it.
@raisur (423)
• Bangladesh
14 Dec 09
hi esrin, what should i write new here? see, the all previous responses think that the guy is not really cheating on you, rather his wife... i will also go with them... anyway, the guy is a cheat anyway, and would surely cheat on you too if you were with him... so, i also suggest you to ditch him... can you? happy myLotting...
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
14 Dec 09
Ok, you are with a married man, who is not your husband, but married to someone else. And you are wondering if you should stay with him even though he's cheating on you with his wife. Assuming I'm getting this right... You made the choice to sleep with a man who is married to someone else. So he's not really cheating on you is he? You knew he was taken? Perhaps you did not know, but you didn't get married first which would have prevented this situation, right? In either case, you have to determine if you are alright with the choices you have made, or not. What he does clearly didn't bother you before.
@sasalove (1710)
• China
11 Dec 09
Hi Esrine, I think you have the answer already, why you still issue the question here? I think you must love the man very much and want some excuse to stay with him. Cheating men surely did not deserve your love, moreover he is married already. Why do you want to step in such a relationship? If I were you, I will not donate any love to such kind of guy who did not deserve it utterly.
@irishidid (8563)
• United States
11 Dec 09
He's not cheating on you. You have no claim to him. Only his wife does. The only one being cheated on is the wife.
• Malaysia
11 Dec 09
Hello.. My honest opinion is..u should never stay with him again. Firstly he was a married man. Of course he has wife and also children i guess. better you ended the relationship and just become friend with him. Maybe someday he will cheat on you..(hopefully not) because he has experience is cheating woman,(including his wife)..
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
10 Dec 09
No disrespect but first of all he is not cheating on you; He is cheating on his wife whatever the circumstance. I know he is probably told you they sleep in seperate beds or maybe just having problems. Don't believe it girl until you see them divorce papers. Another fact, If he is doing all of this monkey business now, chances are he will do it later.
@Red0426 (23)
• Canada
10 Dec 09
And your 43 years old and asking this question??? I thought you were much younger.....
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
10 Dec 09
First of all he is cheating on his wife with you and another woman. Why even question if you should stay. You probably know deep down you should leave him. If he is cheating on his wife he would cheat on you if you ever were his wife. He already is and your not even married to him. How could you ever trust him? Cheating with one woman is bad enough but two is beyond belief.
10 Dec 09
I must say you do like to live close to the edge. Of course he is cheating on you he has done to his wife and a dare say to other women as well. What exactly did you expect
• Canada
10 Dec 09
I think you answered your question by stating it. First of all, don't date a married man. If he is dating you what makes you think he is going to be faithful to you if he is not even being faithful to his wife? You will always be the other woman, until he finds another other woman. Might sound harsh but it's the truth. Pull up your dignity and self worth and date a man who is going to be 100% there for you.
@dpk262006 (56170)
• Delhi, India
10 Dec 09
Hi esr! If you feel that you are being cheated and you can prove the same there is no point nurturing your relations with a man, who has some dubious character. Your life, character and your sentiments are also important and have its own value and no one has any business to take you for a ride.
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I would dump him immediately. First, you don't know if it's only three women he is involved with...no telling what STD he might pass along. Secondly, he has a history of cheating on people and that isn't going to change...he likes having many women and doesn't want just one to love, honor and cherish. Do you really want a man that can't keep his pants zipped and be faithful? My best friend's husband cheated on her, and it has broken her heart and destroyed the marriage. She is in the process of getting a divorce, and she has spent many many hours crying on my shoulder. She has suffered enormously...from the pain of his cheating and the humiliation of finding out from others about the cheating. Being on the string of cheaters is bringing hurt to another person... The man obviously doesn't know what the word "faithful" means...
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
hey esrine.. im guy but il try to put myself in your shoes so that i may be able to answer your question.. if i were you, i wouldnt have had a relationship with a married guy.. i mean thats not right.. i despise people who cheat on their relationships especially married ones.. they do not value the vows that they made when they got married.. and i think you should save some respect for yourself and as soon as possible try to stay away from that married guy.. imagine, if he can cheat on his wife, would that mean that he can cheat on you too?? you never know maybe you're not the only woman he has behind his wife's back.. that guy is a total waste of time.. believe me.. leave him right away.. and there are many eligible guys that arent married out there.. so maybe you should go with them.. best of luck to you.. have a nice day.
@IamSamm (75)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 09
Gurl , a men who cheat with you will cheat on you! enough said You deserve better :)
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
9 Dec 09
Don't you have that a little backwards? I think it should be he is cheating on his wife with you and another woman. I don't think you should stay with him. I think it's bad that you are with him and you know that he is married. If by some miracle he decides to leave his wife and choose you, would you ever feel safe that you are the only one? Most likely he'll cheat on you too. He already is now since in addition to cheating on his wife with you he also has another woman.
• United States
9 Dec 09
I'm sorry but you saying... he is cheatong on you with his wife... sounds all wrong. Obviously he is cheating on his wife with you. He is married to his wife.. therefore.. technically.. he can't be cheating on anyone withi his wife. Anyways, shame on you for involving yourself with a married man. I cannot stand women like you who think it is okay to get between a man and his wife and be okay with it. Do you not feel bad that his wife is probably going to be incredibly hurt by his infedelity? Its wrong for him to be cheating but why even get caught be one of the women in the first place? If you have no care for his wife then by all means, stay with him. But hes a cheater. He will never devote himself to you entirely.
• Malaysia
9 Dec 09
a woman should be able to understand another woman's heart. Man who cheat on their spouse or partner can't be trusted 100%. I wouldn't dare to get close with a married man nor do I want to ruin another woman's marriage @ relationship.
@sredith (239)
• United States
9 Dec 09
That depends on what your expectations are from this man. It's quite clear that he is not exactly of the best moral character, seeing three women at once. If you don't expect a great commitment from him, and you don't care about the feelings of his wife or the other woman, then by all means, stay with the man. But you do need to realize that even if you know you're not the only one in his life and are comfortable with that, the other parties may be hurt from this. Staying with him could also tarnish your reputation. These are all things to consider.
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
9 Dec 09
HI, just want to get it right... are you dating with a married man? and he is still with his wife and also he has another girl? so total 3 girls with him right now? if so, of course you can say he is a cheater. But if he still with his wife... and you still dating with him, then you are wrong. We shouldn't involve with a married man or woman. It sounds like we destroy someone else family. If someone does this to you then you will be hurt