I really need to lose some weight!! Any advice?

December 9, 2009 3:05pm CST
Since having my 3 kids and getting married, the weight has slowly crept in. I am no longer the size 10 I once was and its actually starting to depress me a bit. Trouble is I have a sweet tooth. My sweet tooth always lets me down when I try and diet. I don't need to lose a lot, I just need to lose a bit and be able to keep it off without falling back into the routine of eating too much chocolate. Has anyone any pointers as to what I can do to stop cravings when I am on a diet?
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@Orea15 (281)
• United States
10 Dec 09
Much of this is a mind game. Make a little list of the reasons you want to lose weight. Make them as compelling as possible. This is personal, you don't have to show it to anyone, so feel free to write down the most important things that are closest to your heart. Review this often, preferably before you decide what to eat. Studies show that if you write down what you eat, you have a much better chance of success. I know this is true for me! This doesn't need to take more than a few minutes a day. You may need to count calories for a while as you do this, to see where they are slipping in too much. Plan for your treats, so you can enjoy them without guilt. They taste better that way! I have a mentor who shared these thoughts with me:Ask yourself, am I trading what I really want for what I want right now? ABC: All Bites Count! If hunger isn't the problem, food isn't the answer. Stick with mostly protein and produce, and a couple of serving of low fat dairy, plus some high fiber carbs. Avoid drinking beverages with calories. They don't satisfy like solid food does, but the calorie count mounts up fast. Drink plenty of water. I hope this helps!
10 Dec 09
Thanks, I will be buying myself a notebook tomorrow especially to see what I am eating. I am sure my diet isn't bad, but I still put on the weight so I am going wrong somewhere =/ If I write it all down I can see exactly where I am going wrong. Not sure I can stick to certain foods, as I would just give up after a few days. But of I can monitor how many calories I am having every day then I can work on making it less. Trouble is I like my food, when I diet I get cranky, so I need to find a way to diet without sacrificing too much of what I enjoy. My hubby hates me going on a diet, because he says I am moody on a diet and he reckons I don't need to diet though I totally disagree with him. Thanks for the advice I will be taking some of it.
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@Orea15 (281)
• United States
11 Dec 09
I found it was a real eye opener when I started looking up the calories in things I ate. I thought I had a decent idea, but I was way off on some things. For example, there is this sandwich I like at a local restaurant. It had over 1,000 calories! And that didn't count the chips and drink that came with it. I spent about two weeks periodically screaming, no wonder I'm fat! LOL This exercise will help you find out which foods work well for you in terms of being a caloric bargain, that is, they satisfy you for relatively few calories. I learned to tweak my recipes to reduce calories, too. I developed a recipe for a pot of chili with very lean ground meat, lots of vegetables and some beans. It is delicious and only has between 200 and 250 calories per cup. And it fills me up. When you are eating well in the way I described, and start seeing the scale go down, and your clothes getting looser, you stop feeling grumpy and actually feel better mentally and physically. Oh, and another thing that really helped me was something a dietician said: "Look for easy ways to cut 100 calories." That adds up! I'm down 77 pounds and still have a way to go, but this works.
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@AnnaB7 (757)
• United States
12 Dec 09
When I started doing that recently it helped me a lot, because now I can see how I gained so much weight, it has also helped me to learn about portion sizes which are a lot smaller than most people want to believe. I think food can be a security blanket for many people, and that is why people gain so much weight, because they want security or friendship, and find the most comfort from eatting fattening foods which leads to depression, which can lead to more over eatting and end up with more weight gain and a very bad cyle of weight gain.
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I always keep count of calories and if you go to prevention.com or sparkpeople.com they have some great calorie trackers there and you can keep track of your goals there. If you go check them out, they have a lot of tips for losing weight and a lot of other people are there for support. Not only do they have calorie tracking but also how many calories you burn, ways to reach your goals, etc. Drinking water is the biggest thing, I think....a lot of times when we think we're hungry, we really aren't...we're thirsty and we just can't differentiate between the two.
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10 Dec 09
Thanks I will check those sites out, they sound really useful.
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@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
10 Dec 09
Personally I like sparkpeople it has more tools to use on it but just like anything else, the more there is the longer it takes to get to know your way around. Both are great as long as you keep up on them once you decide on one. I can't always get online so I keep a little pocket sized notebook with me to keep track of what I eat, drink and any activities and add it later. I did realize its unbelieveable how many calories you eat when you're not paying attention
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
10 Dec 09
A friend recommended this & I thought NO WAY...but it worked. Have your husband or a friend take a picture of you naked. Attach it to your favorite bag of candy (in my case the refrigerator) so it's the first thing you see when you go to get a piece of candy. It will make you STOP & think what you really want to look like. It's a shock EVERY time you "want" a piece of chocolate & your wants becomes MUCH LESS of a need!!! My doctor suggested I have what he called one "cheat" day a week. I wouldn't allow myself to eat ice cream (my poison) 6 days a week. On day 7 I was allowed to eat ALL the ice cream I wanted...that is...until I got SICK!!! It was hard at first, but psychologically I could wait knowing I could eat ALL I wanted in just a few days. This might work better for you since you have children in the house to find the picture. The picture worked best for me, but I was single & living alone. The "cheat" day worked too. After eating NO sweets for a week, I found the sweets became too sweet when I did eat it!!! The sweets became so yucky that I couldn't eat enough to become sick. I thought I'd eat a gallon of ice cream at one sitting & I was sick before the end of one bowl. So, I cut down from 3 bowls a day to ONE bowl a WEEK!!! Going from 18 bowls to one bowl was quite a savings in calories without even having to count!!!
10 Dec 09
I really like both ideas, though the first one won't be possible due to the kids. lol I wouldn't want to shock them! But having one day a week where I can treat myself is a really good idea. I think it might even stop me getting so cranky when I am on a diet, because I will have that day to look forward to. Plus physiologically I am not banning myself from the stuff I like. Chocolate is my downfall. I am sitting here now indulging in a bar of galaxy knowing full well its not helping =/ But I will be buying a notebook and writing down what I am eating from tomorrow. Thanks for your ideas
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@LadyMarissa (12162)
• United States
11 Dec 09
Well, I was thinking back to what worked best for me. Then it dawned on me that you have children & it really wouldn't work well for you!!! It was my MOST effective diet I must say. The word DIET makes me hungry!!! I hope the writing everything down works for you. That one did nothing for me as I already knew what the problem was & I just needed a way to STOP my problem!!! I'd eat breakfast & mid morning I'd have 3 scoops of ice cream. I'd eat lunch & mid afternoon I'd eat 3 scoops of ice cream. I'd eat dinner & before bedtime I'd eat 3 scoops of ice cream. My defense was it's ONLY 3 scoops. Well it WAS ONLY 3 scoops...at a time. So going from 56 scoops a week to 3 scoops a week worked wonders. Then after getting down to 3, I managed to cut it down to 2. Now I only have 1 per week!!! The "cheat" day kept me from feeling deprived!!! Losing weight is a very personal thing. It's ALL in what works BEST for you!!!
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Dec 09
When I lost weight I counted calories, a pain I know, but at least you know how much is going into your body. And recently I stopped using artificial sweeteners. And when I did that, surprise, I stopped having as many cravings and didn't eat as much between meals. good luck...
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10 Dec 09
Thanks. I tried this before and it worked. Though unfortunately I put the weight back on as soon as I stopped counting the calories =/ Seems its about a life style change not just a quick fix, I don't think I could count calories forever =(
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@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
9 Dec 09
dont cut yourself off totally because then you will want to just pig out. my advice is to eat small portions of the things that you like and eat small meals. i also drink a lot of water and have lost 10 lbs since the summer.
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10 Dec 09
I must drink more, I know it helps you feel full so stopping the cravings. I have a real sweet tooth though and water just isn't the same. =(
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@besthope44 (12145)
• India
1 Aug 10
Exercise out doors as far as possible. There are two advantages of doing whatever you are doing out side. One advantage is that it gives your body a chance to get a lot of the much needed fresh air and sunshine. The second advantage is that the surroundings keep you perked up and it is a break form remaining cooped up all day lon
@AnnaB7 (757)
• United States
12 Dec 09
If you want to loose weight, you have to set your mind to do it, and then just do it. I know easier said than done. But it is the truth. Most likely you already know everything you need to know to loose weight, but need motivation or energy. For me it has been both needing motivation and energy. And also fighting serious depression at times. However, I have lost a good bit of weight finally this year with barely any effort. And I have basically ate whatever I wanted to eat when I wanted to eat. I've only done one thing different. That one thing is I've been going walking at night with my husband for at least an hour or so, and two more things I almost forgot, I also have been drinking water, I really hate water so this is significant. And also I have started using Stevia, (a natural sweetner) instead of sugar, I've been avoiding sugar as much as possible, and also avoiding things I know will trigger me into eatting a lot more than I should. And last I've been working on limiting the portion sizes I have, on most things unless it is a very low calorie type food, for instance I limit breads, and sweets, but I don't limit cabbage, lettuce, spinach, popcorn. And I don't drink soda's. Just doing the above I've lost 95 pounds in six months, and have not even had to think about it really. I have a friend who has basically decided her own diet and is now within 10 pounds of her goal weight of 120 she was a little over 200. She also has added lots of exercise to her weekly schedule, sometimes her exercise is just walking. As for cravings, avoid them if you don't eat the foods you are craving for a few weeks, you will loose your taste for them, that has been my experience anyway. Also just decide that all food is ok, and is healthy, in moderation, because if you take the view that all food is bad or all food is causing or may cause you some problem or other based on the latest study, then you end up frusterated. And last don't go in for fad diets unless you want to eat exactly like prescribed in that fad diet for your whole life and that would be unhealthy.