Regretting for not listening to your friends/family's advice?

@jaiho2009 (39079)
Philippines
December 10, 2009 1:19pm CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters, Is there any incident/s in your life that you ever regretted for not listening to your friend(s) or family's advice?. Let's say,you were facing some problem and you seek your friends and family's advice,and after listening/hearing to their opinion,still,you did not follow any of their advices,instead,you follow your own decision becoz you think it is still the best solution or choice to make. Just to realize that,it doesn't turn out to be that way,but made the problem become worse than expected. Have you ever experienced something like this friends? You can drop your comment in here
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10 responses
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
yes, hoewever, some issues can be solve by own will but an advise from elderly or good friends can be helpful. weigh things first before you jump up to conclusions.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello john, It is better to listen to others advice and opinion before making our final step. It is not necessarily to follow their advice,but listening to them will give us some better ideas too. And you right,weighing things before jumping into any conclusion will not hurt us. Thanks and have a nice weekend
@I_LUV_U (2503)
• India
11 Dec 09
No way, I believe I'm the best judge of my life and its course so I hardly listen to what others have to say except for in matters where others' opinion would be worth the consideration. I don't regret anything, I'm very gifted in this regard, as in I don't brood over the past as my belief in a bright future is undying and I have always taken things in my stride in relatively short span. I might have made mistakes but they have lead me ultimately to the right path so I can't regret them in the bigger picture.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello, Well,that's good of you that you are gifted enough to make your own decision in life. While other people are too much dependent from other's advice. Making mistakes and learning from it is a good way of learning real experience lessons in life. Much with our own awareness,that no advice book can ever teach us. Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend
• United States
11 Dec 09
I have had this happen to me many times where I wish I had listened to my family and friends. They were always right about the men that would come into my life and then things would just get nasty from there and many times I would almost end up homeless due to the stupidity of my young days and well I had to learn from the hard times/ways. Just glad things turned out pretty good.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello Tierras, It is not always too late to realize our mistakes for not listening from our family's advices. The good thing is,after all the bad times,you have learned to realize that,your family and friends loves you that much,that is why they are giving you such advice. And,you have learn to admit your mistakes too,not to commit it again. Now you know how to handle situations,and listening to our beloved ones won't hurt us. Thanks and have a nice weekend dear
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
11 Dec 09
We all have moments of regret in our lives. We can all look back on a choice or decision that was unwisely made. There will always be that one person who could have turned your course. Living with regret is just as difficult as not following the right choice.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello sender, Very good choice of words my friend. Precisely...living with regret is just as difficult as not following the right choice. And to follow the right choice never comes at last always,sometimes it is just in time to turn back and follow the right path. Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend
• India
11 Dec 09
This brings to my mind the very regrettable decision not to continue with my further studies against the wishes of my very dear teacher. I had graduated with quite good marks and my teacher had wanted my to pick up forms for master degree studies but I was more interested in getting a job and enrolled in vocational training and soon landed a job. However, now I regret that decision…jobs these days in most sectors are so so demanding and stressful but if I had gone ahead and done my masters, I could at least have become a teacher which is much less stressful
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello sudip, This is a very sad story from you,you wasted a better opportunity in your life. Maybe you are doing good for starting up having job at an early age,but,the opportunity for a better job is what you have missed in your life now. Being a teacher is one of the most honorable profession,without them,there could be doctors,engineers,lawyers,nurses and other courses without the teacher as the basic instructor for whatever knowledge we acquire from schools/universities. Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend
• United States
11 Dec 09
Not really. Many of my family members are in no position to give advice because their lives are completely out of control. I learn by watching my family make one mistake after another.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello rogue, At least,their lives is what you consider a good thing to be learned and not to commit same mistakes that they have done. I guess your family's life is worth enough to give you good advices my friend. Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend
• India
11 Dec 09
hi jaiho...i faced such couple of problems in my life but never my parents r involved in it but it ws my best frnd who was involved. She suggested to leave someone whom i trusted more than her. I dint hear her and cntinued my frndship with him but later i realized that she was right at making d decision about leaving the fella. Now i got to know that she is very keen about my wellbeing so i did it as she wished.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello dolly, You are so lucky to have a good friend who always sees your well being. Not all people are too blessed enough to have a good friend like yours. And sometimes it is so sad that we are taking our friends advice for granted,not knowing how they really care for us. Thanks for your response and have a nice weekend
@neildc (17268)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
11 Dec 09
unsolicited advice? i don't actually regret about that, but today, i look back and told myself that i should have not follow my own decision. when i was going to the technical school for the first time, my dad told me to take up computer technology. but i followed my heart to take electronics. although they are almost of the same field, computer is most advanced and it is more popular, in terms of jobs today. but at that time, computer is just, almost starting to get known. i finished my course but then, today i am not practicing it, but computer related work is where i am now. no regrets, because i already practiced electronics, for almost or over 10 years too. i planned to get a short computer course next year, just to get a certification, to at least say that i went to a computer school. i guess i don't really need to have it, just for at least i can have something to add on my personal data information.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
hello neil, At least it is almost of the same field,and it won't make you hard to take up some u computer course.And just like what you have said,it is just for formalities to be added on your personal data for future preferences.(preparing to work abroad?) Have a nice weekend amigo
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hello there, If there is one advice that i have deeply regret and never mentioned it to any one was my eldest brother's advice. that was getting a job early as possible, which i didn't, i couldn't tell him how regretful i was because i don't want to have him take his time to find me a job,like what he did before. i know it's too late and i promised mom that i will apply next year since this month is impossible.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello Letran, It's never too late i guess dear bro,you are still young and opportunities are still open for you. You still have a long way to go,at least you have come to realize the purpose for having a job. And i wish you all the luck dear bro...i know you will have one soon. Cheers
@mobhomeir (7567)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
Hello again my bonita mia...I guess this is the result of what I've just replied. Is this some kind of "learn from your experience" or something you regretted should you just listen from some other advises? Well, back to your question..definitely YES...I had so many experience about this but no regret.. But, to keep away the blaming, I would prefer to keep it on myself never telling the one who advised that I failed my decisions... I don't mind if she/he know it in the long run.... Better luck next time my bonita mia.... Mobhomeir
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Hello amigo, Uh uh,i know about it amigosometimes i also don't admit my mistakes for not following the advice given...but,after sometime,i do admit it(hehehe). But for some very personal cases,i don't usually seek advice,i made decision by myself,and after i failed...it is the time that i resort to asking advice from family and close friends. Have a nice weekday to start with my dear amigo