how do you avoid a fight when you're arguing?

Philippines
December 11, 2009 3:01am CST
Have you ever experienced an argument that ended up in a fight with a fried? Someties it happens, ad it does happen. . . How can we avoid it?
8 responses
• United States
19 Jan 10
I think that it's a good idea when an argument is getting too heated, to leave each other alone until cooler heads prevail.
• United States
17 Jan 10
For me, the best way to slow things down is to stop speaking. I alway have the intention of saying something selfless and unemotional. But, it often turns to me getting emotional/angry and trying too aggressively to convince the other person that I;m right.
• United States
11 Dec 09
Yes, I've definitely had arguments with my friends before that ended up with us not talking for a while, but we always manage to get back to being good friends. Though it doesn't happen that often, when it does, it's upsetting because someone always gets hurt. The way that I try my best to avoid arguments, usually over the silliest things, is to give in. I'm actually the type of person to want to keep debating and not give up so easily, so something like giving in is a little more difficult for me to do, but it does show that you're the bigger person because you're willing to put your own wants aside for the sake of your friendship with the other person. I think the best way to avoid arguments is to first detect if the conversation will go that direction. If it does seem like it, you should stop and move onto a different subject, otherwise it'll escalate into an argument. Don't continue; be the bigger person, even if you want to keep talking about the subject.
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Hi. Disagreements are inevitable in all relationships, including friendship. As much as possible, I try to maintain healthy arguments with friends. But if I sense that the arguments would end up to fights, I voluntarily withdraw from the discussion. I respectfully excuse myself. I value my friends so I don't want to do things I would regret later on.
• China
11 Dec 09
as everyone knows,it is embarrassing scenes in the fight .i do not like it is happen,i usually told myself to calm down whenever hear the words of unpleasant,and try to stand each other's point of view to think about,a conflict is not the fault of just one person or the other;they are often both to blame,because it takes two to tango
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• China
11 Dec 09
Calm down, leave yourself alone by the one your are angry with. It will help you to keep calm.
• India
11 Dec 09
Hi, I doesn't have an experience like this but my friends have a experience like this. I always advise my friends, to be calm. When we get anger, we will not recognize what we are doing. My suggestion is try to do yoga. So be calm at every moment. Life will loves you. Happy mylotting. Have a nice day.
• China
11 Dec 09
hi, roger, welcome to mylot ,well, I think that fight is not a best idea when we are arguing. I am friendly to all of people ,if that person is deliberately provocative, or we should forgive someone else's offense, lol, thisis just my opinion,I hope it can help you ,my friend, good luck .I think people should have mutual respect for each other.