Bi-Polar???

United States
December 12, 2009 2:26pm CST
So I have this friend who in the past has gotten mad at other people, me included, very quickly. She thinks that she might be bi-polar but I'm not sure if she actually is or if its just her personality to begin with. The biggest issue is she gets mad at the little details. She got mad at me one night cause I was joking about her always cooking dinner at midnight for her boyfriend that they never eat it. She also got mad at me because I turned on the light outside on because I was going to be home late that night. Right now we're actually not talking because I ended up going away for a week and all of a sudden she sends me a message saying that she's mad at me and she wants to move out. I tried to get her to wait to talk about it when I got back but all I got back was that I'm immature and we needed to talk about it then. I then tried to talk to her but instead she said she already got another place to live without talking to me about it. So I try to make the friendship work? At this point it doesn't seem like its worth it because she refused to talk to me for 2 months last year since I told her boyfriend at the time, who was also a good friend of mine, that people were posting pictures and talking about them because they were making out constantly in class.
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@honey023 (57)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
BI-POLAR is a psychological disorder which is having two phase..The manic phase and the depressive phase. Sign and symptoms includes moods swing and other attitude problems. I think your friend is not having a bi-polar.. She just have a attitude problem. To be specific your friend has a borderline personality!!! Just research about it..he he!! If you really want your friendship back again just try working hard with it, maybe someday she realized how lucky she is, having someone like you!!!
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• United States
13 Dec 09
I'll definitely research it and see what it comes up with. It might be something to mention to her for her to mention to her counselor. At this point I'd love to have her as a friend but I don't think she'll be as close as she was before. Trying to deal with her and fix things which take about 100x longer because of how she is just isn't what I need to be going through while I'm trying to graduate from school.
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• United States
12 Dec 09
It seems like you two are just quarreling a lot and that those issues need to be sorted out. I would be careful about jumping to any conclusions as to her being bipolar - I'm not an expert but I'm in a psychology class right now and to be bipolar it would have to severely affect your ability to function...i.e. staying up all night one night writing because you have so much enthusiasm, and then being so tired or out of it mood-wise that you don't want to get out of bed... Just my thoughts...
• United States
12 Dec 09
She's the one that just says that she's bi-polar and that is why she acts this way. It was her reasoning for her past arguments with everyone which is why I'm asking if it seems like she's bi-polar or if its just an excuse. I don't know much about it all I know it's suppose to make people go from one emotion to another and with her I think it might be more depression but she is either relaxed or mad/upset. I've rarely seen her really happy lately.
• United States
12 Dec 09
Yeah, it sounds to me like it is just an excuse she makes for her behavior. Good luck with it all!
• Canada
20 Dec 09
Sounds to me like she does have something wrong with her because she is unreasonable. She overreacts to things. She is too demanding. I think she should get checked out by a Dr. to diagnose her. Is it worth it? I guess it depends if you have already done your charity work for the year or not doesn't it? If she has already moved out and she was your roommate, then you are free...if you want to be....
• Canada
20 Dec 09
I was doing some research on Personality Disorders and found this. http://www.4degreez.com/misc/personality_disorder_test.mv
@LouieWpHs04 (4559)
• United States
13 Dec 09
Well, first of all. Bi-polar doesn't really exist. It's in your mind(In otherwords people that make themselves "bi-polar" are purposely doing it and can stop at any time.), and most certainly isn't a disorder of any kind. I've convinced numerous people of this. Sounds more like her personality then any sort of imaginary "disorder". I would say it's for the best that you two don't actually live together. However, if she get's so paranoid over the little thing's she's going to have a hard time living with.. well, anyone.
• United States
13 Dec 09
Yeah she found another place to live and I got one of my other friends to move in with me because of the situation. I couldn't handle it anymore and everyone just thinks how she is acting is getting really annoying. But she is living alone finally. Hopefully it works out for her and hopefully she doesn't lose anymore friends.
@snafushe (795)
• Canada
13 Dec 09
I'm bipolar before I've had my morning coffee, I'm sad to admit :( Sometimes I can fly off the handle, and I have a very quick temper. I have been on mood stabilizers before as my therapist thought I might have a chemical imbalance in my brain. They have helped, but there not for everyone.