Marriages are best if ?

For me, I will let them to choose their own partner because I believe marriage is maintained by both party. If they choose their own partner they will put extra effort to build their own family & happiness.

Well, in my home country there`s no such a thing as an arranged marriage, so I can`t really understand it as I have never met anyone who has passed through it. From my point of view, I prefer the person to have the right to choose. Marriage is not something mandatory in life, you don`t need to be married to be happy. That`s why I think people should be able to choose if they are going to have a partner or not and to choose the right partner. Only oneself can find the best match. Of course many marriages end up in failure, but making mistakes is a part of being a human.

Well, in my country, arranged marriages are extremely rare. I really can not imagine telling any of my daughters whom they can and can not marry. I couldn't even imagine anyone telling me who I had to marry. When your parents pick your partner, do you actually end up falling in love over time or do you just accept the fact that this is the way it is and deal with it? Do you just prevent yourself from getting close to and possibly falling in love with someone other than who it's been arranged that you'll marry? I'd be afraid of picking someone for my daughter that would not treat her right and I'd then be kicking myself forever. To me, marriage and love etc is a personal choice and even in failure, there is so much to be learned.

To tell you the truth one cannot be absolutely sure whether love marriage will work or arrange marriage.Love marriages can fail if the period of courtship becomes too long also.People start a relationship seriously and get married only to realize later that they were made for each other.In arrange marriage at least you can know the person gradually and with time love blossoms which might make the relationship stronger.There is no hard and fast rule to tell which one is better.

i am a chinese female. this year i had graduated. in the campus i had a boyfriend. but we had break up now. my age is suitble for marrige now in my village. some of us are also the arranged marriages. because sometime we can't find the right people to marry, although we have boyfrind or girlfriend. we usually give up our love in the case we are different regions. china is a widely country. the climate is vast regional discrepancies. for me , i cant adapt to the north climat, i give up my love and stay in my own proveince

hi,sukiwillbe,we have the absolute freedon to chose our own parner in my country,parents' suggestion just as an suggestion,but the most important is decided yourself.only you know the person is fit your talste or not,no one can tell you about this ,including your parents.we always chose ourselves,then be looked our parent ,listening their suggestion.

Well I think you put it best, you want your child to be happy with the right partner. Though many many relationships here in the west fail, most were based on people thinking they were marrying the right one and they were happy when they said "I do". I don't know if a marriage that is arranged would have that same feeling of love and passion but they may have a better understanding of the word committment. I think that I would not want a short marriage based on love and I wouldn't want a long marriage that didn't have that. So I think that the best way is that if two people do love each other that they wait and take marriage counselling to see if they have the ability to make a committment work for long term. I know that I can not and I have not gotten married though I was engaged three times. I think that though I have loved, I have not been able to give a committment. I think once I also have that then I will be able to do it. Marriage should never be taken lightly.

Yours is very simple problem.. Its matter of desire and its never ending point in human life. The basic thing is we need to love.. it will give us solutions for any problem. Arranged marriage or choosing a person your own does not matter but how long will you be loved one with those people is important that will give a way to long living life with them. So guide your children or any one to love people. Loving a girl or loving a boy is different that loving as humans. Changing their mind set in one way is wrong way of thinking. Choosing their right person with the best way (Love) is the correct way of guiding them.

For me so that you get a lesser failure in marriage you must let then to choose there partner by doing that you have the attitude of patient and humility to your partner. So lesser divorce to happened.

Never marry someone if both your heart and mind are not fully satisfied. Marriage is not a game, it is a serious lifetime commitment. We are supposed to marry someone because we loved him or her absolutely, no doubt, no reservation, voluntary and not because of what other people say. Parents may guide their children in a right way, but they don't have the right to dictate what a child's heart really desires and want.Traditions are good,they are part of our existence but they need not be followed always. Think first about your personal decision and desires before thinking about that old tradition.

I think it'll be better if you let your child choose who he/she wants. In our country we are given the chance to choose who we will marry in the future. I dont know. Ive never been to India yet. but I do know you practice those fixed marriages. I just hope for the best for you and your kid. :)