What is the role of a father in the upbringing of a child?

@cudamani (998)
India
December 13, 2009 3:03am CST
I think the role of a father in bringing up a child lies in his patience and perseverance. Many fathers fail in this aspect. Father should never lack patience. He should not at the same time shower affection and praises on the child openly. He should keep it to himself. Only a mother shows the affection openly. Father appears to be strict by controlling his emotions and affection. This does not mean that he is hard hearted. This is where a father has more responsibility than a mother.
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@zahidz (311)
14 Dec 09
Father role is also as important as mother.Father earns for children so children can go school well and educate them and support them till University and even after that if they needed and father is also a role model for their children. mostly children adopt habits and behavior of father intentionally or unintentionally so father must show a good character to children and also help them in growing a better human by giving love and understand to children,these days the young generation is so confused in world,religion,relations and almost everything,if father really help them in solving these things then things can be little easy for them :)
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
My father is also failed in that aspect he was distant and cold to us. Even when we are younger he don't have time to bonding with us and even to talk with us. We don't know how to be love by a father. Sometimes I feel jealous to some father that they show there affections to their kids because our father is not like that.
@hoodwinks (158)
• United States
14 Dec 09
yeah a father is to help the child to be able to hold their composer and teach them how to hold their composer as well. to be strong and to make sure guidence is presented properly. kids are great and deserve both parents to be happy.
• China
14 Dec 09
haha i don't think so i think we should have different ways to show our children that
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Both the mother and father are responsible for the upbringing and both have big roles on the child. But as this topic is about fathers, i think, not only the financial support, but also, the spiritual, mental, psychological and physical support should be given by the father to a child. A father should be a guide and good model, and if necessary a leader! Guide means, give the child options and path to choose, to the extent that the options will only be good options. Lead the child to be a great man in the future. Lead the child to be a responsible individual in the future. teach the child on how to do the right things right. Be a model of the child, as one who is a responsible citizen of the society. Teach and educate the child the true meaning of human's life in this planet. Be a best friend, a playmate, a dad, a coach, a model, a teacher, a leader and everything that will make the child a good and responsible individual in the future. But i guess, we should also ask this question, what are the roles of a child to their parents? The child also teaches the parents so many things and both should have an exchange of knowledge so that both of them will be a better person in the near future. It is like being on a school, it is not only the children who will learn, but also the teachers. I am a father now, and i am proud being one! I am doing all those things that i have mentioned earlier even if it is hard. Cause children are the future of this world and they are worth for that kind of treatment and lessons in life. Have a great day ahead.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
13 Dec 09
I think the role of a father is mutifacetted .He is a provider finacially and should lead his household by example with a firm but compassionate hand .He can show compassion without being hard hearted and when he makes a decision it should be based on facts and fair to all.He shouldnt be easily swyaed but his children should have no doubts that he loves them
• Australia
13 Dec 09
Hi cudamani. "Father appears to be strict by controlling his emotions and affection" I think this statement is at least partly because of a cultural difference, but please don't think I mean this in any offensive way. I believe a father NEEDS to show emotions and affection. Maybe this is influenced by the fact that I had three "fathers" - my birth father abandoned me and the others abused me in all ways. I CRAVED affection and received none and became a man hater. I have been involved in children's ministry for almost 50 years and possibly one of the most striking things I hear from children is that their fathers are cold and distant and never show any feelings towards them. The father bears the overall responsibility for the family and his children are the reflection of himself. He needs to show himself "human" to his children, with all the feelings and frustrations they have, and yet show that with maturity comes the ability to handle them. The old "boys don't cry" and "stiff upper lip" do NOT answer questions boys have, and is compounded when their sisters are treated differently. The main role of a father? To BE THERE for their children, to LISTEN and to give them confidence.
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
13 Dec 09
the role of the father has been know for the provision as well as moral upbringing of the child, however these days, fathers have learn't to change diapers, bath the baby and even feed them , i think the father has to play a role in all the physical and emotional development of the child
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
13 Dec 09
Nice topic! Well my opinion is that approach to a child depends on their genders. To my son i dont show as many emotions as i do to my baby girl, but still i love them both the same, i just do not show it in the same way. I believe that by doing that im building my daughter to be a sensitive and caring, and my boy to be more responsible and authoritive. Cheers!
@vandana7 (66816)
• India
13 Dec 09
Oh! my. :) One prescription doesnt fit all. I am like pomeranian, I need to constantly loved and cherished. :) And I need a lot of attention. :) I feel very jealous if my father praises another person's daughter. I want him to think god gave him the best daughter in the world. :) And he has resigned to his fate I suppose. :) He does all possible pampering, going and depositing cheques in banks, bringing cash, preparing morning tea, and coming to wake me up. I am quite shameless I suppose. :) Poor man, he is playing dual role - mummy and daddy. :) So it can only be like this. :) I lost my mom when I was five and a half years old. So he is habituated to it all by now. :)
@raj_ka (431)
• India
13 Dec 09
hi, The think is both parents must be affectionate and at the same time do not praise their children unnecessary which most of the parents are doing now adays. Once if he/she attains some good position in the society then the duty of parents ends and the child should look after them now. Its my opinion but in all cases this wont happen. I love my father and though he never cared in upbringing his children i care for him as without him we wont be there. Some father show too responsibilty and try to command their childrens life which is not a good thing as after sometime when he is not there the children may not know how to live or take any decisions in life. So a father should be a friend and should nt control life of their children but should care and affection.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
13 Dec 09
hum have to disagree with that. a father role is to take care of his family by working, and being there for his wife and kids, no matter what. father needs to show his emotions towards his kids as well be the one who hands displine as well. and a father should parise his kids when they do good, and affection as well. to me when a father who dont paris the kids when they do good it give the kids a wrong idea. with me i can only remember once my dad ever said he was proud of me, or parise anything i ever done right or good.
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Hi there, yes it is that father has a great role in bringing up a child. With his patience, understanding, perseverance, and being a role-model has something to do with the child's attitude and affect most of the child's total trait and personality. In my opinion, like mothers father should also show that they are very much proud to their child, it gives a lot of credit to a child that could help him/her boost his/her maximum best.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
13 Dec 09
Well,fathers should provide moral support for their kids and should give the confidence to back them in need.At the same time,he should allow the kids to take decisions on their own providing some important guidelines.He should be the first role model and teach them without words.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
13 Dec 09
I think father is the guide of a child. He guides and shows his child the way forward. Father helps in the personality development of a child. A mother develops the emotional aspect of a child. She makes the child understand what love, pain, happiness is. On the other hand father shows how to control emotion, he provides the child with the goods to survive in this world.
@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Hi cudamani,A role of the father in the up bringing of their children is to be a good provider to what the childs and his family needs. He is the father and the leader in the family.He acts as the supervisor in his family.His voiced are really honored by his wife and his children. But most of the time,the mother has the a big role in the upbringing of their children's habit or behavior,because she is always in the house to take care of their children, while the father are working to provide the needs of his family.Thanks,Good luck!
• India
13 Dec 09
hi cudamani i to believe the most important person it a childs up bringing is this father only he should be like a friend and a teacher all the life sharing and taking all the issues with the child that gives the child confidence in himself and the family so that he/she also apporch the parents any time he feels and so there is on communication gap which is the major problem in todays family. all the best